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     | Unrecorded Date This one is dedicated to all the good black women out there. Below is a letter that a certain white lady wrote to a magazine called Sister 2 Sister about black women, as well as a response from me. "Dear Jamie, I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black female readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking,educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black females' attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic and carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me he world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumble just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But right now I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know. Disgusted White Girl, And this is how I, Moses Seate, responded: "I would like to respond to the letter written by "A Disgusted White Girl." I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of their insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want a "Disgusted White Girl" to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Samuel Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women. And to flip the scrip, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want "a disgusted white girl" to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history. It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season yourfood. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands,and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a women. And through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power,love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen.It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them.It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes,colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women. I honestly believethat your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breast with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has. Bottom Line: If I were looking for a docile woman. someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Some one that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and unfortunately you do not and can not fit the bill. I guess you are just S.O.L. No offense taken, none given. Signed, Black Royalty
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| | Unrecorded Date hi there is no time for this!!!!!
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| | Unrecorded Date alot respect goes out to Black Royalty Indeed respect and admiration, WORD my brother. GOd bless your kind hearted soul!! She obsviously had it coming... Again, i'm impressed (i hardly am about someone)...your response was ill not to mention dabomb!!!!!!!!!!!!!!kapooooooooom nuff' said peace brother and keep representin black women
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| | Unrecorded Date ooh my god that was probably the best ad I have read so far your message ment alot to me i was wondering where did you got this from?????// anyways i give props to you for writing this amazing message to us and good by bro.
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| | Unrecorded Date To mo brother, all my respect goes out to you. You have said what a lot of my friends have been saying to me for a very long time. White women are "easy" in every sence of the word, they are too loud, cheap and weak. Who wants that in a girlfriend or wife. The prophet (PBUH) once said " a woman who keeps her mouth shut and her legs shut is a woman with dignity" white women do none of that so why should everyone think they are ALL THAT?
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| | Unrecorded Date To mY brother, all my respect goes out to you. You have said what a lot of my friends have been saying to me for a very long time. White women are "easy" in every sence of the word, they are too loud, cheap and weak. Who wants that in a girlfriend or wife. The prophet (PBUH) once said " a woman who keeps her mouth shut and her legs shut is a woman with dignity" white women do none of that so why should everyone think they are ALL THAT?
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| | Unrecorded Date Brother, You have touched my heart... and i thank u for that respect toward to your Woman-somalian Woman, or better yet, Black woman in general... i Love that article, and maybe u could teach something to somalis youngmen, and remind them how to love, and care about their women. Peace out nothing but a love baby. Kaltuun
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| | Unrecorded Date TO MY WELL RESPECTED BROTHER: YOUR MESSAGE MADE ME CRY AND I JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW THAT I HAVE NOTHING BUT RESPECT FOR YOU. PLEASE STAY SWEET AND DON'T CHANGE YOUR MIND ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR BEAUTIFUL SOMALIAN SISTERS OR SHOULD I SAY BLACK WOMEN. LOVE U
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| | Unrecorded Date LoyalMan I have been wrackin my brains trying to figure out the significance or even relevance of this topic and article you have presented to the Somali community served by this board. If a bunch of kaffirs plumb for another bunch of dirty, hell-destined infidels, why on god's desert earth should we care? I personally don't, but it seems you do hence I will indulge you and present my own theories about blacks and their propensity for miscegenation. Blacks of North America are people who are culturally adrift, morally bankrupt and suffer from self-hatred. The black's greatest aspiration is to be white or at least lighten his dusky compexion. In order to gain status in Black America it helps to be light-skinned. In this they are encouraged by the whites who confer friendship and status on those light-skinned blacks they see as less threatening. Blacks have very little ties to family. This of course is a generalization and there are always exceptions, but for most other people of this world family consideration comes into the equation. In the case of the Somalis one does not just marry a spouse he/she marries an entire family or even clan with expectations, obligations and duties that bind not just the husband and wife but the whole of the two families. Blacks are devoid of this support network and the only consideration one has in making such a momentous decision are one's own personal feelings, a most unreliable guide in such a fraught business. Nin walba ama marwo walba waxaa u fiican inay u go'do kuway ka dhalatay. Hadday laba is qabaa is afgaran waayaan ummad dhan baa ka danbeysaa oo xaalkooda soo dhexgelaysa oo kala xadhkaynaysa oo ceebtooda asturaysa wanaagoodana ka shaqaynaya markaadse dadkaaga ka fogaato ta kugu dhici doonta O.J. Simpson soo warayso isagaa warka idin siin doonee. Beri samaadkii raggii la calaa duuli jirey waa kuwa xadhigii u gooyey markii xaajadii dhabqantey, kuwii u soo hiiliyey, xadhigana ka baajiyey waa kuwii aanuu weligii xaalayn jirin. Laakiin madow taa cashar kamay qaadan welina darxuma weyni baa midba aboodiguu marayo keli keli shaydaanka indha buluug ku gaadaa. Bal may isku duubmaan oo dumarka single mother ahi nin keliya ku koobnaaadaan. Aabbayashu may caruurtooda korsadaan. Waa duul ba'ay oo sheekadooda ha ii sheegin waxaanse ka baqayaa in Soomaali haddaan nahay inana waddadaa xun sii hayno haddaan lays badh qaban. Allow Naarta Jixiima Loo sii naaxiyo gaalo Nacdashay eeday Yuhuudu Iyo Nasaaro meeshii la geeyey Nasriga yaa kaga cayntoo Waa nijaase dunuubtuye Nadiif yaa ka ahaada Nadiif yaa ka ahaada labadaba, caddaaan iyo madow labaduba waa kala daran yihiin. Somaaliyeey dhaqankii yaan la ilaawin, diinta ha la ilaaliyo, nolosha qoyska ha la adkeeyo, durufleyda gaalaad addoonta iyo sheydaanka ay daba washleeyaan ee indha buluuga ah fogeeya waa fadare e. N.B. I used to be much more conservative than this but lately I have moderated my views, so much so that I am beginnng to think of myself as sensitive New Age man. Well perhaps not,lol ha ha
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| | Unrecorded Date Lol@Geraarshe You are indeed a wise man!! It always good to see a brother who has "evolved" into senstive New Age man:)....the best of men in my humble opinion are the conservative dudes with a streak of liberal tolerance!!!!
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| | Unrecorded Date intersting-Honestman, sorry, i mean Loyaltman. well done bro, i couldn't say it better. and dont listen to that bro. Geeraarshe, he seems to wanna argue for the sake of argument. personally, i dont like those who generalize group of ppl. has he-Geeraarshe ever consider What America would have been like us without AFRICAN-AMERICANS?. I have arrest my case!!! Amaana Allah
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| | Unrecorded Date jama, agree with ya. Geeraarshe is one of those ignorant fools with blinders on but thinks he's cool. Never heard such a racistic views specially against people we share similar color tones, apparently he doesn't still get it that AFRICAN-AMERICANS paid the prize in lot of times with lives to pave the way for folks likes (Africans in US) to enjoy hard fought freedoms. "Culturally adrift, Morally bankrupt, Self-Hatred" these are the words our Ignoree used to blankly refer to AFRICAN AMERICANS. Don't you know there are morally astute, successful & responsible AFRICAN AMERICANS than those you see on the local crime headline news or music vidoes or Jerry Springer? Really ashmed that we still have Ignoree like this guy still among us.
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| | Unrecorded Date Brother. I would just like to thank you for the way in which you handled her comments. it is brothers like you that make being a black women worthwhile. Must love and understanding to you great king. timyata
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| | Unrecorded Date Thanks brother i have all the respect for u BLACK ROYALTY.What can i say i'm so impressed,normally we dont see a black somalian guys who know what a black women worth its a beautifull ad,keep the good work.
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| | Unrecorded Date Back Woman Question; Are there White Somalis?? cause U said "Normally we dont see a black somalian guys who know......" just asking out of curiosity !! hope U don’t mind me asking! later
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| | Unrecorded Date Black Royality that was wonderful Bro this was one of the best things that i've read so far here thanks for takeing the time to put that lady where she should be A BLACK SIS 18
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| | Unrecorded Date HiBro Your response was well researched and documanted one. I really liked step by step the way you tied up whole your toughts togher, and make it very senseful one. As most us know, today American evil culturals and malious behaviors are deprived from Bl Community in this country. There is no way they can be our role model in terms of love and family values., Our culture is based on our religuion and our ethnic traditions. Both these two things are not relevent to those BL people. As you mention earlier that their are lacking family value and basic behaviour in the society that we are in today, not most of them but highly numbers of them, as we see along the street corners or neigborhoods. Our faight and tradition must not be compramise an invisible distintion between those people and us. It is true that we may look like on the appearence in the first place, but there are important difference between what we belief and traditionally sought. We raise our children to be religious, honest,respect their parents and relatives while they teach theirs to be gang and irrespectible.
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| | Friday, July 14, 2000 - 10:33 am This subject is no more racial than it is sexiest. Especially by black royalty. Men are'nt intimatdated by black woman, they don't chose to date that paricular black woman and I put careful empasize on paricular, has not got the qualities that, that the particular is man is looking for. And another think you make it look like as if though black woman are completely innocent in this whole matter. You are right the majority of young black woman used to go to church used to stick to traditions which include no sex before marriage. Right now you will find all that has changed black woman are like any other race. An honest respectful black young man such as myself at the ripe age of 16 thinks the comments about the man in america have been outrageous, he does not look for a woman he can walk over but a woman he finds have the unique characteritics he is looking for.
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