     Noora | Thursday, August 31, 2000 - 03:17 pm
Of course all my respect to our reliogn but i think the somalian parents are too much on the girls while they don't care about the guys. you see my father is realy strict i have to go through alot of expalnations just to let him say okay for me going out with my friends. if i talk on the phone alot he is gonna say something about it not bad but he will say thats is it, i need to use the phone or something, sometimes him or sometimes my mother. my mother seems loose little bit understandble but she have to say soemthing about my friends, oh yes that girl is not that good so stop hanging around with her. so after all i noticed it is not only me. there are bunch of other girls like me whome thier parents are like mine. but anyways eventhough sometimes i feel i wanna runaway but that feeling stays just for a momment and i will be thanking God for the next minute for i have a wonderfull parents and me being a muslim. ISN'T THAT A WEIRDOOOO FEELING?
THANKS YOU ALL |
| the Man | Thursday, August 31, 2000 - 07:44 pm
hi noora
noora it will be my pleasure to respond ur topic coz i founed quite interesting unlike some other topic's that goes around here.
noora what u going through is quite understandable coz we all have sisters and we know how our parent r so stricked with them, but u gatta understand that they just doing it for ur sake well they think they r anyway
noora what u need to to do is that u gatta let u parent know that they can trust u no matter where u r or where u going, the only way to do that is by doing the right thing like praying,respecting each and every member of the family doing ur part of the house work, just doing the simple thing u know, im sure ur parent will look deep down inside and say our doughter is smart enough to take care her self no matter where she goes weather its day or night time
pss with all due respect theres gatta be reason why ur parent r over protecting u!! it must be the booty call huh kidding aight
pss good luck my dear sister
love the Man |
| DEQA | Friday, September 01, 2000 - 10:33 am
HI NOORA
YOU CAN NOT UNDERSTAND NOW BUT BELIEVE ME ONE DAY YOU GONNA LOOK BACK ALL THE THINGS THAT YOU PARANT ARE DOING 4U, I HAD A SAME PROMBLEM GROWING UP, SOME OF MY FRIENDS THEIR PARANT DIDNT CARE AND ME THEY USED TO WACHT EVERY MOVE THAT I MAKE, NOW THOSE(MY FRIEANDS THAT NO BODY CARES) ARE ALL MESS-UP IN THE HEAD, THEY DRINK, SMOKE, SLEEP ARUOND, U DONT KNOW HOW LIKE U R TO HAVE A FAMILY THAT CARES ABOUT YOU, PLS. LISTEN TO THEM AND THANK THEM COS, U NOT GONNA B WITH THEM FOREVER. |
| JAQAF | Friday, September 01, 2000 - 11:22 am
HI NOORA
IT IS HONORING TO RESPOND TO YOUR QUESTION ABOUT SOMALI PARENTS BEEN STRICT 1) ONLY PEOPLE WHO CARES ABOUT YOUR REALLY CARE WEATHER YOUR DO BAD OR GOOD
2)ALL YOUR PARENTS IS DOING TO LOOK OUT YOU FROM PREDATORS WHO PREY ON GET IN HANDS A FEMALE LIKE YOUR INCLUDING MY SELF I HAVE LOST ALL MY DIGNITY TO FEMALES SINCE I CAME TO THIS COUNTRY CALL UNITED SNAKES OR STATES THEY TREAT WOMEN LIKE BITCHES AND WHOSE AND YOUR DON'T WANN BA LIKE THAT SO RESPECT YOUR SELF AND YOUR FAMILY AND KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN AND YOUR LEGS TOGETHER STAY HOME AND COME HOME DECENT HOURS SO PARENTS WILL BE PROUD OF YOU,THEN YOU MIGHT BE ROLMODEL FOR YOUR SISTERS WHO IS DOING BAD IN ALL CAN WAY AND ONE DAY YOU WILL BE SOMEBODY SWEETHEART NOT A WHORE WHO IS SCREW ANY MANDINGO FAMILY FOR A HELL OF IT.
FOR ALL THESE THAT I JUST SAID DO NOT DISREGARD WHAT YOUR PARENT BEEN TEACHING YOUR ALL YOUR LIFE BE NOORE JUST UNTIL YOU FIND YOU MR.RIGHT AND LET NAME FOR SPEAK IT SELF.
JAQAF,LAASKOREY SOMALIA
AND DOGGGG 2002 |
| Anonymous | Friday, September 01, 2000 - 11:39 am
noora waad jiran tahay ee is daawee.. |
| KADRA BASHIR | Friday, September 01, 2000 - 02:22 pm
NOORA I AM GLAD U ASKED THAT QUESTION. COS MY DEAR, HAVING STRICT PARENTS IS WHAT MAKES US DIFFERENT FROM OTHER PEOPLE. BY DIFFERENT I MEAN, US SOMALIAN ARE TRUE MUSLIMS AND HONORABLE PEOPLE. AND THAT IS THANX TO OUR PARENTS BEING HARD AT THEIR WORK. U THINK THAT THEY R DOING SOMETHING TO U NOW BUT ACTUALLY THEY R DOING SOMETHING FOR U AND U'LL UNDERSTAND THAT SOON. AND RUNNING AWAY WON'T SOLVE ANYTHING BUT RESPECT FOR UR ELDERS WILL BENEFIT U WITH NO DOUBT IN BOTH THIS LIFE AND THE NEXT.
I HOPE ALL THESE ANSWERS TO UR QUESTION HELPS. GOOD LUCK SISTER. |
| NOORA | Friday, September 01, 2000 - 07:54 pm
i know and i do realy follow what you all said i don't know about the one who said that i am sick and i need to manage my self. well any ways thank you all for responing to my question thanks alot
NOORA |
| HEBLAAYO | Saturday, September 02, 2000 - 10:23 am
girl let me tel u something me my self i have my own freedom..nobody controls me i control my self ...the problem is for some parents ..their girls at acting so cheap ...so they have to watch them in order for the girl to keep her legs close.....i my self can use the phone all day hang out who ever i won't caz u know why .caz my parents know who i am they trust me as much as i respect them..u know what am talking about u have to earn their trust and respect if u want them to give u space....aight that is all i got to say....ohh let me tell u something..my parents control all of us if they have to guys and girls not only girls they tread us same..is not all somalians parent who got the problem ur family have is some of our people aight peace |
| BURHAN | Sunday, September 10, 2000 - 07:33 pm
DEAR! NOORA
I HAVE READ YOUR TOPIC IT IS UNBELIEVABLE TOPIC.
IF I WERE YOU I WOULD BE THE MOST LUCKEST GIRL IN WORLD. YOU HAVE WONDERFUL PARENT.YOUR PARENT MUST BE CARE ABOUT YOU MUCH AND MUCH. YOU MUST THANKS BACK TO GOD WHO GIVES YOU, WONDERFUL PARENT .
THEY DON'T WANT THEM SEE THEIRE DOUGHTER GET HART OR BE STREET GIRL OR HOKERS. I BELIEVE MYSELF THEY THINK YOUR ARE STILL AMORAS PERSON OR YOU CAN'T BE RESPONSIPBLE PERSON MAYBE SOMEDAY YOU BE ENTERPRISING YOU WILL THRUST ME. THEY MAY LET YOU DO EVERYTHING OTHERWISE YOU NOT RESPONSE
I WOULD TELL YOU ONE THING LISTEN THEM AND BE PATIENT
TAKE CARE SISTER
SINCERELY: BURHAN |
| sista | Monday, September 11, 2000 - 12:23 am
sis ur parents do this cause they love u and want the best for u....my mother is like that im rarely allowed to go out partly cause girls shouldnt do those kind of things and also cause we r living in a sick world where women get killed and raped all the time and it is always better to be safe then sorry |
| Anonymous | Monday, September 11, 2000 - 01:05 am
Jaahil walba oo yurub yimid wuxuu jecelyahay in afka labadiisa yeero. Nuuro shala maantaan aa dibad imaatay maskaxdaa lagaa dhaqay dhaqso. Horta ingiriiska lee si fiican u baro. |
| Awdheere | Monday, September 11, 2000 - 02:41 am
Don't mind! Noora.
Asalaamu caleykum to all of you!
People, I really liked the way you responded and gave her such of good advices. I'm sure that most of the parents want their girls to be good ones, not like those who've been influenced by the so called "westren countries".
It is also clear that the girls want to be proud of but since you "girls" are very humble and vulnerable sisters... vulnerable to all misleadings, you are to be given much, much attention and consideratoin coz you are our "cawra", it is you who will raize a good society up and be good mothers who bring their children up in the right way.
But we can't ignore that parents are sometimes those who offend their daughters... why, becouse they only now how to keep their daughters at home! instead they would work hard and find suitable men for their daughters, for we know what is best for the girls. Parants must encourage their daughters to get married as soon as they become mature!
Ppl sorry for i made you confused becouse of my poor English...take care all of you. |
| LAMIA | Monday, September 11, 2000 - 05:16 am
To NOORA i feel you girl that's just the way our parents grew up and i think nothing will change them. So just be patient.
byeeeeeeee |
| somaliG | Tuesday, September 12, 2000 - 02:51 am
the man ...
mannnnnn...
you said it right...
and i liked the last part....lol just kidding
noora...
sis we all have the same problems....
peace |
| Quman | Monday, September 18, 2000 - 11:16 pm
Noora I never understood why my mother mostly wouldn't let me go to certain places or she gets all piss off and yell when I'm late and didn't call. But I didn't really let it get to me. But now that my mother is away and I'm looking after my younger sister...I totally get it. She went out with couple of her friends from school, the friends not being SOmali and all...she was late for few hours. My God i was so worry, I was afraid something might happend to her...damn that was the worst feeling on earth. When she walked in I started yelling and asked why she didn't call and than I told her she can never go out with those girls again...after I said that remember my mother. I almost cried knowing how worried and scared she was for me...that is the Love of Parent |
| Anonymous | Thursday, November 30, 2000 - 04:42 pm
hey noora i agree w u to a point but i also believe that parents should keep their doughters sheltered to a degree. let me tell u something i know this relgous family that has da biggest hoe for a daughter. they have so much pressure on her that she runs away almost every weekend. so she needs some space and shelter, |
| NAIMA | Friday, December 15, 2000 - 12:17 am
DEAR NOORA
I'M NOT SAYING THAT OUR SOMAILAN PARENT AR'NT STRICKED. THEY SOMETIMES HAVE TO BE TO RESPECT OUR ' US GIRLZ IN SHEFFIELD GET ALL THE FREEDOM AS WE LIKE BUT SOME TIMES WE HAVE TO OBAYSOME RULEZ |
