     Anonymous | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 05:56 am
Asalaamu Calaykum,
Hi, I just wanted to ask this question and to know exactly where our religion stands on the following question:
Ok, I was really really interested in this guy, and I always wanted to tell him but I never got the chance. He's no longer in my life, but my question is would it have been Haram if I approached him and let him on how I felt about him. Or is that allowed. Im really not sure because a lot of my friends are telling me that I should have let him know and that it was stupid of me to let him go. Im just wondering this..
Jazakullah Khayra
PS: Can you also include any Hadith or Quranic sources..
Thanks |
| asad | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 08:31 am
"my question is would it have been Haram if I approached him and let him on how I felt about him."
as far as i know, there is no difference between a man and a woman on this---if either of them tells th other how he or she feels about the other. if a man is allowed to tell a woman how he feels about her, then a woman can do the same.
i think khadija proposed to the prophet and let the prophet and other people know about how she felt towards the prophet. the propeht later married khadija. |
| Anonymous | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 09:00 am
Anonymous
Your question is not clear. Just you say, "Okay, I was really really interested in this guy ..."
So, please specify your interst about him! Is it about marriage or what?
Also talk about what made you go into this interest- yours and his. |
| Anonymous | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 09:55 am
I don't think I was necessarily interested in marriage as I did not know him well enough, but I was interested in getting to know him better.
What drew me to him was of course his appearance and also his mannerism. He acted like a very humble and decent human being with iman.
My question was basically would it be haram to let a guy know that you are into him, inaad kaa heshay, soo maad garan. If it is not haram then how could I do so in such a way that I would not bring any dambe on to myself or the other person
Did you understand the question now? |
| asad | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 11:40 am
"Did you understand the question now?"
i understood your question. let me ask you this: do you think it is haraam for a man to let a woman know that he likes her. if you think it is not haraam for him to say that to her, what made you think it is haraam for a lady to do the same thing? |
| formerguest | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 06:21 pm
Anonymous.
I know a way you can find out about him:
A- Invite him at your house, tell your brother, or father, or someone you can't get married to, to be around when you talk to the guy, you do that behind a veil!. Because it is forbidden to be alone with a man if you can be married to him. I know it sounds old fashioned but that is the islamic way. Also, you can talk to his relatives, his siters or etc and find out about him that way. You can also talk to your brother to find out more about the guy. Guys know each other better than women do know men. Always we as men present ourselves to be nice. One thing I will never regrett, is finding out about the man my sister wants for marriage. I would find out all I could about him, if the request is made. It is part of my job. If you are not serious about him and don't want to get married, I say, your interest is purely hormone driven. We all have our interests. We like beauty don't we.?. I myself am obsessed with it. But the Question is, what can you/we do about the interest you/we have for someone?. You/we either play right or play wrong and get condemned by ALLAH. It is no good.
That was purely my personal advice. If there is a mistake, religious one, Others will correct me, If you didn't like what I told you, I expressed my opinion. An opinion is as good as the other one as long as none of them is out of place islamically. |
| Anonymous#222 | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 04:41 am
Anonymous
I am Ex. Anonymous who asked for you to specify your interest.
According to your words of "I don't think I was necessarily interested in marriage ..., but I was interested in getting to know him better.", Your question is not reasonable and it tastes just joke. So, Please use these words(good or bad) instead of Haram or Halal.
Again, Remember this saying, "Think before you leap" which means in Somali: ka fiirso intaadan falin.
And Finally, try to defeat this kind of interest before you fall in ceaseless hole which many beautiful girls are suffering in |
| umsoomaal | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 03:19 pm
asalaamu calaykum.
walaalayaal gaar ahaan formerguast iyo anunoums22
waad ku mahadsantihiin sida wanaagsan ee Diinta ku salaysan eed walaashiin ugu soo jawaabteen.
JAZAAKUMUL-LAAH KHAYR.
waxaan ku darsanayaa oon hubaa inay maanta DARUURO(NECESSARY)LAGAMA MAARMAAN),
INAY NOQOTAY WAKHTIGAN AYNU JOOGNO INLAYSKA SOO BAADHO ALL THE TRANSMITOIN DECEASES BEFORE YOU MEET YOUR NEW HUSBAND OR WIFE!!!!!
waayo wakhtigan aynu joogno xataa haduu yahay qofkan aad guursanaysaa mid FAAXISHADA ka dhawrsanaa weligii waxaa dhicikarta inay sikale ugu soo dhuumato sida inuu soo guursaday mid wax soo qastay dumarkana inay soo guursatay laga yaabaa mid aan kala jeclayn SINADA IYO GALMADA XALAASHA AH.
walaalayaal aad uga digtoonaada YOUR MARRIED CUOPLES BEFORE YOU HAVE ANY SEX WITH HIM OR HER.
EVEN WHEN YOUR CHILDREN WHOM WANTO MARRIED PLEASE MAKE SURE THEY GET TASTED BEFORE.
AND PLEASE AKHWAANEE arinkan u fahma in caafimaadkiina iyo mustaqbalkiina uun loola danleeyahay hana ku kala xanaaqina inaad isa soo baadhaan.
waa walaashiin FIL-ISLAAM OO DANAYNAYSA XAYAATADIINA QAALIGA AH EE LOO ABUURAY CIBAAADA ILAAHAY OO KALIYA.
WAXAAN SIDAA U LEEYAHAY WAXAAN LAKULMAY QAAR KAMIDA WALAALAHA QURBAHA IYO REER GALBEEDKA LA NOOLAA INBADAN OO XANUUNADAA LOO QARIYEY.WALCIYAADU BIL-LAAHI! |
| Al-faruq | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 09:07 pm
Asalaamu Caleykum
Waxaan u maleynayaa in jawaabta uu bixiyay walaale ASAD laakiin mid ogaada dumaroow markaad raga la hadleysaan in eydaan hadalka u jilcin maxaa yeelay ma haboona in inantu ay hadalkeeda dabacsanaado si uusan mid walboo munaafaq ahi damac ugu yeelan iskuna dayin la xiriirkeeda. Kama wado KANANOOW laakiin balse meel dhexe ku ekood, waxaa la hayaa gabar isbuuc wiil la sheekeysanesa ka dibna dheheysa MACAANE, ABOOWE, XABIIBI, waxyaalahaas looma baahna ka dib laga yaabaa intuu jeceel ku abuuro hadana ka gambisto deedna ay noqoto inay gabartii is badasho, marka ma xuna inaad wiil dantaada u sheegatid laakiin tell him in a matter that he won't try to take adavantage o you. And keep in mind inaad labadiinaba AJAANIB kala tihiin hadalada qaarkoodna idiinma banaana.
Hadii aan qaldanahay waa la sixi karaa.
WABILAAHI TOWFIIQ |
| Anonymous#222 | Friday, October 20, 2000 - 06:11 am
Umsoomaal
Waad ku mahadsan tahay talada wanaagsan ee xoogineysa in la dadaalo oo lagu heshiiyo in la isbaaro intaan la isguursan, si looga digtoonaado cudurada la is qaadsiiyo sida kuwa ku dhaca xubnaha taranka ee aadamiga.
Runtii wey fiican tahay in labada isguursaneysaa sameeyaan intii dadaal ah ee ey kari karaan, taas oo loogu dhawaanayo wanaagga, loogana dheeraanayo wixii xumaan iyo dambi keeni karo, balse waa in aan la halmaamin awooda iyo qadarta Alle.
Waxaan u jeedaa, haddii dadka qaarkiis ey aaminaan awoodooda iyo dadaalkooda ey saacideyso technology-yada caalimiga ah ee dunida maanta, waxay galayaan ama arki doonaan imtixaan ku filan sida heysata dad badan.
Waxaa jira dad badan oo wanaagsan oo guursadey ama qaba dad aan ka lug banaaneyn cuduradaas iyo meelaha laga qaado, haddana Ilaah ka badbaadiyey ayaga iyo ilmahoodaba. Taasna waa mid ka yaabisay gaalada iyo inta iimaankoodu yar yahay.
Ugu danbeyn, aan dadaalno anagoo xasuusan ama ku lifaaqeyna awooda Eebbe arrimaheena. Dadka wanaagsan ee ehlu diinka ahi, haddey is aaminaan oo sidaas isku guursadaanna, Ilaah baa ka ilaalinaya wixii dhib ah ee sheydaan la maago.
Wasalaamu Caleykum! |
| formerguest. | Friday, October 20, 2000 - 07:53 pm
ummusoomaal.
Thanks sis.
waa lagama maarmaan hadda in la iska warqabo xagga caafimaadka. |
