     bride to be | Unrecorded Date
In july, I am going to get married to my first love. we have been together for two and a half years. I felt that we were the perfect couple friends use to say how much we looked in love and how I was lucky to have such a guy, but since 1998 we have had constant problems with each other's personality and it's still going on till date. I never have gotten over the mental pressure that he has put on me, I look at him at times and wish that we weren't together and if I could just get away, as I believe the right man is out there for me. Someone said to me the other day 'Why are there so many divorces, she says she can't accept his ways why did she not sort this before she got married, I feel sorry for their new baby'.
When we are together we have a laugh but sometimes we just begin this •••• way of communicating which I think is the real problem but it all comes to the mental pressure he has put on me.
I dont want to be like this at times I have swore that I wont have his child, I believe also inside of me that he knows how I feel but he rather not say as it's only a few months away for the wedding. You may think as result of reading this I may be one confused woman but I am really stuck on this one please help. |
| khalil | Unrecorded Date
bride to be:
it is sad facts that life has never been easy for couples. From Adam and Eve to our generation Life for couples has been constant battle-- battle which could have surive through compromises and tolerances. it was not one's way only. one would lose some of his/her wants throught negotiation. and she/he also would take some unwanted to him/her through negotiation. and that is the way life have been so far. it is constant battle and joy.
But one thing that i didn't understand is why you are marying him if you are not happy with him? why marrying him if you swore that you won't carry his baby? . Usually every couple sails from happy start. even those who ended up divorce.
Don't you think it is too early for you to put up with a mental pressure. in this early stage you should have been happy. if i were you, i wouldn't start my marraige with unhappiness. |
| TROUBLEGIRL | Unrecorded Date
BRIDE-TO-BE
Girl if ya not happy...Postpone the wedding and FISH around. U live only once honey, so you better be safe than sorry. If ya don't want him bi-niyah then there is no point.
I believe GUURka is all about the UNION of MINDS...If mentally/physically/ he ain't satisfying you don't waste your time and budge to another LEVEL.
Tell him how ya feeel though....Communicate.
PEACE
TROUBLE |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
asalaama caleykum
sis hadaadan ku faraxsaneyn guurkan xitaa dib u dhigo intaad xal cad ka gaareyso. hadaad ku qaadato meeshaan ha kaaga ekaato caloolyow oo ninkaaga dhexda u xiro ogowna you will never be farxad inta noloshaada ka dhiman fiilinkaaga kala saar oo qofna waxaad u heysaa naxariis saa'ida adoon jecleyn in aad gudahiisa ama nolol la wadaagto qofna naftaada yuu farxad galiyaa oo waa qofkaad jeceshahay.wich one you will go for it.
anigaa nin waxaan u guursadey well qof wanaagsan baad tahay waad xalinkartaa guurkaaga! I was wrong waayo hadaad kaliya qof kale dantiisa fiiriso taada waa lumeysaa waxaadna ku noolaan shaki iyo in marwalba aad diyaar u tahay in aad kala tagtaan.qofkaad jeclaaneyso ama aad nolosha wadaageysaan waa in uu kuu ogol yahay nolol farxadleh nolosho waxey ku macdaheey give and take but hadaad u aragto in kaligaa aad wax xaliso you going no were but bat life. |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
asalaama caleykum
sis hadaadan ku faraxsaneyn guurkan xitaa dib u dhigo intaad xal cad ka gaareyso. hadaad ku qaadato meeshaan ha kaaga ekaato caloolyow oo ninkaaga dhexda u xiro ogowna you will never be farxad inta noloshaada ka dhiman fiilinkaaga kala saar oo qofna waxaad u heysaa naxariis saa'ida adoon jecleyn in aad gudahiisa ama nolol la wadaagto qofna naftaada yuu farxad galiyaa oo waa qofkaad jeceshahay.wich one you will go for it.
anigaa nin waxaan u guursadey well qof wanaagsan baad tahay waad xalinkartaa guurkaaga! I was wrong waayo hadaad kaliya qof kale dantiisa fiiriso taada waa lumeysaa waxaadna ku noolaan shaki iyo in marwalba aad diyaar u tahay in aad kala tagtaan.qofkaad jeclaaneyso ama aad nolosha wadaageysaan waa in uu kuu ogol yahay nolol farxadleh nolosho waxey ku macdaheey give and take but hadaad u aragto in kaligaa aad wax xaliso you going no were but bat life. |
| MAD MAC | Unrecorded Date
Bride to be
As much as it pains me to agree with Trouble, who has been a major pain in the ass lately, she's absolutely right. You'd be CRAZY to marry someone you aren't satisfied with. And once you're married it only gets worse. Find someone you're happy with or you'll regret it. Speaking from experience on this one little sister. |
| Mariah | Unrecorded Date
Bride to be
"Is better to be safe then sorry" Don't pospone anything end that relationship.
And wait your prince. |
| hebel | Unrecorded Date
ok I understand. |
| xawo | Unrecorded Date
to mad mac
adiga meelkasto makujirtaa shaqo makaa dhacdo miyaa,u are very strange man saxnooh.
xaas to be.
abaayo waxaan ku dhihilahaaa lahadal,oo usheeg inaa happy ahayn maxaa yeelay wadahadalka ayaa muhiim ah. kadibnah bareeg kaqaado nimanka maxaa yeelay konfuyuus ayaa tahay waa iga talo.
salaama alla kum dhamaan. |
| Deo | Unrecorded Date
Bride to be:
Sister i feel ur bain and i understand were u coming from allthough i dont know u but one thing is for sure u have to tell him how u feel and let him know what is the problem before its to late.
Keep ur head up sister. |
| bride to be | Unrecorded Date
to all
thank you for your messages, it may seem simple stating that i should just up and leave but times are getting harder as it's only a few months away. i use to pray to allah daily that may all this go away, i 've given up hope as hope is gone all that i use to destine for like a husband who treasures me everyday is wiped away.
to communicate with him about this would not make a difference as ihave tried, promises of change of ways were said but never kept, must i marry and then divorce allah (swt) dis-likes an act and i dont want to go through this as i feel mentally drained at times.
as your sister please advice
bride to be |
| Muriidi | Unrecorded Date
Hawa,
ar maxaa gaanjibo tahay, bareg ka qaado kulahaa. ha i soo marin.
Bride-to-be
Calaacalka iska dhaaf saxib qof khasab kugu guursan kara ma jiro wixii talo la hayayna waa lagu siiyay ee waxaad talada ka qaadataa TROUBLEGIRL mar dambana ha na wareerinin. Waxaadse u hadlaysaa sidii qof ay wax ku tageen oo rahman oo aan ka bixi karin arrintan, marka timir laf baa ku jirtee sheekada qabyada ah naga dhaaf ee soo dhamaystir, anagana talo naga sug markaas.
Ii soo bari |
| TROUBLEGIRL | Unrecorded Date
MURIIDI....
Adiga kaaaley marna ila safo marna iga safo...U made me laugh though Gaaanjib shiirooow waaxid. Ha ha aryaa ma qof laga ji-jibiyeey ayaan kuula ekahay? I don't think so bro...Muufadeyda Maraq ay iigu jirtaaa sxb Alxamdullillah
MAD"MILLITARY"BOY
Oh so it hurts you to agree with the Sista huh? Hey sweetness I am sure I apologised if I hurt your Tender feelingz....I have even given you a rose for it...This goes to show that Men never appreciate anything man....I want my ROSE back..lol |
| MAD MAC | Unrecorded Date
Bride to be
So how does the story end? Are you marrying the guy or not???? Inquiring readers want to know.
Trouble
No you can't have it. The rose is mine!!! Indian giver. So there. And the only Tender feelings I have are for my girlfriend - otherwise I'm a ruthless son of a bitch. You can remind the moryan when I come back to Somalia - no more Mr. Nice Guy. |
| lover girl | Unrecorded Date
TO bride to be
just wake up and smell the coffee girl...don't waste the guy's time july is getting closser by the minute and you need to make up your mind pronto!!! the guy is probably getting ready for the wedding and working may be double job to make your dream wedding come to reality I suppose***and you are not even sure if he is the one for you he will hate you more if you wait till the last minute to tell him how you feel...and please don't bother getting married if you are not 110% in love***don't do it for him or anybody else...Good luck
later y'all |
| bride-to-be | Unrecorded Date
to everyone we are getting married in canada where he lives and i just hope that allah guides me well and to thank all for your support
take care |
| TL | Unrecorded Date
Xaas to be
listen honey, if you are not happy with the guy today, few months from your wedding, you have to know that you will never be happy with him . What is going on -LIVING IN LIES - is not fair for you and definetly not fair for the guy. Keep in mind also that you are better off as a "bachelor" than "carmal - divorced".
I smell a rat here, are you one of those girls who marry for the sake of it, just because everybody does it? all your friends did it and you feel like a looser or something. Is that really the pressure you are talking about here, trying to blame the guy for pressuring. How exactly is he pressuring you, is he some kind of gangsta with a gun?. Look yourself in the mirror, may be the problem is with you, and not the guy. In my opinion you want to get marry so badly, this guy has given you the pleasure to feel wanted for marriage, but deep inside you don't love him for real. Somalis have a good saying for this " Beerka jecli , Xaydha jecli"
One more thing, are you too old to wait?.
Think before it is too late baby or good luck with your miserable married life and see you in hell |
| MAD MAC | Unrecorded Date
Bride to Be
I still think you're making a BIG mistake. Divorce is painful and expensive - I've been there. If you aren't certain then you would be better advised to back out now. It's better for you and better for him. |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
If you are not happy with him then i don't think you should married him because now you not even married to him are you feel that way, but if you married to him things could get really worst.
i think you should listen to your heart and your berin. |
| GIRLiNJEANS | Wednesday, June 14, 2000 - 12:31 pm
wait till the wedding day-try on your wedding dress-then RUN-atleast u could say the dress didn't fit? |
| hebel | Wednesday, June 14, 2000 - 07:39 pm
OK Ms. Roberts....What about if Ya give him a Pencil? |
| Dhalfo | Wednesday, June 14, 2000 - 07:43 pm
Hebla.....Pencilka ma lagugu cubaa...? wuxu edeb daranaa oo anshax xumaa....yaa kugu dhirbaaxa..
Dhalfo... |
| Mariah | Thursday, June 15, 2000 - 06:08 am
Girlinjeans LOL Run away Bride..
Bride to be.....Is simple if you don't Love him don't marry him. |
| hebel | Thursday, June 15, 2000 - 08:07 pm
lol dhalfo waridkaa cun xaasisanidaa kaali? |
