     a scared sister | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 05:08 pm
I raped at 15 now i am 25,i didnt tell anyone i was ashamed and thought they might blame me for it so i keept all that pain for this long.however i have seen they guy 2 weeks ago and i wanted to kill him.he pretended like nothing happened give me a hug.can u belive this idiot.
well i dont know what to do now,i want to make hime pay for what he did to me.it has effected me very badily.i am so afraid to even go out with a guys or even someone to touch me.
please i am asking ur advise to what i should do now that he is in states with me.or whether i should tell everyone about what happened 10 yrs ago.?
thank u.
yours a scared sister |
| DuH | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 06:31 pm
Learn How to dance Macarena .DuH? |
| LiberalLady | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 07:42 pm
My dearest sis:
If what u speak of is realy true, my heart goes out to u. U have lived with this prob for 10 years and dealt with it, for that I must say u are a very strong person. May "ALLAH" help u in your time of need. Our ppl can be very judgemental when it comes a situation like this. They usually tend to blame the girl. So, before u tell anyone, make sure that they are worth telling and they won't ridicule u on this horrible experience u have encounter. Remeber, u r not in state to get hurt, so put yourself first. However, u should talk to somebody about this b/c it's very unhealthy to keep in. I suggest u should to talk to therapist. If u can't afford one, give one of the rape crisis centre a call. Some of the volunteers came to one my classes last year, and they say that offer free counselling and everthing u say is confidential even if u just go there. As for him, if u ever see him, tell him to leave u alone and express yourself on what he did to u. Tell him that u will take legal action if he doesn't respect your wishes. I just want to tell u that regardless of what anyone says, it's not your fault. Don't give up hope. Don't let him ruin your life, take charge of your life. Most of all RE-CLAIM yourself. As that song goes "ROSE STILL A ROSE". And u certainly are a rare rose.
I wish u good health, endless happiness, and all the good things life has to offer, u deserve it.
KEEK THE FAITH MY DEAREST SISTER AND MAY "ALLAH" COME TO OUR AID IN TIMES OF NEED. |
| HITMAN | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 08:10 pm
TO A SCARED SISTA, YOU HAVE BEEN RAPED 10 YEARS AGO AND I GUESS YOU DON'T HAVE ANY PROVE THAT HEY RAPED YOU, SO OUR LAST OPTION IS TO KICK THERE ASS THOSE TWO FAGS,.
I AM SERIOUS SISTA GIVE US THE CHANCE TO BRAKE THERE BONES,IF YA WANA CONTACT ME I WILL GIVE YOU MY EMAIL. SCARED SISTA DO ME A FAVOR WHENEVER YOU SEE THEM SPET ON THE GROUND THEY CAN'T TOUCH YA REMEMBER AND IF THEY DO CALL 911 THEM FAGGOTS. |
| Alipapa | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 08:18 pm
look assuming what you are telling us is true and you don't have a witness, i will advice you to try to get admittence from him. All you need is to get tape and tape recorder-- the smal ones. And make sure that your tape is on and recording all of what you want to get from him.then go to him and ask him why he did that to you. For instance say to him something like " Mr. X why did you rape me?. Don't you think you owe me on what you did to me?. You see i might give you if would have asked me. why you were forcing me and raping me?." . Assuming he is not denying what happened he will easily respond something like " i am sorry that i did that to you. I was wrong.". Only that is not enough . you need to get more proof. You need to go into details of incident. For instance say to him "when you were doing to me this i was crying and you know it place x, y and z. do you remember exactly what you did to me?". remember to make your emotions under control. Don't sound like you were very sad of what happened. Then you can go to police with your tape. I am assuming that the guy and you have some kind of relationhip since you told us he was hugging you. if that is true, then it is easy to force him admit what he did. and that formula would work. good luck for your sweet revenge.
Alipapa |
| CANO | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 04:19 am
to scared sista i'm trully sorry for what has happened to you, and remember if you don't get justice here that there is a greater punshiment waiting for him on the day of Judgement when ALLAH ALMIGHTY will trully give him what he deserves and hopefully more.
TO LIBERAL LADY i just wanted to say that you're a kind sista on the advice u r giving and i now know who to ask advive for when i need it (hope u dont mind).
PEACE BROTHERS AND SISTERS |
| hanad | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 04:54 am
hey sis i am really really sorry for what happen to you there true many bad ppl in our ppl this guy
is not real man and if you thing he should pay for
what he did to you i can tell you lotts of ways
you can hert him but as to what you should do now
i can't tell you coz i don't know how you feal about him is he relative or closs familly freind
but i sujest you do what you mind tell you to |
| SCARED SISTER | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 01:21 pm
I NEVER THOUGH A MAN WOULD UNDERSTAND WHAT I MUST FEEL.BUT I WAS WRONG COZ U GUYS UNDERSTAND ME AND FEEL SORRY.
LIBERALLADY.........SIS I THANK U SOOO MUCH FROM THE BUTTOM OF MY HEART.I KNOW U UNDERSTAND AND ARE TRYING TO FEEL BUT SIS NO WORDS CAN EXPRESS HOW I FEEL HONESTILY.I LISTENED TO WOMEN WHO WERE ABUSED,RAPED AND SCARED EVERYDAY.I GIVE THEM HOPE,HOLD THEM,CONFORT THEM,ASSURE THEN SAFETY BUT THE WORSE THING IS I CANT SAY THOSE THINGS TO MYSELF.
I CHOOSE MY CAREER MAINLY COZ I KNOW WHAT THESE RAPED LADIES FEEL,I HAVE BEEN THERE AND I PRAY TO ALLAH THAT ANOTHER LADY ESPCIALLY SOMALIAN GOES THROUGH IT.
U ARE AFRAID WHEN A MAN TOUCHES U FEEL AS IF HE WAS GOING TO RAPE U TOO,UNCONFORTABLE WHEN A MAN GIVES U A COMPLIMENT.
FORGET WHEN THEY ASK ME OUT (I RUN)
I HAVE MAINTAIN TO KEEP MYSELF BUSY WITH WORK AND LIFE'S CUMMITMENTS BUT WHEN I SAW HIM EVERYTHING CAME BACK AT ONCE AND NOW I FEEL LIKE HE MIGHT DO IT AGAIN.
HE WAS A CLOSE FRIEND OF MY BROTHER,I KNOW IF I TOLD MY BROTHER THAT GUY WOULD NOT BE ALIVE TODAY BUT I DONT WANT TO DISSAPOINT HIM AND I AM AFRAID THAT HE MIGHT BLAME ME.
HITMAN........THANK U WALAALO I REALLY APPERCIAT UR KINDNESS.I DONT MIND CONTACTING U IF U LEAVE UR EMAIL (I PROMISE)
I FEEL LIKE U HAVE ALREADY WIPED HIS ASS.ITS THE THOUGH THAT COUNTS.
ALIPAPA......MY DEAR I DONT KNOW IF I CAN STAND INFRONT OF HIM,I AM OVERWHELMED WITH FEAR TO EVEN LOOK AT HIS EYES.I REMEMBER HOW I WAS CRYING AND HE HIT ME.I STILL HAVE THE MARK.HE WAS VERY OFFENSIVE AND IT HURT.I DONT KNOW IF HE WOULD OPEN UP,I SAW HIM ONLY ONCE AND ALL HE SAID WAS "HI,ITS GOOD TO SEE U AGAIN AND U LOOK MUCH PURTIER".I AM REALLY SCARED.
CAANO........I KNOW BROTHER BUT WHEN WILL THAT DAY COME,I AM STRUGGLING TO BREATH,OR TO GET INTO MY CAR WITHOUT LOOKING BOTH SIDES BEFORE I GET IN.
I FEEL LIKE HE WILL BE BACK ANYDAY NOW AND HURT ME AGAIN.I DONT KNOW IF I CA SIT ARROUND TO WAIT FOR THAT.
HANAD.......I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR UR SGGESTTIONS.
GUYS U ALL SAYING I AM SORRY BUT IT DOESNT DO ANYTHING.I WISH U KNEW HOW I FELT INSIDE,LIKE THERE IS NO POINT OF GOING ON.SOMETIMES I WONDER WHY AM I EVEN ALIVE.I FEEL DIRTY AND USELESS.I HATE MYSELF.
EVERYDAY I AM GIVING OTHER STRENGHT TO HAVE HOPE FOR A BETTER TOMOROW WHEN I CANT DO THAT FOR MYSELF.
YOURS
SCARED SISTER. |
| Anaximander | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 02:31 pm
Rape him back loooooool!!!
That was a joke, but this is wahat you need to do!
You need to notify your family members immediately, what ever happens must happen, hide nothing, put everything on the table!!!!
But you must be absolutely sure that he is the one, no i am not sure etc, confidence!!
Do not let the scumbag get away with that crime!!!
Finaly i would like to say that i do not believe this story, but then again who am i?? I am just a humanbeing and only you and Allah knows what happened or did not happen!!!
Good luck anyhow and keep writing the novels!!! |
| Ayan | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 03:48 pm
i am sorry but..i think u should get ur revenge..dont EVER forget that..no matter how long that takes but u need to burn him the same way he did 4 10 yrs |
| Xoogsade | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 04:48 pm
Rape him back with your spare dildo. Stick it up his ass. Then shove it down his throat with all the shittt still on it, looool. Then possibly kill him. |
| Honesita | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 04:58 pm
Scared sistah........goodness that is painful......only Allah (swt) can you help u though.........read the quran and pray a lot......it was not ur fault.....u dont have to feel dirty........and dont hate ur self sis.........and please dont wish u were not alive........that is dangerous my dear sis.......have faith in Allah and he will guide u to the right way..........
LiberalLady gave u the wisest advice.........its up to u to follow.........
Remember sis.........think possitive always.......negative thinkin' wont help a bit!!!! it'll just make it worse............
Keep Da Faith... |
| kabaweyne | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 05:01 pm
Bull •••• I don't beleive a word of what you posted young lady
false accusations
Do you think you can fool all of us with your fake stories???
once it's the quran teacher now it's someone else whose next????????????
Pathetic |
| LiberalLaddy | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 06:47 pm
Scared Sista!
U r very welomce sis. I hope u over come this. Keep doing those positive things u r doing. U will be fine.
TAKE CARE SWEETY.
CANO!
Thanks sis, and no I wouldn't mind if u ever asked me for an advise. However, i got to tell u, I'm no expert, but I'm willing to pass on any advise that I can offer.
Take Care. |
| Anonymous | Tuesday, February 06, 2001 - 01:17 am
i think it's a little late now i mean 10 years is a long time ago. i would just like to know is something usually done in the somali culture about a girl getting raped.i would have thought that they would just let it pass by.insult the girl maybe.is this true? |
| Jaciir | Tuesday, February 06, 2001 - 04:06 am
a scared sis,
your second writing you told us that this guy hit you badly and he was violently raped you.
And you told us he was a friend of your brother.
That is not a somalia culture may be true he rapped you but if he was your brothers friend and couldnt hit you violently. I could agree with if the was smooth rape but not violent one and at the same time can be a friend of your brother.
Here i talking a exprience we men rape a somalia women or a girl but not that is bad one. |
| HANAD | Tuesday, February 06, 2001 - 09:50 pm
SIS I CAN TELL YOU LOTS OF WAYS THAT YOU CAN
MAKE HIM PAY FOR WHAT HE DID TO YOU I MEAN
FISICALLY , SO I DON'T KNOW IF YOU REALLY WANT DO
THIS , IF YOU DO LETT ME KNOW BUT IF I WERE YOU
I WOULD THINK REALLY HARD COZ THIS IS NOT THE SMARTS WAY TO HADALE THINGS. |
| Anon | Wednesday, February 07, 2001 - 11:53 am
Sista:
Let me get this straight, this man raped you Ten Years ago, and still to this day, you haven't done anything about it? that's just highly unlikable. I mean you talk about how scared you are, but hey, YOU had the courage to stand here and flash the whole world on the tales of night, and you talk about being SCARED?? If I'm not mistaken, it looks as though you need convincing yourself, because sis, if you really wanted to do something about this, THAN YOU WOULD HAVE ALREADY.
The truth hurts,and all these advises might help, but remember it's you who makes the last decision. The ball is in your hands, you can let it rest and let it eat you away for the rest of your life, or you can stand up for yourself and do something about it. Which is it going to be? |
| Abdul | Wednesday, February 07, 2001 - 06:39 pm
Sister it does not Matter if it was 10 years or 50 years ago, it does not matter if it was here or back home. There is no statue of limitation on Rape, what you should do is report this incident and file a complaint with your local police. Get it over with, at least this way you will get closure and get on with your life. Dont let him get away with it. Dont be scared by anything it not your fault and you did not assault anyone. Sister all men are not Evil, we all have sisters and I swear No man would let this happen to his sister.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the best. |
| spike | Thursday, February 08, 2001 - 10:52 am
Jaciir you son of a bitch. i wish i can reach right now. i swear to god i would have kill u.
u said we somali boys rape somali girls, did i read u right. and where the hell have u seen a bad rape and a good rape. u make me sick ...rape is a rape u ugly ass
i am sorry scared sista. but this guy make me mad.
One thing sista, get help quick , u should't feel like that for the rest of yourlife. pull yourself together , get therapy or advice and then think what u going to do to him.
but sister first get provisional help first
u did not do anything wrong..u hear me u are
not at fault here sis. he is the guilty one
not u. u have to understand that |
| concerned brother | Thursday, February 08, 2001 - 12:06 pm
so called scared siter
you ar damn lier . whom ar you gonna deceive .you lost your virginity to some one . and at the time you did not know the importance of being virgin and now when you get older the reality hit you and you ar trying to fool some one with this make up and false accusation. sis let me give you the following points that I consider would be a valuable and brotherly advise.
1)repent to allah for committing udeltery when you were still young and not well equiped for the men cheating that goes like this "let me sleep with you now my love and I will marry you later"
2)make sure you don't do those bad things that u repented from again
3)tell the brother who courts (shukaansi) you for marriage the truth about your situation. tell him you changed now and u can be trusted you ar not going around and cheat.and your behaviour including the dress code should be a witness for that.
and above all you have to know that there ar nice somali god fearing reer magaal men who would not walkaway from you for not being virgin as long as they like every thing else about you and they see your honesty.
I am warning to the young siters who did not go through this thing of losing virginity yet don't let be fooled by these men . don't sleep with them before meher regardless of how much you love him. don't limit your choice in the future for losing your virginity easily now.
Also to the siters who already went through this DON'T GIVE UP and discard your self to a loser by thinking you ar not gonna be wanted by noble man (qof sharaf leh). |
| $MOOTH SIS | Thursday, February 08, 2001 - 01:35 pm
CONCERNED BRO!! U MIGHT BE RIGHT BUT THEN AGAIN ONLY "ALLAH" KNOWS IF SHE IS TELLING THE TRUTH!!
IF THIS IS THE TRUTH THEN!!!!
MY OPINION IS!!! 4GIVE BUT DON'T 4GET!!!
HE HAS ONE PERSON 2 ANSWER 2 & THAT IS "ALLAH" HE MIGHT BE ABLE 2 ESCAPE OR RUN FROM THE COURT/JUSTICE!!!
HE WILL GET WHAT HE IS HEADING 4 IN THE NEXT LIFE!!!
"INSALLAH" WHEN HE HAS 2 STAND IN FRONT OF ALLAH ON JUDGEMENT HE HAS NOWHERE 2 RUN THEN!!! HE WILL GET HIS PUNISHMENT 4 THE SINS HE HAD COMMITTED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I CAN'T SAY I KNOW HOW U FEEL BECAUSE THEN I WILL BE LYING 2 U!!!!! I HOPE U DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS SITUATION!!!!
2 ALL OF U!!! THAT HAVE ADDED A MESSAGE I THINK THAT IS NICE!! 4 GIVING ADVICE AND NOT CRITICIZING DA SITUATION!!!!! |
| Jaciir | Thursday, February 08, 2001 - 02:44 pm
Spike,
you can said to me what ever you want that is not my problem coz i and u dont know each other.
Again i told you there is a good rape and a bad rape according my book. There is an African culture and Western culture so i aint interesting to tell me a Westeren difinition about rape. |
| subag | Thursday, February 08, 2001 - 04:01 pm
i need a dose of that good rape...lol |
| QALAAYE | Thursday, February 08, 2001 - 09:34 pm
walaahi i will kill him , believe me sis, i will beat his ass. just tell me where he is , no matter how far that state is from me..i will go there and i will beat him. i will bring all my friends, cousins and gang with me. just tell us. if he is even my cousin,i will still beat him.
i have 10 beautiful sisters and no one can toch them or harm them. if some one disrespects them, they have to deal with me. am like a monster and am one ruthless soul. i beat people( ONLY GUYS)for fun. yeah that is my thing. am in columbus right now and i travel a lot. i go to seattle and boston, minneapolis and atlanta, north carolina and nashville. please sis, don't take this lightly.
i can beat his ass and i will make him kiss your feet and apologize. then am gonna video tape him ( NOT WITH U OR US ) but him in bloody face and put his picture on the net. we will do this with those free pages in a library. they can't track us down.....
so give me some info and i will take care of the rest....leave your mail , we will contact u and we will do our job...... |
| spike | Friday, February 09, 2001 - 11:39 am
jaciir
let us say it is your sister got rape...and i hope it never happins...but if it does happin are u going to ask her if it was a good rape or a bad rape.
i wonder if the guy says to u , man it was a good rape, do't trip bro. what would u say. ok i understand as long as it was not a bad rape.
get a crib man
i do not know what this girl is said is true or false, but why would she lie . i have no reason to disbelieve her |
| Anonymous | Friday, February 09, 2001 - 02:18 pm
not "cuz" , should be because. |
| Rahma | Friday, February 09, 2001 - 02:57 pm
I am sorry about what happen to you sis.
How did he rape you sis, I mean were you home alone with him? Did you put on a good fight? or do you think it was a rape now because you were so young and he had no business of having sex with you? I am on you're side but I just want to know because I know a girls who had sex when they were around 15 and younger with older guys and now all the sudden they think it was rape.
Please forgive me if you don't like my questions.
Sorry again. |
| DuH | Friday, February 09, 2001 - 03:31 pm
i was raped too.by my third grade teacher mrs dunken.what a ballony |
| mad cow from spein | Saturday, February 10, 2001 - 11:44 am
2 sis
keep that heart,kill him en •••• him up
buy a gun en bust his head.i tell you sis
•••• him tooooo
may allah help you in your life,en dont forget look fo someone to be your belover en tell
him to go en •••• him toooo |
| JAAMAC | Saturday, February 10, 2001 - 04:55 pm
SOME WOMEN WISH TO GET RAPED YOU ARE A LUCKY WOMAN. RAPE IS NOT BAD UNLESS THE RAPIST HITS YOU OR BEAT YOU IT IS JUST LIKE HAVING SEX WHEN YOU DONT NEED OR READY FOR IT. DONT TAKE IT HARD GIRL MANY SOMALIAN WOMEN ARE RAPED AND TODAY THEY HAVE THEIR OWN FAMILY AND THEY FORGOT IT.WHY ARE YOU SCARE TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHER MEN TELL YOUR BRAIN THIS GUY IS NOT THE ONE WHO RAPED ME. OR JUST DATE ME IAM HAPPY TO HAVE YOU. IF THERE IS A RAPED WOMEN OUT THERE E-MAIL ME. I DONT CARE WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU ALL I CARE IS TO HAVE YOU AND TREAT YOU LIKE A ROYAL. |
| SCARED SISTER | Saturday, February 10, 2001 - 05:57 pm
Hello everyone,
thank u for all ur kind responses i would have never though a somali guy would understand what i must be going through.
but i guess i under estimated my kings,i am sorry guys.
For those who are saying that this is a lies.........please think again why in heavans would i want to undergrade my somali men,or accuse them of something they are not capable of doing to one of they're sister.
i was always raised to be honest with others as i am with myself,sometimes i even wonder how it happened and why?
many questions that i have yet the answers for....however i have learned things happen for a reason and i have to let faith play its role.the hardest part is knowing and admiting it happened and has effected u in many ways.
god for bit,but please before u post anything imagine u or someone close to u was in that postion.then maybe u will understand how i feel
i know if my brother found out that man will be dead.i have no question in my mind but the problem is i dont have the strenght to tell anyone that actually knows me personally to this story,i cant imagine how they would react to it.
my mom would have a heartattack and my brothers would spend the rest of their lifes in prison.
i dont want that.i dont want to change how my life is now.
you ask me how it happened?
well it was oct 18 1990,about 6:30 to 7:45 in the evening.i came from a soccer game i was about 14 turning 15 in 3 weeks at that time.
my father (god rest his soul)was at the game.when the game was over me and my father went out for ice cream we talk about what colleges i wanted to go and what was available for me since i was getting an athletic scholarship he gave me some papers to read over to consider my school.
so he said he had to go back to work that to tell mom that he will be late for dinner tonight.
the driver and my father dropped me at home.
my mom wasnt there neither was my brother.
but his friend was sitting in the living room.
we greeted each other and i went upstairs to take a shower.(THIS GUY HAS BEEN FRIENDS WITH MY BROTHER FOR AS LONG AS I CAN REMEMEBER).
OOOOO B4 i went upstairs he asked me how the game went and i said we lost,so he said i can help u with u defense and show u some moves.so i said ok then i went upstairs.
he followed and came in the room.he started to touch me and i asked him what he was doing and he said just be quiet and watch.
i knew something wasnt right so i kept saying stop.
then he got angry and slapped me,i screamed but the maide and drivers couldnt hear because they were out in the garage downstairs and i was upstairs.
he tooke my under off and starting doing it.
i rememer the whole time screaming and he would put his hand on my mouth to shut me up.not to mention how many times he slapped me.(tears are coming from my eyes as i write this i feel like its happening all over again.i can see it),
well to make a long stoty short when he finished he said to me "IF U TELL THIS ANYONE I WILL TELL THEM THAT U WANTED IT AND I TURNED U DOWN,THAT NOONE WAS GOING TO LISTEN OR BELIEVE ME"
i remember the whole night i was in my room,crying,i didnt eat anything everyone thought i was sad because we lost the game(championship)and i let them believe that.
2 years later i moved to here for college and i tried so hard to put it behind me but i cant.
i havent shared this with a soul u ppl are the first to know but i am planning on having a talk with my mother.
she is really sick now and i want to hear what she thinks b4 its too late.
i felt bad when my father died and i didnt tell him.now i wish i did me and him were very close.i guess its the reason i repect and adore somalian men.he showed that there are some really nice guys out there.
i dont want to feel the same when my mom is not here anymore.
sometimes when men look at me i feel like they know it maybe he told them or something and i get really scared.most of all i am hurt in pain like no other.
i have no desire to love and to be loved anymore i just want to be alone.i dont want to be touched like he touched me.the way he forced me
the way his eyes looked at me scares me to death till this day.
by the way the story happened in nairobi kenya maybe some of u have been there.
i was born and raised there.
i have to go now but i will keep u guys informed thank u for been so kind and been my cyber friends.
your sis
scared sis |
| a scared sister | Saturday, February 10, 2001 - 06:11 pm
oooo i forgot about concerned brother,
my dear u need help,i dont mean to be rude but u do.why would i come here and share my story with strangers?
as u say fool some guys
well u are wrong.
as far as this vargnity thing goes,walaalo i know it our culture to marry a lady who is a vargin but time has changed that dear.now ppl get married because of love.they cant imagine their loves without each other.
now let us be honest here,are u saying u are a vargin?
if no,then please dont expect to find a vargin girl.i know there some out there and maybe not.
if yes,then i hope u find a lady of ur kind but dont look for a women who is a vargin but instead look for a lady who u love and when she holds in her arms u feel like u are in heavan.
look for someone to love u eternity.
i am not saying ladies have sex with anyone but i am saying a women is not limiting her choices when she decides to have sex with somone she loves.so bro please dont accuse me of something that u are not aware of.
as for me,when a man loves me it will be because of my heart,compassion,honesty,respect,beauty which all follows under who i am .and u should always love the person because of what he/she is not for what u want them to be.
and never judge a person by its past always look forward to the feature and have hope.
yours
scared sister |
| feel for ya | Sunday, February 11, 2001 - 01:56 am
scared sis ,your situation is very difficult and i feel for you sis. Life always presents to us challenges that we have to overcome, and the degrees of these challenges differentiate across individuals. To me your situation is on a top hierarchy of challenges. Don't get me wrong on my definition of a challenge, i' am looking at it from a wider horizon. Now your challenge is to triumph over this situation and proceed on with your life like you always planned to.Coming out and discussing this issue with us , is step forward, but many more steps are still necessary to be taken. All these advices that were given to you by your peers are very helpful, but at the end it's gonna be up to you, to act upon them. I can only provide you with an opinion,because i'm limited in my position and i can't wear your shoes, to see what you have experienced. Sista don't ever give up on us brothas, get back into the feel of society, ask "Allah" for aid, and feel like your on top of the world and no one can bring you down, not even a faggot who gives us brothas a bad rep. sorry for the essay like opinion, and always remember sis you got alot of folk behind you. Wish you the best!! |
| SCARED SISTER | Sunday, February 11, 2001 - 10:42 pm
my dear feel4u,
thank u very much,it means the world to me to hear u say those things.
i know i am very lucky to be even here now,i am greatfull for every breath i take and every new day is the beginning of a new life.i thank my Allah everyday for the chance and the strenght he gave me.
i love my somali men and i respect,adore them and always will.
i never though couple of strangers would change my life and my thoughts but they did.
now i know excatly what to do i just pray it works.
i really want to thank everyone who gave me an advise from their heart.and those who tried to understand how i must feel.
i will always be greatfull to each one of u and all the somalians in the world
thank u all.
your sis
scared sister |
| spike | Monday, February 12, 2001 - 01:13 pm
good for u sister. i am happy ti hear that u are not going to let him win for ever. when you really take charge of your life and go on with it., then he lost the war, he might had the upper hand that night but do't give him the satisfaction to have the upper hand for ever.
And now change your name to Encouraged sister, fighting sister, never giving up sister, claiming her life back sister....Do't be a scared sister anymore |
| SCARED SISTER | Monday, February 12, 2001 - 03:44 pm
spike my dearest,
thank u soo much,words cant express how i feel really.u are a nice guy and sometimes i am glad my sister told me about this discussion.
i am strong now,i have faith,and i know i will win in the end.but it toke allot of counseling and couple of strangers to show me how strong and capable of things i am.
no matter how i found my strenght i did and i am very greatfull.
i will keep u informed dear and thank u again.
yours
former scared sis
now
strong sis. |
| Anonymous | Monday, February 12, 2001 - 04:31 pm
scared sister why dont you go to hell.Stop this rape fantasy you have. |
| mystery | Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 12:33 am
listen right if you are going to make up some story about some guy who raped 10 years ago.
we need names!!!!!!!!!!!!
silly bitch
mad cow
go to bed and start dreaming again |
| Rashiid | Wednesday, February 14, 2001 - 03:30 pm
first of all al u have to do is ilaah ka baq oo iska daa nimanka aad qolka cidlada ah la tagaysid mar danbe next maxaaba nin aan ku qabini kuu taabanayaa ma waxaad is mooday hablaha gaalada oh oo xumaatada iyo wanaaga kala aqaan walaal hadaad ilaah ka cabsatid dhib kuu iman maayo haddii kalese tii iyo mid xunba halis baad u tahay marka taladaydu waa ilaah ka baq oo gabar islaamad ah noqo oo dhowrsoon haddii kalase waxaad rabto samee and u will pay the price |
| kabaweyne | Wednesday, February 14, 2001 - 03:44 pm
scared- sister
are you virgin????????????????????
I don't think so
is this your way of justifying why you screwed up with that guy who toke your virginity and run with it?
Don't feed those poor guys about marrying a woman for who she is,what she is!! she is a whore,she had sex before marraige therefore she is discribed as a whore(dhilo)
No am no Mr virgin but I'm planning on marrying Mrs virgin,you wanna know why
It's so simple.a woman always remember that first guy who kicked the ball in her stomach.markaa walalo I can't have my best meat eating up by some other guy and pretend nothing has happened.
Sorry it's the truth and I know it hurts. |
| Rahma | Thursday, February 15, 2001 - 08:03 am
Strong sis, I am so proud of you sis. Don't pay attention to the fools you know who I am talking about right. Keep your head up sweetie.
You're sister Rahma wishing you love and happiness forever. |
| Hibo | Thursday, February 15, 2001 - 08:16 am
Will my advice count sis?? Markuu gurigiina yimaado.. Intaa u soo gaagaatantid... burus weyn u soo qaado ee la kor... qaniiska... excuse my french....I am sure when u tell ur family the reason... they will all jump in.... n ..raise hell....The Animal.... deserves that... what a gutful..savage.. U have suffered enough sis..its PAY BACK time...! |
| Hibo | Thursday, February 15, 2001 - 08:16 am
Will my advice count sis?? Markuu gurigiina yimaado.. Intaa u soo gaagaatantid... burus weyn u soo qaado ee la kor... qaniiska... excuse my french....I am sure when u tell ur family the reason... they will all jump in.... n ..raise hell....The Animal.... deserves that... what a gutful..savage.. U have suffered enough sis..its PAY BACK time...! |
| RUNSHEEGE | Tuesday, February 20, 2001 - 04:34 pm
Assalamu calaykum
the so called scared sis I believe you lost your virgin to some one who took time with you and like concerned bro said the realit hit you when you get old. so called scared I was trying to stay away from this thing but I was draged into his by your last posting to concerned brother. when I read his previous posting to you his posting sounded to me a pue brotherly advise peice. but sis now it became clear for me you were whore then and u ar still . why I said this ? I said this because off your last writing in which you encouraged the muslim siters to have sex before mariage subxaana llah. I this to you my sisters don't lissten this mad girl who wants you to be dhilooyin wallahi virginity matters.
if i said something denbi I ask you to forhgive me all. and please waTCH OUT OF THIS SO CALLED SCRED SHE IS NOT SOME ONE WHO IS FEARING ALLAH AND SHE SEEMS SHE WAS RAISED IN A NEGLEGTED GURI WHERE DHILANIMO IS ENCOURAGED . |
| beauty | Thursday, February 22, 2001 - 06:38 am
hay Iam really sorry about what happened.If I were you I would fell the same way,about not being able to tell your family and most of all your brother.Iam not going to tell you to go get help because I wouldn't be able to my self.what makes me mad is when he saw he didn't even say sorry...that is a guy we can call a dog..how old was he when he raped you...sorry I couldn't help you very much but what I will tell you is tell your brother..tell your mom and close family but don't tell those big mouth somalian ladies, because they will blame you even if it's not your falt....
Much love sister,
May god bless you, don't worie he is going to burn in hell if he doen't pay for it in this life time he will pay in the next. |
