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     | Sunday, August 27, 2000 - 03:23 pm I know u ppl r allready had enough of theze somalian ladyz and Gentlemen But IGOTTA KNOW WHY R YA ALL SCARED OF UZ???? Especially when u know u want them and when u sure u want to talk to him why do u twist things why do u lie how u really feel about him??? Why not and plzzzzzzzz don't tell me about religion or Culture thiz is just an emotional thing u know what I mean NATURE just spitt it out say what u feel doez that hurt? Doez it hurt to say I love u? the other thang is LOVE and SEX r different so plzzzzzzz don't come with If I say I love him then I have to sleep coz when u really love someone U don't think about SEX. Do u know da differences between gamez and Reality coz most of u r confused and LACK of EXPERIENCE and also importantlly CONFIDENCE.... So plzzzzzz help why??? and if u mad and agry about something then say it... Peace N Love
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| | Sunday, August 27, 2000 - 08:55 pm Call me and i will tell you Laila2000_adam@hotmail.com
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| | Tuesday, August 29, 2000 - 11:26 am laila looooool sis.. aj bro, i think you gotta point, remember this not all somali girl and guys are the same... peace
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| | Tuesday, August 29, 2000 - 11:38 am In my experience, I'll admit that i am afraid because i was never taught to express my feeling and i believe in being in love once because it is just scared I guess...and another thing, i told this somali guy that i really liked on how i felt about him but i got a rejection, a rejection is very depresional thing. i will love if a guy tells me that he likes me and if i feel the same way, i will respond and i can do it the other way around but it takes time to heel and i need time to heel my rejecting wounds and heart! I guess u can say i am stupid to share this but i really don't care about how ppl see me because all i care is how i see myself.
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| | Tuesday, August 29, 2000 - 06:30 pm hi pple to amaaaaaaaaal....gurl...i'm sorry for uuuu ...aiight for what happened to uuuuu....i feel u girl ............the same thing happened to my girl.......... and all ya ....dont think it's me ...aiight.....i'm just showin' some somali love....aiight.... aj that's what u guys do to somali girls....... that's y their scared of uuuu guyssssss.......and amal dont feel stupid it's better to let it gooo ...rather than holdin' it in uuuuuuuu ........ aiight gurl..... i hope u feel better nowwwwwwwww.... anywayz i hope u got your answer aj ..... until than love and peace to all ya.....
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| | Thursday, August 31, 2000 - 07:10 am thnakx hotstuff and i hope other viewers feel the comfortable to do the same thing as i have done!
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| | Friday, September 01, 2000 - 03:06 am ME PERSONALLY I WOULD NEVER TELL A MAN I LOVED HIM UNTILL HE TOLD ME FIRST (IF I FELT THE SAME) ANYWAY, WE DON'T TELL GUYS COS MOST OF THEM THINK WOMEN WHO EXPRESS THEIR FEELING R EASY. I WOULD LIKE A GUY TO COME TO ME AND TELL ME HOW HE FEELS THEN IF I FEEL THE SAME I WOULD TELL ME. IN OTHER WOULD I LIKE MEN TO BE MEN LOVE AND PEACE
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| | Friday, September 01, 2000 - 11:40 am FOR ALL THE SOMALI GIRLS WHO KEEP SAYING THE AFRAID OF TELLING A MAN THEY LIKE HIM OR LOVE HIM FIRST YOU HAVE TO LIKE THE PERSON BEFORE YOU LOVE THEM,BECAUSE ONCE YOU LOVE THEM YOU ARE INTO TOO DEEP IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND IT SI NOT EASY JUST TO WALK AWAY AS IF YU LIKE THE PERSON. SECONDLY THIS THE YEAR 20000 AND YOU LIVE IN AMERICA YOU SHOULD NOT BE CONCERNING WEATHER HE LIKES YOU OR NOT. AND IT SHOULD NOT HURT YOUR FEELINGS THAT MUCH BECAUSE YOU CAN LIKE SO MANY MEN BUT THERE WILL ONLY BE ONE FOR YOU SOMEWHERE CLOSE TO YOU SO DO NOT GIVE UP THAT EASY SISTER AND YOUR KEEP UP WITH YOUR SCHOOL AND YOUR DAILY PRIVATE LIFE.HE WILL COME AROUND WHEN TIME IS RIGHT. PEACE AND LOVE TO MY ALL SOMALI SIS JAQAF@LAASKOREY SOMALIA.COM AND DOOGG 2002
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| | Friday, September 01, 2000 - 08:15 pm HI THERE you know i think the reason that girls don't go directly to the guys and say i love you is that,girls always want guys do things first and i think thats right caz in away the guy is going to say it anyway and at the same time they can't trust him caz if she tells him she loves him and if she realy does then she might be scared of him to use her especialy when she is not sure of if he realy loves her or not. what i mean by saying all that is he might not like her and she might love him then she will be used by him and thats pretty sorry so my point is if the girl is realy sure of him liking her then no problem for saying that she loves him but if she isn't sure then she gotta hold on and change him. i hope you are all are getting my point.
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| | Saturday, September 02, 2000 - 07:34 am SOMALIAN GIRLS AFRAID TO SAY BABY COME AND SLEEP IN MY BED IF THEY THERE SAY PROBLY CALL YOU NAME LIKE GO TO PARTY GIRL HORNY BOY. THEY DONT UNDERSTAND HOW IT FEELS ABOUT THAT.
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| | Saturday, September 02, 2000 - 07:44 am NEVER SAY SOMALIAN GIRL THAT YOU LOVE HER MUCH WHEN TRYING TO GET FREAKY HER ONE NIGTH,YOU MIGTH MADE MISTAKE FOR LIFE. SHE SAW YOU WITH OTHER GIRL. IF YOU THAT YOU GOT TO BE THE MAN TO WITH OR ELSE SHE MIGTH THINK YOUR CHITTER MAYBE SEX CHACER. THAT IS NOT SOMALI PARTY GIRL SHES WANNA BE MARRIED WOMAN.
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| | Sunday, September 03, 2000 - 02:49 pm shut the hell up you piece banana(you know what i mean) ,why are wasteing our time with this crap.i wish you just dropped dead,or may be thats not too harsh enogh,so why don't you explodein to peices.
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| | Wednesday, September 06, 2000 - 06:37 pm i'm a somali girl and i ain't afraid to tell a guy that i love him. the only problem is that i have trouble loving somali guys. they like affection. the like to be taken care of . they wan't too much. i have yet to find a nice decent up to date young man. if a guy says he loves you, it's like okay. but if a girl says it, it's too deep and emotional. and don't nobody talk •••• about somali girls and sex 'cuz we know better. were not stupid. holler at me aj you sound like a guy who know his emotional side. later Faiza4@hotmail.com
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| | Thursday, September 07, 2000 - 07:37 am I THINK ALL OF U HAVE NOT BEEN REEL. I THINK THE ONLY REASON SOMALI GIRLS CAN NOT SAY TO A GUY I LOVE YA IT IS PURELY BECAUSE THEY FEEL THEY WILL BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE. I AM A MAN IF A NICE LADY TELL ME SHE LOVE ME I WILL WELCOME THE IDEA AND TALK TO HER HOW I FEEL AND THINK ABOUT. LET US REMEMBER 1 THING LET IS GOOD AND BEAUTIFUL. HIDDING LOVE IS SUFFERING IN SILENCE . SO YOUNG GALS FEEL FREE AND BEST OF LUCK.
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| | Thursday, September 07, 2000 - 03:05 pm Hey Guyz I really appreciate ur help especially da ladyz now I know why ya all affraid and why it is hard to say or express urselves to uz < guyz > Fiaza Well I tryed to searched 4 a miss somalian who is different and emotional it seems to me that we both been looking 4 da same thang so i do wanna holla at ya coz then we can become friends and help one another and more importantlly talk about emotions and how much it takes to express urself no matter male or female coz i ain't sayin it is all about Females it is also about males too... Peace N Love
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| | Thursday, September 07, 2000 - 03:16 pm Tarrick Man I feel ya bro from da heart thaz 100% purelly correct coz they think that u have da advantage since they said what they feel inside, and as u said I agree hidding love is sufferring silence... What I'm trying to say girls is WHY U HIDDING UR FEELINGZ, Like Faiza said she doezn't care thaz what I'm talking about say it without fear pure and simple meanning let it go if he takes otherway around then let him take it that don't let him get to ya thaz my point....Remember what they say DON'T LET ANYONE STEAL UR JOY thnx again now I feel like I know and understand my sweet sisterz and I do wanna show that I have love 4 them but donno how now I guess I know how thnx to all u guyz Peace N Love
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| | Friday, September 08, 2000 - 02:59 am hi let my tell ya my story about the thing called "love". i use to love a guy and he told be that he felt the same way and i thought that i was the most happiest girl in the world but he really played with my feeling and told my many lies.And he thought that i was just a easy girl just because i felt in love with him and it was 3 years ago sence this story happend to me and sence that day i really lost faith about finding a nice somalian guy but the most importhing thing is that i dont belive in love anymore. so to the answear to your question AJ,we can say that iam affriad of somalian guys but the most importhing thing is that i dont wanna get hurt agian coz if i did i dont know how i would servav it. peace to ya all
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| | Friday, September 08, 2000 - 04:49 am love is just overrated emotion brothers n sisters, n one thing i can tell u is..never blv what a man tells u girls, he will get what he want say any means necesary to acheive his goals n reach hi starget, then wont think of a nothing to discard u like a peice of ••••. That never happened to me , co si am getting wiser as i get older, n no man will put wool over my eyes and get away with it. but if i meet nice man i wil give him thebenefit of the doubt n if he starts playing me then u just leave..it is free world
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| | Friday, September 08, 2000 - 10:41 am I THINK THAT THAT SOMALIAN GURLZ ARE SCARED OF SOMALIAN GUYS , BECAUSE TO MOST OF THEM THE WHOLE SITUATION OF HAVING A BOYFRIEND SCARES THEM , THEY DON'T HOW TO ACT OR WHAT TO SAY. SO BE PATIENT W/ THEM . I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT AND I WILL BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO ANSWER SOME OF YOUR QUESTIONS. AND ALSO SOME GURLZ WANT TO KEEP THEIR RELATIONSHIPS PRIVATE SO THAT NO ONE KNOWS HER BUSINESS ESPECIALLY THEIR BOYFRIENDS GUY FRIENDS. ALSO SOMALIAN GURLZ HAVE GONE TO THE POINT WHERE THEY WANT YOU TO DO THINGS LIKE BUY FLOWERS AND HOLD THE DOOR FOR THEM AIHGT.. AS A SOMAIAN GURL I LIKE THAT KIND OF STUFF AND I SURE AINT SCARED OF ANY SOMALIAN GUY CUZ I AM USED TO THEM AND THEIR HABITS SO ALL U SOMALIAN GUYZ BRING IT ON BABY!!!! FARHIA
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| | Friday, September 08, 2000 - 05:52 pm i have neva said i love to the somali guys i've dated even though some said they loved me....this is simply cause i have not yet found the person who i can truly, deeply and madly love and have the same affection in turn but be sure when it happens i won't hold it bac
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| | Friday, September 08, 2000 - 10:21 pm Sagal aint you the hard cord one..."never believe what guys tell you cuz they're all after you pussy's" Personally i never told anyone i loved them cuz i might like that person but never really love them,,,and that's kool. My advice to you girls is say what you feel and make you men happy cuz Allah brought men and women to this world to love protect and have sex..n'mean <<It's better to have loved and lost but never to have loved at all>> Say what you feel inside life is short have fun and say I LOVE YOU BABY. AJ take care babe and hope i was any help to you
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| | Saturday, September 09, 2000 - 03:39 am THIS IS TO AMAAL SIS DONT THINK YOUR THE ONLY ONE WHO IS GOING THREW THIS BY YOUR SELF THE SAME HAPPENED TO ME WITH MY GIRL, WE HAVE BEEN GOING OUT FOR ABOUT 4 MONTHS AND I TOLD HER THAT I LOVED HERE AND SHE JUST FREAKED OUT YOU KNOW SHE SAID SHE DONT FEEL THA SAME WAY ABOUT ME SO AFTER A VERY PAINFULL TIME FOR ME I GOT THREW IT EVENTUALLY BUT NEXT TIME WILL NOT FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT A GIRL AGAIN FROM YOUR BROTHS ,, CHEER UP LUV
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| | Saturday, September 09, 2000 - 04:21 am As salaamu alaikum warahmatulaahi wabarakaatuhuu. yippy-ya-yaeh.... yippy-ya-yoooooooooooo.... waan idin salaamay hot people laakiin runta mahaysaan mise heeeeeeeeeeeee sida loo yaacayo u yaacaaaaaaaaaaaa, ha-ha-haaaaaaaaa. As salaamu alaikum warahmatulaahi wabarakaatuhuu.
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| | Sunday, September 10, 2000 - 12:15 am ASALAAMA CALAYKUM WARAHMATULAAHI W. MY NAME IS LLJAMAAL I AM 22 YEARS MALE LIVING IN OTTAWA THAT IS THE CAPITAL CITY OF CANADA IF YOU DIDN'T KNOW THAT. I AM LOOKING NICE INTELECTUALL GIRL TO SPEND REST OF MY LIFE WITH I AM STUDENT AT THE UNIVERSITY OF OTTAWA TAKING A BIOCHEMISTRY HOPING TO BECOME A DOCTOR ONE DAY IN SHA ALLAAH. SO CONTECT ME IF YOU WANT HAVE A GOOD TIME AT LLJAMAAL@hotmail.com
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| | Tuesday, September 12, 2000 - 06:30 am SAGAL I AM SORRY TO HEAR HEAR UR STORY BUT IT SEEMS U WERE NOT SERIOUS AT THE BEGINNIG. BEING THE MAN I AM, I WILL ALWAYS PLAY WITH ANY GIRL WHO IS UP FOR FUN BUT WHEN IT IS REEL IT IS REEL . I AM NOT BLAMING U BUT U KNOW U BETTER OF WITHOUT HIM. SOM GALS FEEL FREE SAVE SOMEOF UR FEELINGS FOR US CAUSE AT THE END U GONNA BE UR WIFEY AFTER BEING SHOWN ROMANCE.
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| | Wednesday, September 13, 2000 - 04:48 am The reason why somali girls afraid of us is dat us somali brothers can't keep a secret. I mean If a somalian girl gives us her treasure we tell it to everybody and anyone who listens, sometimes we even tell it to their brothers, so that is why they are afaraid of us I mean if we just keep our mouth shut then we will receive alot of treasures from out beautiful sisters so guys when a somali sister give u some dont say a word aight and keep your motherfucking mouth shut. ONE.
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| | Wednesday, September 13, 2000 - 06:11 am lol southboy! nice advice !! TED... when there is play, as long as i am aware of it, then it is cool by me n i like to be given the choice whether i wanna take part or not. And in any case, i prefer not to be serouis, in da end that is the way u wont get hurt girls, take it from me, i been there!!
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| | Friday, September 15, 2000 - 07:46 am SAGAL I LIKE THE WAY U DESCRIBED IT BUT IN THIS WORLD NO1 IS INNNOCENT NO MATTER WHAT. IN ALL HONNESTY U SHOULD THANK THE GUY. ANOTHER 1 WOULD HAVE DONE IT. IT IS BETTER TO EXPERIENCE IT SOONER THAN LATER. U KNOW WHAT GIRLS ARE THE 1 WHO START PLAYING GAMES AS SOON AS THEY CANNOT KNOCK IT. THEY CALL IT HEART BROKEN OR ANY SAMILAR WORD. MY DEAR WE ALL RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR MISTAKE. SO LET'S SHARE ITIN CIVIL WAY.
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| | Friday, September 15, 2000 - 08:41 am Hey AJ II sheekee!!!!!!!!! You know what, u dont know nothing about women' And u know what i think that u have been dumpend by a lady, so is that so, Am i on the right track? If that is so there is nothing we can do about it. Or do u wanna us to call her and tell u how u really feel. then call us @ our toll free 1800-wilders that go. then we will be glad to answer your questions. Not only you is that we are inviting but all others who feel the same way about ladies.
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| | Wednesday, September 20, 2000 - 06:03 am Hey guyz u cannot believe how much I have received thnx to all u ladyz and gents out there who tooke part in my conversation.... some of u guyz r here just to say what u think is right we are talking about a reall question here why are u ladyz affraid and now I come to a conclusion that I blame UZ guyz but not 100% u know why I blame uz coz we somalian men damn no dissing but I just feel sorry for myselfe now, coz I have alot of brothaz who I know what they going through here and won't listen coz they think they r right, ladyz I cannot thank u enough now I release it all thnx to who ever created this home page coz it helped ppl like myself somathing....... Well u see we have another fool here ii shekee brotha let me tell thiz I have not been dumped but I have have been rejected many times not coz I look bad or anything but coz I see through their eyes how affraid they were but I know why.... my ppl peace and Love ladyz keep ur head up Gents start thinking PEACE N LOVE ONE
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| | Wednesday, September 20, 2000 - 05:08 pm Now there is a guy who has a head on his shoulders ( AJ ). He actually admits that the guys are at fault. anyways my point still stands. We are not afraid we just smart. Did you ( guys ) ever tell a girl you loved her. what if she had said no i don't love you or "you must be joking" but you were actually being honest and emotional. you'd feel bad. So why should girls take the same risk? love y'all later
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| | Friday, September 22, 2000 - 07:12 pm I GONNA TELL U WHY THEY ARE AFRAID OF US HONESTLY SPEAKING BRO.IT IS BECOUSE OF THOSE BITCH ASS LOUD MOUTH NIGGAZ WHO TELL THEIR CREW WHAT HIM AND HIS GIRL DO BEHIND CLOSED DOORS. BEFORE U KNOW IT THE WHOLE FUCKIN TOWN KNOWS.THE GIRL ENDS UP FEELING LIKE A SLUT.SO DONT BLAME THEM IF THEY THINK TWICE BEFORE FALLING IN LOVE.TO ALL MY BEUTIFUL SOMALI SISTERS KEEP HOPE ALIVE.I LOVE EACH AND EVERY ONE OF U!!!.
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| | Wednesday, October 04, 2000 - 08:27 pm HELLO PEOPLE!!! FIRST OF ALL, LET ME TELL YOU SOMALIAN GUYS, SOMETHING.... MOST OF YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH "I LOVE YOU"  THE BEST YOU CAN DO IS GO 2 YOUR NIGGA'S AND TELL THEM "YO! THAT CHICK LOVES ME...." AND HONESTLY THAT IS WHAT I HAVE SEEN SO FAR! MOST OF MY FREINDS ARE GUYS AND THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT LOVE MEANS AND THEY ALSO DON'T KNOW HOW 2 DEAL WITH IT! BUT ME PERSONALLY I LOVE MY SOMALIAN BROTHERS AND I AM NOT SAYING ALL OF THEM ARE LIKE THAT BUT MOST OF THEM! BUT ME WHEN THE TIME COMES AND THE RIGHT PERRSON I WILL NOT BE AFRAID TO SAY "I LOOOOOOOOOOVE UUU! BUT HOPE HE KNOWS HOW TO RESPOND! GOOD BYE, CHEEKY CHEEKS@OTTAWA
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| | Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 06:43 am aj what u say is knid of true but every one is not the same and some people have a problem to say how they feel about some one if i love some i come out with it because if the person does not feel the same way too i have to deal with that but at least it makes me into a better person to know that i've done it and i know and i am not in the dark any more the main thing is be yourself and do what u want to but some people out there can't say whats in their heart to the one their love and how will u ever know if the person feels the same way too,??? everyone knows life is too short so do what u want to do, and love is beautfull and it makes everybody into a better person , so everyone go out there if u have a love one who does not know how u feel go and tell them and see what happens there only one way so so to everyone i hope everyones love life goes well and those who don't have a love one keep on looking he/she is out there some where don't worry i am stil looking too love and peace one love queen.b.
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| | Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 06:20 pm Personally and honestly, Im afraid of what guys can do to your reputation. I know so many girls who have naively went out with guys or just gave them their phone numbers innocent things like that which turned into a nightmare. These guys will tell all their loser friends about the girl, anything and everything they know about her, and next thing you know, it will come back to her uncle or even worse her dad or something like that. Im tired of Somalis guys talking smack. I mean you guys say you want us girls to open up more.When you guys start changing your ridiculous behavior then maybe maybe when we can start to trust ya. PS: Just to let any fool who might jump to conclusions know that: 1- Im not interested in Jamaicans 2- I have never been interested in anyone other Somalis(well maybe a few arabs here and there  ) 3- Finally, please don't turn anything I have said into a discussion on the issue of "cheap and clean: the somali woman's image in the West" Its getting tiring and old... Thanks
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| | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 05:41 am AJ The reason somalian girls are scared is cuz of the somalian guys if a girl were to tell them she is in love with him the somalian guy would runaway and i think that is true of most guys or he would use her in any way he could.There is also the Reputation the somalian guys take to another lavel and make up stories or tell people that he is sick an tried of that bitch.I personally never told no man that iam in love with tham and don't plane to other than my husband.
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| | Thursday, October 26, 2000 - 10:00 am Hello all Aj brother, I understand where u are coming from with this,and since u said there were some rejections in your life, which is always normal, then I will assume that wasnt love then, coz nothing happened between u. Anyway the thing is, sometimes people confuse luv with infatuation, u might think u luv the person at the time then later on u start to realise u said u luved him too soon without clarifying the feeling correctly. We all know how brothers are, for me, I have been having guys as friends and believe me the stories they tell are not pretty and the worst thing is sometimes they exagerrate, no offence.I am not saying all brothers are like that thank God. So how can a somali queen tell a brother they luv him without making sure the guy feels the same way, coz let us face it, it is not easy to trust a guy, well a gal too in some cases, but the point is, if a guy tells a gal he luvs her, he should have felt how the gal feels about him too while they were dating or getting to know each other, coz luv doesnt come out that easy, it is the attraction first then liking and if things go well we care for and luv the person, but people dont fall in luv the same time, some people accept the fact they luv a person faster than others,so if u dont get a reply you could judge by the actions of the person and if still there is no reply ask the person how they feel. Luv is too deep and special that shows that u are too serious but to what extent, maybe the lady isnt ready for a big commitment if u are and she might get scared who knows. But if u luv someone, u will be patient, communication is the key, if u know each other well u will know in time hopefull if the person feels the same way,hopefully you might not meet a good actor/actress who can show a fake affection and end up getting hurt. As for the ladies, well we should not despair after getting hurt, we are too special, we will find some one who appreciates us, and as for those who did hurt someone well what goes around comes around. Honesty and communication Aj, nothing else i could say. Take care all. Amal_ca_10@yahoo.com
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| | Thursday, October 26, 2000 - 10:03 am Hello all Aj brother, I understand where u are coming from with this,and since u said there were some rejections in your life, which is always normal, then I will assume that wasnt love then, coz nothing happened between u. Anyway the thing is, sometimes people confuse luv with infatuation, u might think u luv the person at the time then later on u start to realise u said u luved him too soon without clarifying the feeling correctly. We all know how brothers are, for me, I have been having guys as friends and believe me the stories they tell are not pretty and the worst thing is sometimes they exagerrate, no offence.I am not saying all brothers are like that thank God. So how can a somali queen tell a brother they luv him without making sure the guy feels the same way, coz let us face it, it is not easy to trust a guy, well a gal too in some cases, but the point is, if a guy tells a gal he luvs her, he should have felt how the gal feels about him too while they were dating or getting to know each other, coz luv doesnt come out that easy, it is the attraction first then liking and if things go well we care for and luv the person, but people dont fall in luv the same time, some people accept the fact they luv a person faster than others,so if u dont get a reply you could judge by the actions of the person and if still there is no reply ask the person how they feel. Luv is too deep and special that shows that u are too serious but to what extent, maybe the lady isnt ready for a big commitment if u are and she might get scared who knows. But if u luv someone, u will be patient, communication is the key, if u know each other well u will know in time hopefull if the person feels the same way,hopefully you might not meet a good actor/actress who can show a fake affection and end up getting hurt. As for the ladies, well we should not despair after getting hurt, we are too special, we will find some one who appreciates us, and as for those who did hurt someone well what goes around comes around. Honesty and communication Aj, nothing else i could say. Take care all. Amal_ca_10@yahoo.com
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| | Thursday, October 26, 2000 - 10:07 am Hello all Aj brother, I understand where u are coming from with this,and since u said there were some rejections in your life, which is always normal, then I will assume that wasnt love then, coz nothing happened between u. Anyway the thing is, sometimes people confuse luv with infatuation, u might think u luv the person at the time then later on u start to realise u said u luved him too soon without clarifying the feeling correctly. We all know how brothers are, for me, I have been having guys as friends and believe me the stories they tell are not pretty and the worst thing is sometimes they exagerrate, no offence.I am not saying all brothers are like that thank God. So how can a somali queen tell a brother they luv him without making sure the guy feels the same way, coz let us face it, it is not easy to trust a guy, well a gal too in some cases, but the point is, if a guy tells a gal he luvs her, he should have felt how the gal feels about him too while they were dating or getting to know each other, coz luv doesnt come out that easy, it is the attraction first then liking and if things go well we care for and luv the person, but people dont fall in luv the same time, some people accept the fact they luv a person faster than others,so if u dont get a reply you could judge by the actions of the person and if still there is no reply ask the person how they feel. Luv is too deep and special that shows that u are too serious but to what extent, maybe the lady isnt ready for a big commitment if u are and she might get scared who knows. But if u luv someone, u will be patient, communication is the key, if u know each other well u will know in time hopefull if the person feels the same way,hopefully you might not meet a good actor/actress who can show a fake affection and end up getting hurt. As for the ladies, well we should not despair after getting hurt, we are too special, we will find some one who appreciates us, and as for those who did hurt someone well what goes around comes around. Honesty and communication Aj, nothing else i could say. Take care all. Amal_ca_10@yahoo.com
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| | Thursday, October 26, 2000 - 12:54 pm This is my first time to the somali net and am glad that i found it. Reading the above discussion only brings my mind to the fact that the majority of our own kind do not know how to "Handle Resistance , and solve Problems". This is down to poor comunication skills.the only way to communicate well is begin with a sense of humility and wiilingness to change. You can not communicate by force of will, you can not bludgen someone in to under standing your point of view. You can only communicate by constant, resourceful,attentive flexibility. Just because he/she is not saying what you want to here does not mean what your conclusions are correct. Most of the times especially when dealing with people, Your conclusions could be your illusions. The key is opening up as many avenues as possible, trying as many doors, using as many different approaches as it takes to solve the problem. In this case the problem would be getting him/her to open his/her heart out for you to see the real picture. If you run one only program, work from one stragedy,you will be as effective as a car that runs with one gear!. Remember there are no Resistant peolple, only inflexible communicators. Just as there are prases and words that automatically trigger feelings or states of resistance, there are also ways to communicate that keep peolpe involved and open. We all know that its very difficult to get some one to do what they dont want to do, but its very easy to get him/her to do what he/she wants to do. By creating an agreement frame,by leading him/her naturally rather then through confilct, you do the latter,not the former.The key to this is that you frame things so that the subject is doing what he or she wants to do not what you want them to do. Its very hard to over come resistance,its much easier to avoid it by building an agreement and rapport. This is one way to turn resistance in to assistance. My Brothers and sisters and dont want you guys to start hatting me allready because am known to the rest of my familly for my slightly off the topic answers to any debates or discussions. But to my self and those who understant me correctly, you know it makes sense. Lastly but not least, I know that we "Somalians" are not where we should have been today because of our mental attitude. We are not fare to ourselves how can we expect the rest of the world to be fare to us? We generally make the mistake of comparing our own experience with another person's experiance. We exaggerate their succesful experiences and downgrade our own success. Experience has nothing to do with ability. (Experience can increase skill but that is another subject). For example, I live in London, so this will apply to every one who live in the uk, There are approx 40 million americans who can do something most of us in the uk can not do. They can drive down the right hand side of the high way! On the other hand, if you can drive the chances are good that you can do some thing 40 million americans can not safely do. You can drive down the left hand side of the High way. This does not mean that either is smarter then the other. it simply means that you have had a different experience. At this moment, you are reading my jargon on the net, this does not mean that you are smarter then three billion who are not raeding this, it just means that you have had a different experience. Am realy sorry once again for getting carried away you all probably think that am an old grand-dad who's been to both world wars but am am really a 22 year who live and work in london. I am Normal guy. Thats my oppinion, you are entitled to yours. Love to all human Kind Especially to those in Pallestine. tariq ahmed...
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| | Friday, November 03, 2000 - 12:55 pm hi there Aj i have no had a problem tellin a guy how i feel cuz i am the kind of girl that cant keep it all bottled up inside. i once dated a somalian guy i felt for him the first time i saw him,we were dating for 1 year we talked about everything how ppl should not tell ppl they love them unless they mean it 4 real.we were very close and had shared something very deep that both of us never had b4. he told me he loved me and so did i.things were going good untill i started having problems at home but i still felt very deep for him and thought that he was the only one that could take my mind of things.but he broke my heart into two.its been 3 years since this happened to me.and beleive me it took me long time get over it.so its easy to say how you feel but not always if u r geting hurt.some somalian guyz give us girls a reason not to be real with the other good caring somalian guyz. but i am glad to say that i am very happy now with my lovely boyfriend who is a sweetheart and very caring and we have been together for the 2 years now..i hope u gals find sweet brothers like my guy. crazy luv goin out 2 all u peepz luv 2 all
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| | Friday, January 26, 2001 - 04:17 am TO.Aj. I am somalian gril and I have a problem the thing is a was in love with this guy and I was never afreid to tell him what I felt, this was in sweden ,the thing is he broke my heart now I have moved to england and I have problem to trust guys,I really want to trust them but I am afreid to get hurt becaus a fall isely in love.love you all
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| | Wednesday, February 07, 2001 - 10:28 am He! Dhalinyaro is me ismail! First time I visit somali net. iam 20 studying computer science uni of london, to remain all you are missing the point ! "knolege of islam " read the Qu'an and wisdom of our beloved prother ( hadith). for more information please don't hesitate or shy to ask any question - nabad gelyo iyo nolikulan. Iam on: AllahIsmail@netscape.net
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| | Friday, February 16, 2001 - 12:49 am couse you •••• us like animals you have such an big diiiiiiiiiiig. and I can't even kiss you couse yhou have such an bid liiiiiiiiiiiiiips.
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