     Muna | Friday, January 12, 2001 - 04:10 am
Waxaan ahay gabdh waxbarata, quruxbadan,fiican....
Lakiinse mushkilad yar ayaa i haysata, .....
Reerkayaga ayaa nin i sii yey, laakiinse ninkaas anigu majecli, imana cajabin, runtii hada mahayo ninkale oo aan isjecelnahay, mana rabo inaan iminka guursado.......Reerkayagiina been baan u sheegay oo waxaan idhi inan kale ayaan is jecelnahay.......So tell me what you think.......
is it worth lying to your family to wait for the one allah suggest or go for the one your family suggest. |
| OpX | Friday, January 12, 2001 - 05:34 am
Hey Muna
Well you asked for advice sistuh, so let me tell you what I have gota say about your issue.
What I believe that its totally wrong, and am against that idea at all but that isn't the issue the issue is what you should do about it right?
Well here is my suggestion lying to your parents will not gona take you anywhere sooner or latter that lie will end and you will regret you never done that, so I suggest that you go and talk to your parent and tell the truth that you don't want to marry this guy and he isn't your pick.
And take it nice and slow to make them understand how this affects you and how you would like things to go for you, and while you are doing that take someone with you like relative or close person who will feel you pain and more understandable and always go around the education and the age cause parents seems to respect that then the feelings of the person.
If that doesn't work then may be its Your Calaf so you gota live with, things happened with the will of God so may be that is the way it suppose to be.
I hope I helped and good luck all the best 4 U sistuh, and keep me posted how things go for you, bye good luck.
OpX |
| muna | Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 12:28 am
To OPX
Thank u for your advice. |
| Hope | Monday, January 29, 2001 - 07:14 pm
Salaam,
Hi Muna,Hey sis ouch that is a tough situatoin but no matter what u decided upon cheating is the least thing to consider,it's really hard to undo it but a lie is no aid,it bounds u with hurt in the long run and indeed hunts u cousing regrets.
Actually,bro OptX gave u agood advice and I agree with him but let me add this for you:
You don't love this guy rite? You have to do everything in ur power to make sure ur parents undertsand that,marriage is not agame sis,it's astrong bound and with no tight foundation it will definitely fall off so be carefull sis.
The prophet (S.A.W) said in one of his hadiths
no one even parents have the rite to force a girl into marriage against her wishes,so use the religion as aback up too lol@ it's worth it,Make them understand u have a whole life ahead of you and that u r not ready for it,but don't marry just to please them sis.Don't get me wrong,I can't imagine not having my parents blessings but u have to consider what is astake here..ur future is on the line here and that is definitely important,otherwise I wish u best of LUCK sis and take it easy and may Allah intervene on ur behalf.
Take care sis.
Salaam |
| kanadid | Tuesday, January 30, 2001 - 12:28 am
salamu calaykum
muna
waxaan umalaynayaa in ad ninlaan kugu dhacday
ee benta dhaf waligay ma,arg gabarsasuhadlaysa
qof walba wuxuujecelyahay dokhiisa
dokhaga radso oorerka shekadoda kabawd
ama ciyaarta nagadhaf ee mafolxuntahay
sidas iyo nabadgalyo |
