     asli | Thursday, November 30, 2000 - 08:59 am
is it good to meet people over the net?
have any of you actually met someone yet.
do you think that asking to get to know people over the net makes you desperate? |
| xbb | Thursday, November 30, 2000 - 10:51 am
Dear Asli,
To answer your question, its never a good idea to give out your E-mail over the net, and I don't know of anyone that has been successful in meeting a descent person over the net. ppl are always chit chatting either to kill time or are sickos (chat rooms). Finally, don't believe what ppl say over the net..they are not rich/educated/handsome etc I think you got the pic. |
| Samatar | Thursday, November 30, 2000 - 11:17 am
asli...don't really listen to xbb. he/she is very very negative and pessimistic. Those kind of people who have always negativity about things don't go far.
To answer your question..unlike xbb..i would say u could..really!!!. You may also meet couple of "time wasters". Here is my point to you: If you consider yourself very decent and serious and you check out chatrooms and forumss..don't you think there are other people like you who come too..so,therefore,you could meet those people.
I know people who have met great people in the chatrooms and discussion forumss. Some even got married.
Good luck sis..and always stay positive and optimistic. That will reflect in your image you project when you meet people online.
take care
Samatar |
| bashe | Thursday, November 30, 2000 - 02:53 pm
I beliefe is a waste of time.
so dont waste your time.
is better to read book, or quran.
go to school, work, ect........
because it will never work
ask me why? |
| Samatar | Thursday, November 30, 2000 - 06:05 pm
bashe, don't be stupid!!!
And how the hell do you expect her to meet her love...sitting , going to school, ...
what if she is in a place where there are none of her types...shouldn't she exploiting all avenue..including online..what does she have to lose?...
damnn..people...am i smarter than you all are or is it just the stupids that respond?
lol..no offense, bro.
samatar |
| asli | Monday, December 04, 2000 - 12:18 am
you're right samatar and i like your positive attitude. i think that it would be a change to meet someone over the net rather than meeting the same usual way, trough friends, family etc.
so are you anywhere near the UK and would you ever consider meeting anyone? |
| Ayaan!! | Monday, December 04, 2000 - 01:40 am
Hiya folks,
Asli dear i have meet two girls online and we were good friends for over 3 yrs . I met one of then when we known each other for 2 yrs and the other one 3yrs.When we met it wasn´t like meeting people at school, work, family members, friends etc, but it was more fun and relaxing, cause talking to pll online is like talking to yourself. You talk about things you don´t usually talk with other pll near you (that is if you don´t have close friend like me)
Another thing Asli, as Samatar said you will meet differet people online some good and some bad, it´s like the world out side. So i would say don´t be negative as our friend xbb said. Be open minded and carefull at the same time.
I think Samatar said everything and it´s good to see people like him around.
Peace
Ayaan!! |
| asli | Monday, December 04, 2000 - 05:26 am
i don't find it difficult communicating with people in the real world. i actually avoid meeting to many people or getting to know too many people.
if i meet someone over the net than it's all good and if i don't it's still all good.
i just wanted to know how pervious experience with people meeting were like.
thanx for that message ayaan. |
| Samatar | Monday, December 04, 2000 - 10:18 am
hi,
asli, no, i am not near uk. I am in Canada.
yes, in combination with the ones i meet in real life, i have met about 5 girls online. i meet girls regularly in social gatherings and stuff. but, i admit online is more fun. The ones i met online, it didn't go beyond 2 days of talking over the phone with 3 of them cuz they were not honest about what they said about themselves at first online. Some regretted of having lied to me after they interrogated me and found out that i am the "perfect" guy (quote is from them). One was all good but i couldn't handle a long distance relationship neither did she..so, we stopped in a nice way. And one, i dated her for about 6 months. It was fun and it didn't really feel that we met online. We had a lot in common. We almost forgot the way we met after couple of days of dating.
I like to mention that a lot of people are really taking a wrong approach at first. The very first things you say about yourself are the key. If someone finds you very interesting online it is because he/she likes what you said about yourself. If you start saying a whole lot of different stuff after you begun communicating, it would project the wrong image of you (i.e. a liar). i guess "lying" about info that will show who you are exactly or your full name at first isn't a bad idea as long as you don't lie about the key information, ie. age, looks,education,marital status. U don't mess around with those info if u are willing to meet interesting person. By the way, people who are interesting and who have achieved a lot , and who look good, those people won't hide their good stuff. In the contrary, they will tell you they are all good. Only, those who got nothing will pretend to be something they are not.Isn't that a sign of low self-esteem itself? That's my view
bye |
| asli | Tuesday, December 05, 2000 - 01:04 am
it's true about honesty, you got to tell the truth from day one. there's allot of people who mess about thinking that everybody else thinks like them.
would you argue that if you go online to meet people then that means that you're desperate.
how is canada?
come to think of it, i wouldn't mind meeting someone over the net but it's tricky.
you never know.
in your case, i must say that it is worth it.
you having met someone that is as nice as you say .
you went through with it.well done. |
| samatar | Tuesday, December 05, 2000 - 07:56 am
no, online "hunting" does not make you desperate. It is reaching out for more excitement.
Actually, it is more fun than meeting a girl at a wedding or a party. Online, she can be talkative. Whereas, at wedding or parties, girls will be too shy and will be looking down, which is boring for me. But, online (first few days online though..i ain't down for a relationship online), it could be fun.
bye |
