     GoodGirl | Tuesday, December 19, 2000 - 03:52 am
This is a question for all you bro's out there, please tell us why? and how important pride is to u guys. Would u lose someone u care about, by not saying how u feel about them because u are afraid or think that if we (the ladies)find out how much u love us that we would play with your hearts.
I HOPE NOT. |
| thug-in-me | Tuesday, December 19, 2000 - 04:26 am
sis let me tell u why? well it's like this if u
express ur feelings to most of the girls
the out come would be either she is gona sit back
n relax or u have to chase her 24/7...somalido waxeey dhahdaa naag hadii aa siisid malab
kadiddeeda ee kusiisaa lol...n 4 reall m not just saying this
most of the girls would hesitate if u be honest with them.& boys don't hide stuff like
that. girls are those one play hard but at the same time they can't hang to their game that's why i think men are heartless than women.....u girls paly hard to get but they can't proceed the mission lol.later |
| Ex bb | Tuesday, December 19, 2000 - 05:42 am
That is ridiculous, who says Somali men can't express how they feel about a particular woman, or may be I'm in the minority. I've always expressed my feelings to the woman I love and eventually married. I can't tell u how easy it is to communicate when the two of you are on the same page. |
| AbdiC | Tuesday, December 19, 2000 - 06:31 am
Good Girl.. I express my feelings to women who are not Somali. I did so to a Somali woman once upon a time and she began to act weird. I was honest with her and she mistook my honesty as something bad. I learned my lesson and realized that Somal iwomen like the play 2 hard to get and lies. So therefore I don't express my feelings to Somali women and I just tell them lies.
AbdiC |
| Common | Tuesday, December 19, 2000 - 02:46 pm
why do ladies wanna hear what we gota say anyways?
Ladies don't care about what we wanna talk about, if somali sisters don't hear what they want, they still feel bad, so what's the point. U guys don't wanna hear our interests and if we tell u how we feel, it's all for your pride.
So rephrase your qn sister, and ask why we don't tell u what u all wanna hear.
Peace |
| GoodGirl | Tuesday, December 19, 2000 - 11:53 pm
AM glad you guys answer me back, but i think u guys got it all wrong. Then u guys say your Romantic please bro.
Abdic what is wrong with your somalian sisters, and just because you had one bad experience that is no excuse, we are not the same bro.
And TO Common, ofcouse we care what you got to say, as long as it is not a lie. So if u are just saying things because we the ladies want to hear it then who is the liar ABDIC.
PLEASE DON'T TRY TO COME UP WITH BAD EXCUSES, TELL ME THE TRUTH AND SAY IT IS NOT PRIDE U GUYS ARE AFRAID OFF.
To Ex bb well if u can say how u feel without any problems i hand it to u.
but your just one of many. |
| Yasin | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 02:53 am
I think most Somali women don't understand what it means to have a feeling for some one.
when you express your feelings to them There are many women who think that you are week or that they own u and mistreat u.Besides, i could be wrong, but i believe that most Somali women aren't intelligent enough to love for some one for who they are or to give some one a chance to get to know them, instead they mock them and treat them inhumanely.
I think we Somalis in general don't understand the value of having a loving relationship with some one and the women are the worst in that regard. |
| Drifter | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 10:20 am
Goodgirl
Let's rephrase that question. Why are you guys scared off expressing your feelings to us??? Is it Pride??? . As you can see it goes both ways. So it doesn't matter who says what as long as u both want the samething. We all have pride but we won't lose someone over it. I hope I didn't get it wrong like the rest of them. |
| deeqow | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 10:30 am
goodgirl
honestly aight i express my feelings to girl i like but it happens many times that u have a relation some body u don't love, u may have certain relation with her and she want hear how u feel than what u gonna say? notin' but keep ur mouth shut coz if i say i do love that means i'm lying which i don't want do so it depends on the girl to quit the relation when she realize the guy does'nt care.
ramadan kariim |
| Big Easy | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 05:19 am
I don't know what type of experience u had but my babygirl never complains about me expressing my feelings to her. Somethings don't need to be said and others are said through physical contact and the rest is left to the cigarette afterwards. What more could a girl want???? |
| angle | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 02:25 pm
it,s funny how i hear alot of the boys saying that the girls play hard to get. but honeys maybe thats just the way they are. coz this only happens when two people are getting to know eachother, than later it should be smooth.
i hope you guys don't expect us to throw ourselves at you, coz that will never happen.lol
and to the bro- that said somali girls dont deserve to be loved coz they will only break yourhear,honey only give your heart to some1 that will treasure it!
i think saying how you feel makes your relationship easier, comfortabler and more stabler. so drop the pride boys and let us see some action and improvements. ie romance! |
| GoodGirl | Saturday, December 23, 2000 - 12:12 pm
GOOD ANSWERS, I MUST SAY TO MOST OF U.
WHEN I SAY THAT U GUYS DON'T EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS I DON'T MEAN SAY I LOVE ON THE FIRST DAY COZ THE IS STUPID. SO IS PHYSICAL CONTACT AS IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SAYING HOW U FEEL.
I HOPE WE CAN ALL EXPRESS HOW WE FEEL TO ONE ANOTHER WITHOUT THINKING THAT WE HAVE SOMETHING TO LOSE. BUT JUST REMEMBER SAY IT ONLY IF U MEAN IT, NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR A LIE.
THANX ONCE AGAIN FOR YOUR ANSWERS.
TO YASIN MY FRIENDZ THINKS THAT YOUR NAME IS EVER NICE AND LIKE YOUR OPTION AND THINK THAT WE WILL BE HEARING FROM U AGAIN.
(WEST LONDON RARE-DIAMOND LADIES) |
| Yasin | Saturday, December 23, 2000 - 06:35 pm
Good Girl:
I really like the discussion here.I's positive without any rancor.We are exchanging our ideas like adults.
Who are your friends?
Sis, I am sorry, i didn't really understand your comment.
Your Bro
Jamal Yasin |
| Abdul | Tuesday, December 26, 2000 - 07:23 am
Goodgirl i must say that u brought it very good q but i don,t think that the problem we r facing as a somalian guyz is how to express our feeling 2 our sis but how we communicate to 1 another is da problem.....
4 examble most of da guyz who try to anwer this q they all had a almost same believe in ya'll chickz such as uz r playing hard 2 get,uz will let them down if they express their feeling 2 uz and eg.......but that is not tru and ain't mad at brodez 2 feel dat way coz a few yearz back i had a some believe which made me outsider meaning i was only dating and beining friends wit a white chicks as well as other different races which i have no regrets coz i learn a lot from being wit them such as da needz of femalz and the way they like to be treated which i never new coz letz faced guyz we don,t treat our sis the way they should be treated and we try to put them down physically and mentally and after coming back 2 the community i discover dat our sis were not these thinks we as a guyz claim them 2 be but they needed a little bit understand.
i gues guyz wat i,m trying 2 say is dat letz give a chance 2 sis to get to know uz firs i mean if u think she,z 4 u then try and built a friendship wit her first coz dat,z where da real love began as they said if there not frienship there not love and plz don,t go da old school way as(ku arkay kuna caanshaqay) dat means u think u love dat person but in a reality u don,t coz i believe dat u can,t love or hate someone wit out knowing them very well
4 me b4 da biggest scary think was will i find a true love or will i order 1 from africa lol
but know boyz and gilz da futura is bride coz after i discover almost everthink dat i need 2 know about my somalia sis i found out dat all da quility + more is in them and i hope dat 1 day when i,m ready i will find da 1 i deserve and some 2 uz all in sha allah and till then
i,m dream chasser.
guyz plz feel free 2 ask any q dat u may have.
i,m out broz and sis
and thanx again goodgirl
luv 4 u and
1 luv 2 da rest of uz
abdul from ozy |
| the-muslim | Tuesday, December 26, 2000 - 10:47 am
goodgirl
what do u want?.
u want a fiendship b4 marriege?
u want like nonbelievers who suck each other b4 thier regular marriege.
thank God we got a religion we are not like them.
i confess my love ,but to my wife only , not b4 marriege, goz she is not my wife when we are dicusing about marrying each other.
God pless u .
remeber we aint Americans or Canadians .
we r somalis n from somalia .
a muslim cultural society |
| nin diin leh | Tuesday, December 26, 2000 - 02:27 pm
My dear brothers and sister Asalamu aleikum warahmatulahi wabarakaatuh eed mubarak kulu amin wa antum bekheyrin after that all plesses be ub on beloved prophet muhamed S.A.W.you muslims you are the best nations in the world cos alah choosen you as a muslims you are very lucky so don,t loose your luck you have to flow complete guadian the quran and the sunah as alah said (It is not fitting For a Believer man or woman
When a matter has been decided By God and His Apostle to have any option About their decision If any one diobeys God and His Apostle he is indeed on a clearly worng Path.(ayah36.in surah al ahzab)so brothers and sisters when you choosing or u tacking love and marriage u have to falow islamic way and I my self steal single but I will falow the islamic way of live may alah help us may alah pless you all Asalmu aleykum |
| angle | Tuesday, December 26, 2000 - 02:35 pm
the bro- abdul-that said communication is the problem that's drifting us apart, bro- I agree with you. the ? is what are we going to do about it. people should know the meaning of the commitments they drive themselves into when marrying each other for the wrong reasons. I am disgusted to see how the value of marriage has gone down the drain. my ? is i hope people could be more honest with each other and value the friendship, after all love is for treasure so don't play with it or you just might lose it forever.
goodluck. bye4now! |
| Yasin | Thursday, December 28, 2000 - 04:25 am
I think it is true that we Somalis don't know how to communicate with one another.
You see, we are human beings, we can communicate and we are supposed to solve our problems through communication.Besides, if there is a problem we don't try to talk about it and look for a common ground.Like in Somali marriages, once they have a problem, it's over.The couple never tries to look for a solution.My friends, that' not a very intelligent way....
All people have problems, there is nothing smooth about life, there will always be challenges, but we should always try to find a solution instead of escaping from it.Because if you don't face and run away 'escaping from it' is exactly what you are doing....
But apparently 'solving our social problems' through peaceful, amicable and an intelligent way is a skill we Somalis badly need to develop... |
| tara | Thursday, December 28, 2000 - 04:56 am
Good girl........ tell me what do you like about somalian man.... |
| realityman | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 05:19 pm
HI,
i'm not narrow minded, but i really dont care what these ladies say.
trust me , i'm talking from a personal experience expressing ur deep inner feelings to any woman whether somali or not.. only results in total catostraphie.
and for me personally, i know the saying that goes ( if u make mistake once..its fine, because u learn from it.... but to make the same mistake twice is stupid)
i'm out of here |
| mr.zee | Thursday, January 04, 2001 - 11:36 pm
aha yeah i totally agree wit ya reality man if u express your deep down feelings for a lady whether a white lady or somali sister it jus ends up in real catastrophie and i jus had xperience of that and well i really have ta learn from that and well to good girl i think u came up wit a good topic and well here's da real answer hun as the reality man said and i yam sayin neva eva xpress tha .......... u kno so peace i yam out
ciao
ps i also agree its a miscomunication ... lol |
| sima | Friday, January 05, 2001 - 06:53 am
first, I think this question needs to be rephrased,or reversed. you guys are the ones that are afraid to express their feelings, not us. You guys always say exactly the opposite of what is in your hearts, which you always say is originated from a lady called (ARAWEELO) whom we have never seen. And always have lame excuses such us: how can I say this to my husband or worst of all my boyfriend, It's a woman thing, or I am shy. being shy is something, But being a liar is onother.oops!!!.to make a long story short, please don't lie to yourself (women) and to us. |
| GOODGIRL | Friday, January 12, 2001 - 05:44 am
tara WHAT DO I LIKE ABOUT OUR SOMALIAN BRO'S?
THE ANSWER IS EVERYTHING APART FROM THEIR SKILL TO COMMUNICATE WITH US AND FEW OTHER THINGS BUT THE ARE OUR FUTURE KEEPING THAT IN MIND I SAY EVERYTHING.
LISTEN PEOPLE DON'T GET ME WRONG RELIGION IS VERY IMPORTANT AND I RESPECT IT AND AM NOT SAYING SLEEP WITH EACH OTHER WITHOUT BEING MARRIED, AM JUST SAYING SAY WHAT U FEEL IS THERE ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT? IF YOUR INTENTION IS GOOD AND 4 THE FUTURE.
THNX ABDUL LOST OF LUV GOES OUT TO U |
| sumaya | Friday, January 12, 2001 - 06:55 am
to;abdi c .hey if a girl broken your heart dont be mad at all somalian girls.i am a somalian girl my self and i know that there is not just uss the problem is with you guys play hard to get to.so give the girls a break.and laern how to tell your girl what you feel nimanyohow. |
| Dude | Friday, January 12, 2001 - 04:35 pm
I think the main reason that, guys never admit thier feelings is that, we (as a guys) think that we are not emotional vonarable as a women. We tend to keep our feelings inside of us, so ladies never take advantage of our honesty. Furthermore, our culture is besed on that way, which sometimes can be difficult, cause it's hard to hide your feelings when you are in love. We also believe that the more you open your heart to a girl, the more she aigh't respect to you. I know the fact that, the more I hide my emotion from my girl, the more she wants me, and the more I show her my passion, the more she resist. peace |
| MUNA | Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 12:57 am
TO GOODGIRL AND ALL U PPL
I TELL U WHY SOMALIAN MEN DON'T SAY HOW THEY FEEL
IS COUSE THEY SAY IT SO MANY TIMES TO THE WRONG GIRLS AS LIE AND WHEN THE REAL ONE COMES ALONE THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY..... SPEECHLESS....... |
| PublicEnemy1 | Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 09:56 am
First of all let me be more blatent then anybody in this discussion. Also let me warn all those bredges (guys) out there that west london girls are full of it, i don't blame any of you bredges out there for not saying how you feel because there ain't any decent girls out there. My point is (take it as you like west girlies) at the end of the day we are all muslim people, i am not saying that i am a saint but west london girls do things that white people do, let me interpret, you girlies are bunch of hoochies, smoke, sleep around iam i getting close. later.... |
| raage | Thursday, January 18, 2001 - 09:13 pm
muna you say it gril, |
| ignorance_enemy_1 | Friday, January 19, 2001 - 01:03 am
number one,
you better start cleaning your nose from all that dust your trying to sniff.igonorant people are the ones that judge all without even knowing them at all.
there's beasts out there that would dig their sharp,dirty claws on your emotions as soon as they find out what your feeling, sometimes it's best not to show.
if you like someone let them go, if they come back you'll know.
in other words if i liked a guy so much , i would tell him how i feel and if he even tries to play the smallest game, it's OVer.
that's how you know they're not the right one.
oh yea, show us your passion boys but don't go too far, coz you know you ain't getting anywhere near my lap until i have that diamond wedding ring on.
peace out peeps,
one love. |
| GoodBoy | Friday, January 19, 2001 - 06:15 pm
To: ignorance enemy 1:
The feeling is mutual. But the question is who could hold on longer?. and let me correct you on one thing. We are not all there to score. Some of us really want to settle with the right women of course. And if I may say a word about why it is hard for us to show our feelings, yes, part of it is about pride and the other part has a lot to do with you not responding accourdingly. |
| a_bad_girls_victim | Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 01:50 am
Hi goodgirl:
If that could help (top) I did express my feelings to a girlfriend even using my blood as an ink!
the result was that she ended up with another guy who divorsed her within a year.
I have done every thing but she is there to ignore my feelings.
the story was 8 yrs ago and both of us live in different countreis with no contact, however, she knows that i am still in love with her, but.....
remenber, all the girls are goodgirls! |
| $Om@L! boy | Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 03:43 am
First of all when I see the somali ladies at the parties and the weddings and lookin' very good as god created them. I think that they are looking for sone1 to take care of them as a man. I used to think that they were better than any other girls, havin' their cultures and religions. Last summer I met a girl at a party. She was very cute and good looking. When things got heavier and I told her my feelings about her and she became totally another person. So I think somali girls like players and not romance. A guy who is not honest and got a game he plays. I thought that she was diffrent than any other girl in our town but she turned just like them. |
| boo from acton | Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 05:37 am
SH** aka xaaaaaaar,
WHY IS IT ALWAYS THE SAME OLD TALE........
U TELL THEM UR FEELINGS THEY WALK ALL OVER U.......
U DONT TELL THEM THEY WALK OFF FROM U!
I'M SPEAKIN FROM A PERSONAL EXPEREINCE
WHAT IS THE SOLUTION I WONDER?
ps; most london gals r from 1 bad category, that is a fact! |
| Yasin | Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 06:03 am
To all Somalise
Please you should learn how to write in English and use capital letters when you are begining a sentence, and full stop when it ends. |
| one kind soul | Wednesday, January 24, 2001 - 03:19 am
TO Yasin,
It is best you practice what you preach, first learn how to spell Somalis...ok.
And lastly my dear boy English is not their mother tongue so it doesn't matter how they write or spell it so long as it comprehensible. |
| hakaba2 | Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 04:10 pm
To all the ppl in this page.
WOW........ this is amazing, since when we become westren,six years ago or ten years i don't.
Who chenged our traditions and costums, since the americans started given asylum or when they emptied OTAANGO or other refugee camps in kenya.
WOOOOw damn, good girl i wanna tell u one thing,
SOMALI WOMEN AREN'T READY YET TO KNOW THE TRUTH OR FEELING, SO PLS QUIT OK.And fells, what hell is wrong with u, pls tell the what they deserve to hear.
peace hakaba2 |
| Anonymous | Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 09:21 pm
Expressing feelings? kawada sheekada halkaas |
| $Om@li boy | Monday, January 29, 2001 - 04:21 am
Yasin, would u shut the •••• up. Peopole are trying to descus things in here. It doesn't matter if they are writting wrong or right, as long as we understand each other, that's all that counts.
Actually it's me again. These fellows made me to write again. I just wanted to say to good girl. Girl please, why are u tlking about guys in here, like somali girls show there feelings more than the somali brotha. I am not 100% sure that guys show their feelings, but I am sure that a guy would tell the girl he likes that she is pretty enough to get with or something like that(that's what I did)when the girl is sitting with her freinds and telling her freinds that she like this guys over the last two years and she never did something about. All I am trying to say is that if u guys say that somali men don't show their feelings then the girls are very far away from from showing feeling.
Thanx 'n' peace. |
