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     | Unrecorded Date Firstly asalama alaykum to all my brothers and sisters.Secondly i have an interesting topic i would like to get in to. Now you might think that it is childish for me to ask such a question but i'm curiouse. Well you see i'm a 17 yr old girl, i go out, have fun, i've only ever had 2 boyfriends and that was when i was 15. I'm a very good looking girl (that's not the problem), i have a good family background, i am a girl with sharaf and hishood. So i'm expected to stay at home and go to school and be with my family right? I am 17 yrs old, this is hard for me. I wanna go out and have fun, i'm good looking and there are always guyz hollowing at me and asking me out. What am i supposed to do? I realise that everyone choses their own path (and should therefor follow it) but why is life so difficult? Why does society have to make it so hard for us. I might as well be locked up in a cellar all my life. When a girl sinns with a guy or even goes out with him she is criticised, why? It's not her fault she is human, she wants to have fun, she wants to go out. Living in Europe is hard, we have youth clubs very close to our home's and my friends pressure me to go out with them, i meet guyz and i don't wanna be a castout so i talk with them and join in with the conversation and thankgoodness for me i no longer hang out with these old associates of mine but what about all those other girls once known as "good girls"? Before they know it they start getting in to heavier stuff like sex and drugs and they think it's normal. So where should the lines be drawn? I would really apreciate it if you guyz and girls out there post you thoughts and opinions. And remember ppl this is just a question i am asking because i'm curiouse. Don't judge me just help me and advise me ok. Jasaka Allah khayr Your sister Nuura
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| | Unrecorded Date To: Confused Girl you said, you are 17 years old and you already had 2 boyfriends! I think that's one too many already, on the otherhand, if you're looking for a way to stay away from your old associates and whatever bad things that they do, i would suggest that you engage in some kind of activity, such as community programs, volunteering, sports clubs, "Dugsi qur'aan" defenitely that would be good one. And other thing, make sure that the ppl you choose to associate with have goals in "adduun & AAkhiroba" and remember SHaitan comes with too many shapes, so beware of who you choose to follow his/her footsteps.
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| | Unrecorded Date Confused girl, we can't always choes what we want. Somethings have it ways of make life hard then it is. I for ex:23 old years girl who is in school, i go out lot, i have lots of guys friends and girl friends, but I only date three guys in my life, that i can said i had good time, and consider then my ex-boyfriends. Sister, sometime it is good to listend to your parents...they are the onces who knows life better then us, after all they are the onces who give us brith. Aboya, when i am date a guy, My family wants him to come my house, instand of go out with him lonely, coz in my our religion you can't be along with a guy who is not your brotther, father, husban. Therefore, if you really really, like someone and you guys decised to go out is better if you guys when on double dates, like have your girl friend and her boyfriend...at least that was they old ways. Anyway, i don't know if i anwser your question or not but I wish all the best.
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| | Unrecorded Date This is a JOKE page not CITIZENS ADVICE BERUAU thicko!!! You seriously need help and these selfproclaimed experts are only confusing you evenmore!!!!!!
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| | Unrecorded Date sister girl i know its hard being a teenager in europe caus i live in england also be there and done that if i must put it that way! i'm 21 and done few things i shouldn't have as a teenager but the beauty of making mistakes is that u learn from it,(wel some do) and then move on and hopeful dont do it again. It helps if u have faith in your heart which will prevent u from doing bad things. But all i can say is good lucky finding your path caus i'm still looking. p.s if u want to talk more email me. bye sis!!!!
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| | Unrecorded Date Sister life is always hard no matter what.You made mistake once you will learnd from it, don't put pressure on your self and don't blame on you self eather.I don't know if you do drugs,sex or drink.But if you do you are way wrong stop it. On the other hand what you feel is what you are and what you are is beuatiful.Do the right thing for you self and your famil. You call freind the person who tells the righ things, not the person who drags you away. Stay true what you do and don't be a shame of it.
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| | Unrecorded Date Please take a moment to reflect on this : "The believers , men & women are protectors of one another, they enjoin people to do good and to abstain from all that is forbidden, they perform prayers and pay zakat (alms) and obey Allah and his messenger. Allah will have His mercy on them. Surely, Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise." Sura At-Tawbah: 71
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| | Unrecorded Date IF YOU ARE 17 YRS OLD •••• ANY GUY GET PREGNANT SUCK DIGS LICK PUSSY, THE END LET ME •••• YOU TELL ME WHERE YOU AREMY EMAIL IS HAKEEM7@HOTMAIL.COM
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| | Unrecorded Date IF YOU ARE 17 YRS OLD •••• ANY GUY GET PREGNANT SUCK DIGS LICK PUSSY, THE END LET ME •••• YOU TELL ME WHERE YOU AREMY EMAIL IS HAKEEM75@HOTMAIL.COM
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| | Unrecorded Date wasaaye why do you write such things like that? You need help?(fisically that is) Hey confused girl, I'm sure you're pretty and that you come from a 'good' background and that you live in Europe and that it is hard. Don't you know that you're put into this 'desireble' world for a purpose? If you don't know, i'll tell you. Brother Muxammad said it all. If you were truly a good girl(religiously speaking) you've woudn't be thinking of doing such things. Sister you are not the only one who lives in Europe and is pretty and....... Again Muxammad was right you should involve yourself in Dugsi and understand the Qur'an. P.s: tell us what ya think of it aight? because you may agree or not. Just luvin ya all the way thru! Till next time take care of yourself And each other!!!!!!!..........(lol)
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| | Unrecorded Date HI NUURA: THIS IS U.K INTELLIGENCE WHO R DOING RESEARCH 4 U TO HELP U ON THIS MATTER SO PLSE WAIT AND BE PATIENT AND KEEP UR HEAD UP UNTIL THEN. OUR HEARTS GOES OUT 4 U. SISTER BE STRONG AND DON'T LET ANYONE GET THE BEST OF U & REMEMBER ALL GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT.
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| | Unrecorded Date TO WASAAYA: LET US TELL U SOMETHING WASAAYA, I DONT THINK U HAVE ANY IDEA OF WHAT IS GOING ON AROUND U. THE GIRL ONLY ASKED 4 A BIT OF SIMPATHY NOT A FOREPLAY LIST ESPECIALLY FROM U. U SOUND DIRTY AND DISGUSTING, A BET U PICKED THE NAME BECAUSE U HAVE NEVER HAD A WOMAN DO IT TO U. SO OUR ADVICE 2 U IS TO EXERCISE BEFORE HAND OTHERWISE U MIGHT HAVE A HEARTATTACK IF U FINALLY EVER DO IT.
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| | Unrecorded Date To: Young Somalian Sister Hi, sister I am 18 think that some of what you say is true. But what my sisters tell me as advice is dont rush into anything, when your friends ask you to come out just think how is it benefiting me?
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| | Unrecorded Date TO WASAAYE YOU ARE BAD NEWS MAN, SHE IS LIKE YOU SISTER WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU, AT LEAST SHE IS WOMAN ENOUGH TO HER STORY, BUT YOU. YOU'RE SICK SEXOHLIC.I STILL DIDN'T GET WHAT YOU TRYING TO PROVE HERE , BUT KYOU AIN'T FUNNY AT ALL NIGGER YOU AIN'T SH#T. GET LIFE BRO I'M OUT PEACE NO HARD FEELINGS KEEP IT REAL
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| | Unrecorded Date the girl got fucked so much she doesn't know what she is doing or talking about. the only way she could get alife is stay home and get married
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| | Unrecorded Date I agree with everything that Muxammed said. I think that wasaaye needs to be educated and tought a lesson. I think Hassan is more confused than the confused girl I think Farxaan should be the one to teach wasaaye the lesson. Confused girl, perhaps you should take a time-out from 'boys' and stuff and focus on building your life for the future. Your a young girl and you're at the most susceptable age for being attracted to the darker side of life (the jinn) Sister, just put life in perspective and stick to the right path of almighty Allah. All the best Your sister Idil
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| | Unrecorded Date Salam to all my brothers and sisters. Firstly i would like to thank all of you who came to my rescue with your help and advice. I would just like to say that some of your feedback and responces have been great. Brothers and sisters firstly i would like to say that i DON'T drink alcohol, i DON'T do drugs and that i DON'T and have NEVER had sex. I was merely saying that even if i get myself out of this tangled web of the jinn then what is to become of all those other girls who go on to heavier stuff like drugs and alcohol. To yoursister, anonymouse, Farhaan, Muhammed, Nima, Idil and Kaltun: Thanks bro's/sisters. Some of your advice was great. I guess you guyz got the wrong idea about me. Firstly where i live going out with guyz is an ok thing. But the fact is i have chosen not to for the last 2 years cos i felt there are better things to do in life than going out with guyz. Thanks a lot again for helping me out. I now know what is most important to me in my life, Allah, my religion, my education and earning the respect of my fellow brothers and sisters. Wassaye + Hassan: I might have been confused then, but i could never be confused enough to take your advice, not in a million years.....(lol) Peace~maker: Bro/sis firstly i know that life is a test from Allah and i agree with all that my brother Mohammed said but life is not as easy as "what you should and should not do" i mean what if you have grown up to think i can do anything i like? Brother you have to understand that where i live things are just in your face, boys clubs, sex everything is like a temptation and when you have such easy acces to all these things yes you do wonder "should i?" because it is a temptation. But through hearing all your comments and your advice you have helped me to see that i am on this earth for one reason to complete my test and to obey Allah. Thank you all for making me see that and for taking your time in helping me out at a confusing time. salama alaykum to all that helped me through my problems, i hope that you find people as kind and generouse with their advice as you are. May Allah bless you all. Your sister Nuura
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| | Unrecorded Date To: Sister Nuura- not confused anymore//, God bless you for knowing what's good for you!! And reading your post, I don't you're confused. A confused are those two, that Hassan guy and the other one I don't even say his/her name. I wish ppl like them could just come forward asking for help. And thanks for those bros/sis who offered you the sincere advices. On the otherhand, you said that you have an easy access to lot of bad things, I think most of us in the "QURBAHA" do but we still going have to resist no matter what cuz that's why we're muslim... NAXARIIS & NABADGALYO KORKIINA HA AHAATO DHAMMAAN.
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| | Unrecorded Date HELLO PPL, FIRST OF ALL THANX FOR U'R ADVICE MAY ALLAH BLESS YA ALL. NUURA,SISTER I KNOW WHAT U ARE GOING THROUGH AND I THINK THAT A LOT OF SISTERS HAVE GOT THE SAME PROBLEM. ALL I WANT TO SAY IS THAT AT THE END OF THE DAY IT'S ALLAH WHO'S GOING TO JUDGE U,NoONE ELSE. SO DO WHAT'S GOOD FOR U AND WHAT PLEASES ALLAH. I WISH U ALL THE LUCK OF THE WORLD!! PEACE & LOVE TO ALL MY PEOPLE, ***FILSAN***
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| | Unrecorded Date to confused girl:if you are muslim and somalian you should not thinking like that and if your are pretty that is not excuse to do the the wrong thing. if you have sharaf and come from good family as you said you wouldn't think or even talk like that and where is your good family any way. girl remember your religion and you culture
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| | Unrecorded Date to confused girl:if you are muslim and somalian you should not thinking like that and if your are pretty that is not excuse to do the the wrong thing. if you have sharaf and come from good family as you said you wouldn't think or even talk like that and where is your good family any way. girl remember your religion and you culture
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| | Unrecorded Date I Liked your advises guyz I must be proud of how our People developed mentally, Or were we always the same but it just happened that I didn’t realise it. Any way I am very happy that most of our Somali nation is so kind and advising ppl. Nothing in this world is so complete, so no wonder how nuisance are "Wasaayes" words. He just wanted to write something and that is the only English word he knows. "Hassan" seems to be more Confused than Our Confused sister. Confused Girl. Sister I understand what you are going through. I think you are a victim of your wiseness, it is common that a wise 15-25 person is always in dilemma, Thinking about different options he/se has infront of her/him. Eventually such person overcomes all his/her problems because he/learns from the mistakes. I am 30 years old, Father of two children one of them is girl. I really believe you did a very good decision when you posted your problem here. and think you already got a lot of good advices from your Brothers/Sisters around the world, so don’t give a care to those childish words coming from the minority uneducated ppl. My best advise is compare your parents to those guyz you meet. Who do you really think is giving a better care to your future? The answer is obvious “parents”. Even if your parents are doing more worse actions than yours, they will always advise you to the right path. please talk to them and take their words. Some questions can still arise such as, what about my parents advises? are they always right? The answer is yes, remember we have a Somali proverb (20 jir intuu geed ca booduu talana ka boodaa). Sister in your post you said (I have a good family background, I am a girl with sharaf and hishood . So I am expected to stay at home and go to school and be with my family right?). that is what you think as long as you are not Mother/father, but when you become things are different. I think more about my girls future than “Hishood” and “sharaf”, but I support these two words because of they are the path to successful life. If you still have some difficulties in following your parents advice, then go and read Quraan, Allah will take the pressure out of your live, I have undergone almost similar problems as yours and found the Quran as the best friend in that situation. I know it seems hard to be religious person at the beginning, but if you take one step towards Allah, then Allah will take two steps towards you, this means try to build 33.33% of your faith and Allah will make it 100%. This is not fiction it is reality, I met a lot of people who find it hard for the firs time, but when they tried, things were different. Sorry if my advice is not the one you wanted Sister, you can always mail me if you need more advice.
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| | Unrecorded Date Abmoalim are you looking for your minyaro (second wife) with is typical for so called wadaads. Stop this bussinees of call my email. right. Don't hide under religion umbrela. Caafimaad alaha ku siiyo. Look after your young family.
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| | Monday, June 26, 2000 - 03:24 am Hi all.. I think all the young people in europe suffer from pressures all the time,I am 22 and have made mistakes with other ethnic girls but when it comes to somali girls I have too much respect for them so I only go as far as to establish if she is a potential mother for my children and a good wife. I am ashamed of some of the young somali boys attitude towards our sisters. Peace and Respect signing out: Abdi
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| | Thursday, July 06, 2000 - 12:00 pm You Are Suffering From Frustration...See A Shrink...Will Ya!!!!!!!!!
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| | Sunday, July 09, 2000 - 06:48 pm wuz up all Hi Confused girl, how are you doing sis. i have read your story and i feel for you sis. Let me tell you a small story before i start to help you sis. I am 20 years old and i live in Toronto Canada. I loved going out every night just chilling with friend. I came from a good family and my parents made use all moved to were chines and white people lived. I found a way to still go out, because i had a car to travel around with. anyway I started drinking,doing drugs and so on when i was 17. and then i just changed my live totally because i was hearthing alot of people that loved me very much. I am married know i don't drink or do drugs anymore. I don't party and i am in my last year of Information Technology (I.T) and if i did it anyone can. Just turn to Alah and he will help you more then anyone can.
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| | Tuesday, July 11, 2000 - 11:04 am HELLO THERE as a somali girl whose older than you and also grew up out in america, I understand where you are coming from. As an older sister I would advice you to take everything slow. I know you want to go out( been there) which I think is not bad as long as you know whats right from wrong. be reasonable about, do not do things just because your friend are doing them. am sure if you go out at decent times and come back home at a decent time. your parents and family will understand. trust i was not allowed to go out, but the older you get the more freedom you have. your parents are just looking out for you. and you will appreciate that in the future. have faith in Allah and aslong as you do, things will work themselves out. and please go to school. its very important, a college degree is what you need in this time to make it out of minimum paying jobs. i worked while i was in college and trust me as soon as graduated, I more than tripled my pay in one day!! have faith and Iman and if you need someone to talk to you can reach me at hinfinnin@hotmail.com
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| | Wednesday, July 12, 2000 - 10:33 am hey Nuura,for starter,you really ought to be careful about who's life style you buy,propabaly sometimes we become way too wrapped up in foreign urban myths,and tend to question 'sense of normality' either out of frustration or curiousity.it was pretty bold for u to come out with what ever you had in your head rather than spending too much time in your head. lines are already drawn....gotta learn to go steady,u never know who's the dear one these days.no offence nuura, but BIT OF MATURITY in life might help. sticking around with your family more often might prove helpful. take it easy!
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| | Friday, July 14, 2000 - 12:42 pm people I like your advice. This is very intersting topic. I like the way you all to talked to confused girl,except Wasaaye and hasaan . like one of you guys said earler they are confuse then the sweet sister.Farxaan you are right life is hard lesson. To confuse girl sorry you went through all that alone sister. At least you learn from it.
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| | Friday, July 14, 2000 - 06:28 pm Having read all that were posted to the dear sister that had sought the advice, i would be proud enough to come accross the civilized manner that embodies the potentiality of our religion and culture to find solutions to the variuos kinds of proplems faced by all and sandery in their day to day activiteis. Being a somalian citizen who has been living for quite some time in the countries catogerised under the third world, i find it defficult to believe that my brothers and sisters out there in the westeren countries or else where in the world would be wise enough to islamically and conservatively councel their younger sister whom i hope that she is no more confused. Do believe this has radically changed my perception towards the stereotyped characters of our somali society who immagirated from the country due to the civil war which has been going over the last decade...thnks i am proud of you..
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| | Friday, July 14, 2000 - 08:57 pm GIRL I JUST WANNA TELL YOU A LITTLE STORY I LIVE IN SEATTLE IN THE U.S IVE BEEN RAPED TWICE AND MY FATHER AND MOM ARE BOTH DEAD I LIVE BY MYSELF WITH 1 KID IM 14 YEARS OLD AND GIRL I JUST WANNA TELL YOU SOMETIMES I SAY TO MYSELF WHY ALLAH BROUGHT ME IN TO THIS WORLD I CAN UNDERSTAND YOUR FEELINGS SISTA WELL YOU BE BRAVE AND MAY OUR GOD ALLA SUBHANA WAA TACALA BE WITH US EVERY STEP OF THE WAY IM PROUD OF YOU GO SISTA EMAIL ME AT BEELO71@HOTMAIL.COM
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| | Friday, July 14, 2000 - 09:12 pm Is there a Somali girl who is older than 25 and have the capability to give advicee on someone like Miss, Confused. I guess, you need to discuss with a shrink or someone like that level to help you figure out what you want do with your alrady messed up life. Please, remember I would love to help you with your problems, but I can't. Concerned dude,
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| | Sunday, July 16, 2000 - 12:53 pm hey hey, what is this a teen help line!!! I expect jokes, not a 17 yr old girl with problems which are soooo pathetic they are not even worth mentioning. And since when have going out with friends having a good time become such a sin, If you happen to disagree with me please do contact me. I am 16 by the way so not any bad worded e mails and noora when you say "I am a goodlooking girl" you can't decide on that urself, I will be the judge of that. well I hope I have made it clear no more teen problems
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| | Tuesday, July 18, 2000 - 02:27 am why is everyone feeling sorry for noora for, we have a much younger girl 14 to be exact who has been raped twice !!! both parents dead!!!! And you are tryin to tell me noora is the one with problems You only need common sense to work that one out
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| | Thursday, July 20, 2000 - 10:34 pm I dont know much, but i know this: life is too short to be confused, have fun while doing what u want not what anyone else wants whether they be your friends or your overprotective relatives, u can never do wrong in doing what you want, the problems arises when u try to please others.
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| | Friday, July 21, 2000 - 06:35 am Any sister want got to knwo nice intellingent brother email to this address. abdijacayl@hotmal.com
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| | Tuesday, July 25, 2000 - 08:54 pm Sorry for somalis look back home I mean where u -from,murdered raped humilated disrespected drought hunger everydayTACSI where is youre -family friends homeless who cause all these terrible missery unspeakable shame. [all of you claim each other] forget these bitchs ...HELP THEM ..
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| | Unrecorded Date You know something peopel I don't think judging is a good thing for our socaity. But as somali is the only thing that we are good at it. Most of us we are trying to be funny out of what someone say , at same time we are hurting that person feelings. As you can see we don't atemp to do that but somehow we are. I'm not here to judge anyone of yo ,but I though I should post this comments. keep it respect and peace. DARBO
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| | Unrecorded Date I am also a teen and i only have one advice. You should make friends with ppl who have the same morals. They don't need have to be muslim(but it would be easier if they were).I have a lot of friends who are muslim, christian,jewish, and even athiest.We all have something in common in and here is what it is WE ARE GOOD, HONEST, TRUST WORTHY PPL.I have friends who are boys too. I have so many other things to worry about and having a boyfriend is not one of them.I think maybe you are getting ahead of yourself.I go out sometimes and chill, but my religion, family, and school are more important. I hoped i've enlightened you.SO THINK ABOUT IT. PEACE
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| | Monday, July 31, 2000 - 12:47 am Hello confused girl. Sis i know how u feel most people have gone through but you should be proud of yourself by taking a moment and thinking of what u should do, but sis even though people are giving you advice it still will be hard in abstaining from unlawful acts. I know most young adults dont get into too much of the religeon thing but to be honest i think u should remember your God infact most of the answers are in the Holy book. I am 21 years of age and am still confused we just have to take it one step at a time but remember your God. I know shaitan is very good at his job but you are stronger than him. And for all the others who try to put your question down, they think they are all that but they dont wanna accept the fact that they are nothing without their God may He forgive them, for He knows all and sees all, so if you guys think that u have everything worth living for think again, coz He gave it to you and will take it away from you in one way or another. Sis hopefully you will do the right thing. Remember the worldly pleasures are just for here not the hereafter, we are all put to the test, to see how much we can sacrifice. May the Almighty guide you to the right path. Ps i am not a religeous person myself but i try my best. If you ever wanna get in touch you have it sis.
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| | Monday, July 31, 2000 - 04:55 am Mistakes are facts of life, it's the response to the error that counts. It's paradixcal that the idea of living along life apeals to everyone. Talent is always conscious of it on abundance and does not objects to sharing before you can win, you have to belieave your worthy. Life is not laughting matter but can you imagin having to live without laughing. Imagination allaw us to escape the predicatable. So in life the only disablity is bad attitude. Only god can judge me , so my sister confuse girl can learn her mistakes too. Judging won't do no good peopel
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| | Tuesday, August 01, 2000 - 10:25 am I KNOW 17 IS STILL YOUNG ,BELIEVE ME NOORA DA BEST IS YET TO COME DONNOT RUSH SAVE U SELF 4 DA BEST ,U GOT 2 MAKE SURE U MAKE 21 IN 1 PEICE DAN U CAN ENJOY
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| | Tuesday, August 01, 2000 - 01:29 pm assalaam alaykum, dear sister this just a piece of advice from a concerned muslim brother of yours concerned about your outcome in the hereafter and i am hereby giving you advice as the prohet Muhammad (saw) has said this deen (religion) is advice. Dear sister you must understand that Allah azza wajalla has created mankind for a purpose and that is to worship him and not to associate partners with him. Remember that every soul shall test death and you will leave this world and it's pleasures.Remember that you will be accountable for your actions. sister don't be fooled by the deception of this world and fall prey to your enemy! I strongly advise you that you fear Allah your creater and the one who has full knowledge of what you do and obey his commands and follow his blessed messenger Muhammad (saw). Allah azza wajalla has forbidden us from commiting zinaa. how do you think you are going to enjoy this world? by commiting forbidden acts? fear Allah and remember that you or your family were in an awful situation back in somalia and then he saved you and protected you and gave you shelter yet you wan't to disobey him!! fear Allah! if you you really want to enjoy life then why don't you get married to a good muslim and enjoy life with him? you obviously weren't happy with your previous boyfriends, think about it sister and fear allah. wassalaam
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| | Saturday, August 05, 2000 - 06:49 am i completely agree with Bro!!!
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