     dr.romance | Saturday, January 27, 2001 - 01:56 pm
Hi!
Bro/Sis!
First of all iwanna thank you all personally for your time to visit this topic,please we need your help on the following issues...What do you think of this things down here?.Do you think is a good idea?
(1) Online Love
(2) Cyber Life
(3) Long distance Love.
So ma brothers and sisters share your feelings,have your say tell me personally what do you think about those issues coz help is on the way.
Dr.Romance
Thanx!
.....Advice Wire....Well Come.... All! |
| Hope | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 09:38 pm
i wonder also....hope to see Kamaal, devils love, somali yankee and the other active members answering dr.romance Q |
| Devils_love | Tuesday, February 06, 2001 - 05:34 pm
dr.romance :
Thanks for raising this issue and I am willing to give my dose on this three issues one by one.
ONLINE LOVE:
Being one of the people who have met their love here on the net, I can only say it is another dimension to the ways we would otherwise meet our future partners in life. Normally you will meet your partner in work-place, school, or through a relative or a friend will introduce you to her/him. Well there is another dimension now, one that I think is more accessible, easy to communicate it is the online love. I personally think online love is not that different from what we normally know as USUAL LOVE, the only difference is the means of the communication. I do believe if one heavily invest into it, he/she will find their online love blown into a real love. Trust me I am a living example of that.
CYBER LIFE :
Lately many of us depend on internet for various reasons. For example one could be a student thus doing their projects or even sending their assignments to their professors might require them to go online, or you could be an IT professional whose responsibilities involve interacting or carrying out duties that are heavily related to the internet. Internet is an increasing industry and most of us will interact with it one way or the other, as is in my my case I am a computer programmer who develops applications in java. Cyber Life is here and we are only seeing the tip of the iceberg, wait till we are all consumed by it but I am very optimistic about it though alot of folks have reservations when it comes to Cyber Life. Wether we embrace it or not it is here, our lives are already dependent on it so I think it is foolish no to take advantage of this new technology. Cyber life does not only mean surfing the net 24/7, it means doing everything through the net..i.e paying bills, doing interaction, buying stuff, preaching people , exchanging ideas, getting info...and the list goes on.
LONG DISTANCE LOVE:
Unlike many folks who will argue that Long distance relationships are destined to failure, I have different perspective which is; It can work given the relation has a strong foundation and the lovers have mutual trust and understanding between them. Relationships are like bridges, hence they are to be built with strong foundation if you desire them to last or they are bound to
collapse. The stronger the foundation the less likelihood that it will stagger on the first fall.
I do however understand the difficulty of not being around the person you love. This is one thing that Long distance relationships suffer but this could be conquered by devising a plan whereby you and your lover can have time to visit each other or you could set a date where you and your lover will tie the knot, By which I mean it all depends on your plan if you guys have a plan laid out...then it is just a matter of time before you guys unite.
Finally one of the most important factors of a relationship is TRUST if it is lost, in my view, the whole relationship is lost be it Long distance or short distance.
devils Love |
| MzAfroPuffz | Tuesday, February 06, 2001 - 05:45 pm
Guys guys guys..if U hunt for love, it'll find a way to escape ur grasp. Just let it find U, thats when its more gratifying. All this blah blah blah about love..its sickening y'all..I feel like Im being brainwashed here.. |
| ME | Wednesday, February 07, 2001 - 03:59 am
TO DEVILS LOVE U R ONE SMART BROTHER I WAS LOOKING AT YOURE COMMENTS AND NOTICED THAT U DIDN'T EVEN MAKE ONE MISTAKE ANYWHERE I GUEST U KNOW THAT.
C U SOON |
| kamal | Wednesday, February 07, 2001 - 04:55 am
Hope please..... have i not commited enough sin already...
Duni wada halowsan dadkan wada jacaylka
meelbaas ka hesoo oo bila kalgeclka
(1)online love is offline to me... but you want more juice...
(2)cyber life
meel baas
(3)Long distance love... hmmm LONGTING
To fall for some bird in cyber world and have long distance relationship with her would most likely be the least intelligent thing i could ever allow myself to sign a contract on.
Indepth analysis leads me to think the answers been sought are far more intricate and this the mindchild of someone with the desire to know more from my answer then i intend....
kala gooyey ku ayohu
kala gooyey ku ayohu
gergaar ma uu teraasaaa
may isku geen kareysaa
may isku geen kareysaaaaaaaaaaa
galaangoley gifteya berisa sidirigama
hatey gaber tahey anaa geeyey sidirigama
galaangoley gifteya berisa sidirigama
hatey gaber tahey anaa geeyey didin didin din didin...
Hediin aan ku idaa:
Hmmm it comes down to the plain need to estabilish trust... would you say i am off on another tangent??
If a man or woman can commit to one other over a vast distance through simple text on a monitor it could be said that there is little that can ever get in between them...
Asalkaba jecayku wuu idaa laayey... so hope i didn't reveal too much, this time...
checklist
1.type message
2.read it
3.submit
4.make sure it registered
5.find mistake
6.say duh
7.feel sorry
8.make plans to rectify error
9.tell you later |
| jaale | Saturday, February 10, 2001 - 05:04 pm
Good site...where is dr.romance ? |
| Anonymous | Saturday, February 10, 2001 - 05:43 pm
Devils love.
You are master off awareness. I don't what to please, but you you have done such a wonderfull job. i wish who ever readed will appriceted to you i like open mind ppl like and share the others too.
brother keep the work up.
yours sisters says i enjoyed all the comments.
by now. |
| PrettyWomen | Sunday, February 11, 2001 - 02:17 am
devils love you are great and as matter of fact I admire the way in which you convey your message.
keep the tireless effort of defending LOVE. |
| Hibo | Sunday, February 11, 2001 - 03:13 pm
Devils_Love.......now I am jealous.......too many admirers.......ladies STOP admiring MY man.....lol...just....kidding...don't over praise him.. he will kill me...with braggings... oh.. u don't know him!.....
Hey Devil... I guess u r living ur concepts... I can't wait to see u on Saturday.. love good job!! |
| devils_love | Monday, February 12, 2001 - 01:16 pm
Hibo :
I can't wait either..love ya alot..lady
Rest :
I feel honoured and flattered...thx...I appreciate all the comments and I receive it with a heart that loves...see I am all about love....and I am sorta addicted to it...just like the song....ADDICTED TO LOVE.
devils_love |
| dr romance | Monday, February 12, 2001 - 01:33 pm
Finding love used to be limited to only people that you knew or friends of those people. Now you can find love anywhere in the world by being online. The online world lets you meet new and exciting people all the time. If you have never experienced online love then you are probably thinking that you can never have a serious relationship online. Well, this is not the case. Finding love online has many advantages. If you are shy, being online makes things much easier to communicate with others. Another plus is, you don't have to worry about uncomfortable situations. You can really filter out the people you want nothing to do with, without having to date them.
Devils Love...Thanx very much for your help bro keep it up.
Jaale dr is always here so feel free thanx! |
| Anonymous | Monday, February 12, 2001 - 01:37 pm
So, you think you may have found a potential love match in the world of cyber space -- you may be right! But, it doesn't hurt to find out as much as possible about their personality, character and past experiences to make sure you are. To help we've compiled some obvious, and some not so obvious, questions you should ask any possible Mr. or Mrs. Right whom you've met online.
Where are you from?
How old are you?
What do you look like?
What do you do? School/Job/Nothing...
Why do you chat online?
How often do you chat online?
Who do you live with?
Are you married, divorced, single, etc.?
Have you ever been engaged or in a serious relationship before?
Do you have any children?
Have you met anyone else (had previous online relationships) online before?
What are your thoughts on cybersex?
How do you view cyber-relationships? The same as you would a relationship with someone in your area or as a fantasy?
What do you feel it takes to have a successful relationship online?
What do you expect from a first meeting? |
| Hibo | Monday, February 12, 2001 - 05:49 pm
Anon: N to whom r we to report.... u perhaps.. ? |
| Sister | Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 04:40 am
To
advise wire and dr romance!
My online friend from Holland just told me today that he wanted to come to meet me this summer and i am totally taken off guard by it. I was stunned cuz i didnt expect that he would consider that after we havent talked for so long. We had a brief romance about 1 1/2 years ago and we broke off. Now that we just talked again today he said he been considering about meeting this summer! I'm so scared! I cant say no cuz i know he will get upset and i know that he is expecting a relationship when he is here and im not ready for that with him. I want to meet him just not this soon. |
| dr romance | Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 04:42 am
To
Sister
You definitely shouldn't let somebody pressure you into meeting them, because that person isn't worth it.
Try talking to your friend, and explain your feelings, that you're uncomfortable with the idea of meeting and aren't ready for it yet. If they are a true friend, they'll respect your wishes.
yours,dr romance
thanx! |
| Abdi | Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 05:03 am
To the men out there who are involved in an online relationship...
How do you deal with the frustration of not being able to touch and smell your loved one?
Can it come to a point where you just give up altogether, seeing no use in continuing the relationship?
Just wondering about the male psyche... |
| fatma | Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 05:06 am
To
abdi
I am woman, can i join your thread?
i so like somone that i meet online also, somtimes i thinking about walking with him really ,see him for real to say hi or talk , real smile. even this morning i see somthing beautiful and i think about him. So it's kind of wonder, when..
i don't want to hold it too long till feel that it never happen also. If he won't come to see me or i don't have chance to go to see him. it may be fade. but if u r sincere to your girl net, i think friendship is still near you always.
Thanx dr romance for bringing this issue...well done guys. |
| dr romance | Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 05:09 am
To
Abdi
How hard it must be for you to not ever touch your online lover. You must be able to see the line between cyber and what is real however. The risk you take with cyber is that it may never materialize. There must be a way you can get together. Have you thought of all the options?
fatma anytime sis. |
| Naima | Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 05:19 am
To
Abdi
I do not believe it is just men who get tired of the inabilty to touch hold and to care. It goes both ways. I am a woman who has been talking to a guy i met over the internet. We live two states away and due to me in college we seldom get to see one another. I did not set out to find a online romance. I personally use to think it was twisted and wierd but it happened. I feel that on the pc you are able to cross the lines of uneasiness and actually have the abilty to completly open up to one another. I never meant to fall for (Ali) but i did. Every night when i see his name log on my heart dances in circles. How i would give the world for him to touch me and kiss me. But one should always realize that love and relationships are not just physical. Relationships must first be able to communicate in order to work. SO no matter how hard it is to bear being apart, if two people care they can wait and bear the pain knowing that in the long run it will be worth it.. I have devoted two yrs to this man talking every night for hours on length and it is finally going to pay off. After this semster is threw i am moving up there to be with my online wonder that stole my heart...
Good luck to the rest of you all who are involved with online romances. I hope you all find someone just as special as my joey is to me.
dr romance good work bro keep up. |
| HAteR-GiRL | Wednesday, February 14, 2001 - 02:31 pm
sisnce when somali menz become ROMANTIC!?
huh?
huh?
huh?
who you kidding here.bullsh*t
enjoy the hate
you can thank me later |
