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     | Unrecorded Date A man is going for a job interview, and the interviewer is a female non-muslim who gets up to shake hands with the Muslim interviewee male, he is reluctant to shake hands with her, but needs the job eagerly but doesn't want to compromise with his faith, he is in dilema. What advise would you give to that confused individual? Peace
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| | Unrecorded Date hey, who care! we are open society never ever Afganstany style.
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| | Unrecorded Date I do I think One has to have what is colled iimaan in other words faith. u malayn mayo in ay ceeb tahay to voice your concern. and tell the interviewer that it is forbiden in the house of islam to shake hands with the oposite sex .then she will certainly anderstand. if she doesn't and as a consiquence of that action you lost the damn job, then you are in for a big reward bro/sis, because you have comformed the rules of allah subhaanahu watacaala. may god guide you to the right path amiin.
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| | Unrecorded Date Asalaamu caleykum, Walaal Wadani, Allah yajzik kheyr jazaa'a, si wanaagsan baad u jawaabtay. Ma filayo fikrad ka duwan taada inaan hayo. May Allah be with muslims always, amin.
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| | Unrecorded Date wa iyaakum walaalo xayaatsuhuur
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| | Unrecorded Date maro ku duubduubo gacanta
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| | Unrecorded Date To: Hebel lol@hebel,,, maro ku duuduubo aaa,, aha hahahahaha Heblaayo
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| | Unrecorded Date haa no! ama gloves aa la gashtaa
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| | Unrecorded Date Hebel, Xataa Summer hadday tahayaa? inaa jirran tahay aa laguu maleynaa markaase. Su'aashan waxaan u keenay, waxaan arkay dhowr jeer oo dad shaqo raadinaya ay ku dhacday oo qaar diideen inay salaamaan, sidiina ku waayay shaqadii, qaar kalena intay salaameen dhahaaya maxaa iga galay dantaydaan ku wataye, wax walbana waa niyadda, Ilaahayna niyaddayda wuu arkaa. Bal ka tali hee waakaase
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| | Unrecorded Date slmu calaykum...... To: Wadani, Waan kugu raacsanahay fikradaada, kabacdise.. akhii, waan ku salaamaayaa, magaca WADDANI walaal waxaa iska leh wiilkan walaalkaada ahe please magacyo kale raado... waad mahadsan tahay... slmu
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| | Unrecorded Date salamu alaykum walaal if u meant to get the job u will get it coz that is written alrady by allah,so follow alaahs commands and insha allah u will get ur rewords from him.
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| | Unrecorded Date Xamda may allah bless your soul. I am very happy to read your comments. KEEP UP THE GOOD JOB AND GOD WILL REWARD YOU.
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| | Unrecorded Date Walaal waxaynu nahay umad muslin ah mana banaana inaynu qof ajnabi ah aad is gacan qadaan marka waxaas halaga waan toobo alaah swa)wuxu yidhi( wamaa aatakumu rasuulu fakhuduuhu wa maa nahaakum canhu fantahuu) macnaha wixii rasuulku idinlayimaado qaata wixii uunidinka nahiyayna kataga suurltul xashar nabiguna SAW waligiis haween ajnabi ah muu qacan qaadin marka hala waan toobo
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| | Unrecorded Date Praise be to Allaah. assalamu alaikum. Brother kissima, For a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman (one to whom he is not related) is haraam and is not permitted at all. Among the evidence for this is the hadeeth of Ma’qal ibn Yassaar (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045). Some Muslims feel too embarrassed to refuse when a woman offers her hand to them. In addition to mixing with women, some of them claim that they are forced to shake hands with fellow-students and teachers in schools and universities, or with colleagues in the workplace, or in business meetings and so on, but this is not an acceptable excuse. The Muslim should overcome his own feelings and the promptings of the Shaytaan, and be strong in his faith, because Allaah is not ashamed of the truth. The Muslim could apologize politely and explain that the reason he does not want to shake hands is not to offend or hurt anybody’s feelings, but it is because he is following the teachings of his religion. In most cases this will earn him respect from others. There is no harm done if they find it strange at first, and it may even be a practical opportunity for da’wah. And Allaah knows best. Fi Amanillah wasalaam
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| | Unrecorded Date Salaamz to all of u: Suhayla C. Salih, sis thank u so much for ur beautiful words......may Allah reward u for it.... Kasim.......u know what brotha......in my business class the other day.....we were talking about good manners in the workplace......and my teacher pointed out the handshake with the interviewer.........so like usual.....i put my hand up and said..........it is against my religious teachings to shake hands with the opposite sex........so what would be an appropriate way to avoid the shaking of the hand.........and they all said by the polite appologize.......and then i asked them if any of them was the interviewer and i refused to shake their hand, would they still give me the job IF i qualify......99% of them said they would....that other 1% was just a stubborn friend who said no i wouldnt cuz i would think u're a snop.......and of course pple would think u're a snop if u just refused to shake the hand by ignoring it.....u know what i mean............and aboowe dont believe it when pple say 'i didnt get that job cuz i didnt shake the interviewer's hand' that is a big lie........cuz we r just embarrassed to say 'sorry i dont shake hands with the apposite sex cuz its against my religious teachings'..........and u know what.....something i noticed is that most Americans & Canadians respect each others religions and beliefs even though they dont agree with it.....so it all depends on how U say it.....and again u might not get the job just because u were not qualified for it.....and u can get another job where u shook the hand of the interviewer simply cuz u qalified......not cuz u shook the hand......... its not the hand that gives u the job.......think of when ur cousins come over and they wanna give u that big hug cuz they haven't seen u in a long time...........u dont wanna in aa jac ku dhajisid so u just give them the hug.......its almost the same way with the interviewer.....u dont wanna in aa jac ku dhajisid.......maahano aboowe!!! Mawlid-macaan........yeah right.....afgany system huh............u know what brotha........just making fun of the creator's orders may take u somewhere u neva thought u would be.......and its not now when u're gonna experience that.........ONLY WHEN ALLAH SAYS SO............ to all the rest of u may Allah guide us to the best of our deeds till lata Honestgirl said peace out!
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| | Unrecorded Date Suhayla & Honestgirl, Jazzaakumulaah Kheyran, I am a job developer, which means I help new arrivals to get their first job or maybe 2nd or 3rd jobs in Canada. My clients are mainly from Somalia or any arabic speaking country. Although I try to set an example for the client by not shaking hands with the female interviewer, nevertheless, some clients shake hands with her, just because they can not communicate with her, some of them could not even say "It's against my religious teachings" in English, and they feel embrassed. Sometimes I talk for them, for example when the interviewer extends his/her hand, I tell them that it's against their religion but they still shake hands which makes me feel awkward, or sometimes I might be busy with another client and someone else might get in trouble somewhere else. Salaam
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| | Unrecorded Date ASalaamu calaykum: brothers and sisters in slam walaalayaal waa iga talo ha iiga qaadadanina in aan idin dhaleeceynayo. walaalayaal miyaynan wanaagsaneyn in aynu ku wada hadalno amaba aynu wax isku weydaarsano luqadeena hooyo, gaar ahaan markaynu ka wada hadleeyno diin.maxaayeelay waxaan aaminsanahay in aad ka hadlaysaan mawduuc aad iyo aad u macaan oo aad iyo aad muhiim u ah, marka maadaama ay jiraan dad walaalaheen ah oon luqada englishka ay ku yara adagtahay in ay wax ku fahmaan, waxaan idinka codsanayaa in aynu isku dayno in aynu luqadeena wax isku dhaafsano. wabilaahi tawfiiq. sidaa iyo is akhris dambe.
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| | Unrecorded Date Wadani, Walaal waa runtaa oo aad bay u fiican tahay in luqadeena aan wax isugu sheegno, laakiin marmar ayaa waxa dhaca in dad ajnabi ah oo xiiseenaya mowduuca laga hadlayo inay talooyin ku dhiibtaan luqadda ingiriiska ah, marka si aynaan uga dhigin dad aan meesha waxba ku lahayn ayaan marmar wax ku sheegnaa afka ingiriisiga, in kastoo annaka lafteena uu dhib nagu yahay oo aanaan u dhalanin, haddana inta tabartayo ah. Waa runtaa oo way fiican tahay sidaa aad sheegtayna Fii Amaani-Allah
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| | Unrecorded Date Hello, salam to all WAllallo, is simple, MY RELIGION IS AGAINST MAN HAND SHAKE WITH WOMEN, OR MY RELGION IS AGAINST WOMEN HAND SHAKE WITH MAN!... JUST LEARN THOSE LINES AND YOU WILL BE HAPPY.. PEOPLE JUST KNOW IF YOU MAKE LIFE HARD IS GOING BE HARD, IF YOU MAKE IT SIMPLE IS GOING TO BE SIMPLE. I AM STUDENT AT COLLEGE AND WHEN I WAS GETTING MY INTEREVIEW, MY INTEREVIWER WAS A MAN, HE OFFER A MAN SHAKE, AND I TOLD SORRY, IT AGAINST MY RELIGION. GUESS WHAT...NOW WHEN I SEE, HE TOLDS ME TOO KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK, AS YOU GUESS KNOW THIS A FREE COUNTRY, WHAT HAPPEN TO FREEDOM OF SPEECH. TALK FOR YOURSELF, JUST KNOW THAT ALLAH IS MORE IMPORTANT THEN THE PERSON IS GOING TO GIVE YOU THE JOB. IF ALLAH WANTS YOU GET THE JOB, THEN U WILL GET, IF NOT THEN SORRY. BUT HE HAS ANOTHER PLAN FOR YOU I GUESS. FOR GOD SAKE....FEAR OF ALLAH, PPL. HAVE REPECT FOR YOUR RELIGION. MY TEACHERS ALWAYS ASK WHY ONE GIRL IS ALWAYS COVER UP AND THE OTHER ISN'T, I JUST TOLD WELL, SHE AIN'T THAT RELIGION BUT I AM. I BELIEVE EVERYTHING MY RELIGION SAY, AND AM DOING MY BEST TO FELLOW. PEACE CARE PPL....UNTIL NEXT LOVE PACE OUT
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| | Unrecorded Date Comrades I know I'm on shaky ground here, but I've read the Koran and the Hadit'h and I have found nothing in there that says men and woman can't shake hands. I think Salih is reaching here on his interpretation. That's a pretty liberal reading of that sentance. I would interpret "touch a women he is not allowed to" to mean touching here in a sexual way. And there ain't nothing sexual in a hand shake. I have a lot of Muslim friends and this is an issue we've discussed before and most of them agree a woman can shake hands with a man. However, back to the question, if you believe it's wrong to shake hands with the opposite sex then Honest girls and those who agreed with her are right one the money. If someone told me it's against their religion then that's fine. It's not like it's a big deal. My only concern would be if they subsequently came up with lots of other company policies they couldn't comply with because "It's against my religion." Nabad Gelyo
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| | Unrecorded Date Salaam ya'll..... eid wanaagsan first of all.......may allah bless yall....... To Mad Mac......sup bro.......thanx for ur messege up there but i got somethin' to say to u.....but please dont get offended aight.......... u said that u dont think that shaking a hand with the opposite sex is a sin......right..... well brotha let me tell u this.......i am not a goody goody girl.......i am not that religious and i dont memorize hadeeths and quranic verses concerning a matter in our beautiful religion but i heard a hadeeth saying that the prophet never used to shake hands with women.......even when the ansaar women of Madina were "baayacing him" -i dont know how to say it in somali or english- sorry......he did not shake their hand......i guess its when they came to him and told him that they would believe in Allah and not worship but Him and that he was the massenger of Allah and stuff like that........but anyway my point is that he didnt shake thier hand.........so if we r muslims and we r supposed to do what the prophet did and stay away from what he did not do then we should not deny that shaking hand with the opposite sex is unlawful........ second hadeeth is when the prophet (asw) said this hadeeth but i dont know how it exactly goes but i'll tell u what it said.......that every part of the human body commits zina........the eye -by looking at what is forbidden, such as TV, naked women or men-, the ear -by listening to what is forbidden, such as music, or mocking Allah could be one too-, the hand -by touching the opposite sex, either by shaking hand, or u know what some pple do when it comes to the person they want badly-, the feet -by goin' somewhere they r not supposed or somewhere not allowed, like a pary, club, or any other forbidden place-, the heart -by wishing to do something haraam, i'm not really sure about this one- and the private parts believe it or not -by having illegal intercourse-...... and when Allah (swt) says in the quran an aaya that means "dont go near zina".......He didnt say dont commit zina........He said dont go near it.......that means dont do anything like, looking, listening, touching, goint to, or even wishing, because it leads to the major zina which is the illegal intercourse.......doesn't that make sense my brotha...... i am not here to preach to u.....cuz i should preach to myself b4 i preach to pple...........but one thing i think is a big mistake.......is when we know something is right and we just dont wanna do it......we say oh no thats not true.....or that is just sunnah......... we just wanna match the quran and hadeeth to our desires...but that will count against us oneday........i believe that if u will do a sin......then do it knowing that it is a sin.......dont make excuses and say its not haram and deny the aaya or hadeeth and give it ur own interpration na' mean.........cuz that is even a bigger sin u know........it would be easier if we just said.........especially a lot of us girlz.........."i know its not a full hijab or a hijab to wear a head piece with pants but i hope Allah will guide me"......then we only get the sin of not wearing the right hijab.......but if we say "its not haram to dress like this".......then we get the sin of denying what we have been told........which a lot of Christians and Jews do.........we r about to leave our religion and we betta think it over again......if we believe in the religion then we should stop making it go our way.......our religion is not hard......and its not easy........it takes commitment and a strong faith........... sorry if i made it long my brotha.....but i felt that i had to say something about ur comment.......even though i got lots of respect for u and ur opinions.........i just had to tell u what i thought of it...........and we gotta agree to disagree.......no offense aight P.S. u said there is nothing sexual in shaking a hand..........maybe thats what u think.......but believe me brotha.........to some pple....there is..........if u see the girl u like or the guy u like and they offer u a handshake........or even a hug.......u just keep on dreaming of it the whole time...right..... thats from an experience.... till lata Honest Girl said
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| | Unrecorded Date ala hoogayeey...ma anaan sheegin inuu waalanyahay hebel...baloonbaa ka dabcay ee ilaahay u soo barya oo faataxada u soo mara..ma ninka ku leh"gloves ha qaato nooh ama maro haku duuduubto"... bismillaahi raxmaani raxiim (Alxamdulillaahi rabbil caalamiin,Arraxmaani raxiim,Maalikiyow middiin,iyaaka nacbudu wa iyaaka nastaciin,ihdina siraadal Mustaqiin,siraadalladiina an camta calayhim,qayril maqduubi calayhim wala daaliin.aamiin.) faataxada u mara.
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| | Unrecorded Date hoog oo ba'i waayee naga daa habaarka sidii goblankii uun baad meel walba habaartantaa.
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| | Unrecorded Date Honestgirl You're a woman after my heart. I don't agree but I love the way you express yourself. Obviously smarter than your average bear. OF course, since I'm Galka (I read the Koran but not I'm exactly a believer) I'm sure you would never go out with me. I'm probably too old for you anyway. But I can tell you're cool!!!!!!!!!!!
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| | Unrecorded Date Salaam ya'll... MadMac.......baby thanx for the compliment....... i am not all that but i know i am cool and smart....lol......and u r not too old for me....if u were for me......how old r u? lol.... u said u read the quran and u r not exactly a believe! Mad....i am kinda shocked to hear that........seriously........never thought those words would come out of a SOMALI PERSON......but hey.......the fingers in my hand r not all the same........ Do u mind if u tell me more of what u believe since u dont believe in the qoran.......i am not disrespecting u or anything.....but i really would love to talk to u about what u believe and what u dont believe!...... if its aight with......give me ur email! if not......drop it like u neva heard it aight.... adios amigos
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| | Unrecorded Date HonestGirl Hey little sister. I'm 38. I'm not Somali. I'm an American soldier who fought in Somalia. My religious beliefs are pretty complex so I won't go into them here. They always provoke an outrageous response on the net anyway. I also have a girlfriend so even if you were interested in an old infidel, which is highly unlikely, that's not possible. But I do like your style. You seem like a smart, sweet girl. Take care abai. I'll be in touch.
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| | Unrecorded Date Honest Girl You still out there little sister. Here's my E- comsforma3@sarajevo.5sigcmd.army.mil
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| | Unrecorded Date To Honest Girl WALAAL SALAAM ALAYKUM walaal waxad tahay gabadh ay diinteedu aad u sarayso in sha alaah waxan kuu rajaynayaa inaad halkaa ka sii wado walaal waxba wakhtiga hays ka ga lumin gaal iska yeelka iyaga oo soomalia haddana waxaas ku had laya waa dad iyagu redoobay wasalaamu caleykum
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| | Unrecorded Date Gacansaar aa laga hadlooyaa adinkoo soomaali ah aa ba is dhuuqoosiin naaska gabdhaha u salaaxoosiine ... Ar ilaahay ka cabsada oo dhaqanka hanaga badalina shukaansigana ha ka dhigina in la isdhuuqo lee ...... ani hada waaba nacay dadkaan oo waxna sheegooyo waxna ka boodooyo yaa rabanaa astur ceebunaaa.... Ukhtu jiijo wasalama
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| | Unrecorded Date Islam is all about common sense, morals, rationality and science. The common sense thing to do in this situation is sack the woman’s hand, all this will do is break your waddo At the end of the day, its even worst to be on welfare (haraam infact). And you do live in a kuffur land. Peace Word of advice use the brains Allah blessed you with and stop asking dumm questions DONT TALK MY ADVISE ASK THE EXPERTS GO TO THE MOSQUE
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| | Unrecorded Date Hi all! making eye contact with opposite sex is Xaraam Since she/he is having eye contact with the stranger who is interviewing her/him what is the big deal about shaking hands???? If anything Eye contact is more sinfull than just shaking hands.... From what I heard one can shake hands with opposite sex and go on with his/her Salaat that is if U dont have sexual intentions when U are shaking hands......... If U guys really believe in being a good muslim y don't U do all by the Quraan and stop taking school loans,credit cards,home morgage etc etc cuz it is all xaraam Doing every thing by the Quraan is good but there is rules n regulations that worked in the old days that is impossible right now like the above mentioned Yada yada blah! If U want to get the job go ahead shake hands with the darn stranger or stay home and collect shabta and sty misrable...... peace n luv all
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| | Unrecorded Date TO SHE YOU ARE SOOOOOOO RIGHT, THATZ WHAT I WAS TRYING TO SAY SIS I'LL SEE YOU AT THE DMX CONCERT @ STATFORD REX
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| | Unrecorded Date SAY WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT. Yo I want to be Dmx dude. Get a life. That bitch DmX is in despered need of a blow job. DO you get it. DA BITCH IS EEN WORSE THAN THAT PUNK...........>>>>ICE CUBE. THE BOTH WORTHLESS NIGGAZ WHO CAN't RAP THEY BOTH JUST YELL>
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