     Fadumo | Thursday, November 23, 2000 - 06:18 pm
My best friend came to me and said to me that my husband was coming on to her when i am not around I didn't beliver her and we had a big argument about it.I have been married to this man for 4 years and i have never seen any thing of that kind. When I asked him he said that my friend was lying so who do i belive and who shoul disbelive????????????????????????????????????? |
| Anonymous | Thursday, November 23, 2000 - 06:21 pm
Dear Fadumo
I am very sorry to hear that. Do you have any kids with this man |
| Anon | Thursday, November 23, 2000 - 08:17 pm
Fadumo, your marriage must be in a sorry state if you don't trust your husband. What happened to the trust you had for 4 years. Is this trust so flimsy that a word from a friend can destroy it. Sit down and ask yourself if the trust is there. If there is no trust, forget this marriage! |
| Anonymous | Friday, November 24, 2000 - 07:35 am
Soomaali ku soo qora hadalkiin, haddaadse u sheegeysaan ajnabiga waa yeelin, talan ha iga sugina.
Nabadey! |
| ixtraam | Friday, November 24, 2000 - 02:00 pm
dear fadumo
abaayo saaxiibadaa meeqa sano ayaad taqaanay
mise u malaynasaa inay sameeyna karto arin sidaas ah, hadii ayka suurtoodo, rumayso saaxibadaa hadii kale naagi waa shaydaane, inta aad indhaha xiritid, guriaago dhaqo ninkaagan rumayso waayo isaga ayaa dad kuugu dhow..
PS: waxaad ii soo sheegtaa wixii dhacay bal waan si ku dayaa in aan kula soo xiriro |
| Anonymous | Saturday, November 25, 2000 - 09:02 am
Fadumo I am really sorry.
How is the relashion between your husband and this friend.
2 Before she came and told you what did she do
a)she bit the crap out of him
b)She insoltated him.
c)She took a reanckeh on the offer.
What i am saying is question your friend before you do any thing.Because a man will never ever admit that he is cheating.Why her why not other women,and that way you will never found out and he will have a marriege. |
| Mohamed | Saturday, November 25, 2000 - 09:06 am
Fadumo from a man point of view
Your husband doesn't like this woman and he wants her out of your live.
Why????
Because when a man cames after his wife friend
He want to get basted with this woman.
That is your answer.
Mohamed |
| Anonymous | Saturday, November 25, 2000 - 09:15 am
Fadumo
waalal do you have any kids
waalal do you know you love your husband
waalal is he good to your kids and you(if you have kids)
waalal ppl sometime do the most horroble thing to others for no reson.Your friend and the word friend is a very special thing.why she told you, to be honest with you.
and we all know that honesty with man is really hard and specialy if the know the love the person that they are doing wrong. |
| Anonymous | Saturday, November 25, 2000 - 09:18 am
Fadumo tell the bicht to get out of your live.
and trust your husband. |
| wanaagduun | Saturday, November 25, 2000 - 05:51 pm
salaam fadumo iyo dadka kale ba
sister this is a brotherly advice this woman wants to create a conflict between you and your husband why?I think and this is my own predection*she wants to get with your husband...
don't forgot that she is a woman after all.
is she married?if no than she is definantly after ninkaaga ii iska jir.
and if she had good intentions as a friend she wouldn't have told you something that might destroy youe home your family she would have kept it as a secret......friend in need is a friend indeed.
waa salaam |
| reallady2000 | Monday, November 27, 2000 - 04:20 am
to fad,
sis you said you were married to him for 4 years so this proves to me that your marriage had lots trusting and now ur best friend is saying he is hitting on her...... don't u think it is bit odd because he would have hitted on her ages during the for 4 years you have been married...so maybe ur so called best freind is jealous of you or lying ot get some attention from you.
peace out........... |
| qadarrrrrr | Monday, November 27, 2000 - 09:20 am
BELIEVE WHAT YOU SEE ON UR EYES....
NEVER BELIEVE SOMETHING THAT U
HEARD FROM SOMEONE TILL YOU SEE
IT FOR URSELF......FIND SOME OTHER
WAYS OTHER THEN LISTENING SOME CRABS
FROM OTHERS.....AND REMEMBER MARRIAGE
IS BASED ON TRUST IF U CAN'T UR MAN
THEN I GUESS THAT MARRIAGE WON'T LAST
SO TAKE AND FIND SOMEOTHER WAYS TO FIND
OUT IF THAT'S TRUEEE
UR BROTHER
Qadarrrrrr |
| Fadumo | Monday, November 27, 2000 - 11:50 am
Thank you all for the responce.
Have 2 kids with this man and i love him very much
and yes we been having problems like everyone else. My friend is not married and i know she is not a lier that i know and i also now that she doesn't like him same for him but why would she ly abou this and now,i don't know what to say.
But since i asked my husband he is still talking to her like nothing happend and same for her so am i the crazy one here why he is not mad if she lyed.Why woudn't he say i don't want see her in my house.She tells me that she will never hurt me and she is being honest and that he is the one that i shouldn't trast. |
| ASIA | Monday, November 27, 2000 - 12:12 pm
Fadumo
I am one of the somali sister in USA.
Fadumo i had the same problem few month ago.
My husband that i am married since i was 16 and now am 24.yes that is 8 years and 3 kids and on top of that he is my cousing and he is 10 years older than i am.
Ok here it goes.
You know how somali are we are so sick that we keep it in the family.This girl she is my cousing and my nice at same time,that makes my husband her uncle and her brother in low.
After some time me and the girl became friends my husband didn't like that.So he went to the family and said this woman is distroing my home blablabla.ok wish was not true.
It went on and on for 3 year.
One day my friend came to me and said hey you husband when you are not around he is he hitting on me. I was like get real and i told her prove it.so we whent to a store and got a tape recoreder and tape him. at that time i was like she is the one who is lying because my husband loves me and he hates her right!!!!!!
Wrong.
she was right but he wasn't saying same thing that he could not get out with a lye.So we told him to get chad and i will go to sleep when they are eating chat so he is thinking that i am at sleep. After i wail a came out and he is bastaded like red handed.But the story doesn't and there my husband guest why he was doing that????????
it is open to any one but you are not going to belive when i a tell you...........
Asia |
| ANI | Tuesday, November 28, 2000 - 04:53 am
waxaan u malenayaa saxiibtaa beed ILAHEY AYEE DU DUMINEYSAA IS KA HIL MAAM |
| FADUMO | Tuesday, November 28, 2000 - 08:55 am
Asia are you for real.
Waalal I am not playing but it looks like that you are.Plc this is very hard for me so don't joke around.But if you are telling the trueth why are you still married to the guy?
And for 8 years did he cheat on you if not why now,and specialy if 2 them did not like eachother and told the family.Don't you think that your friends is a little bit dhilo to say yes lets trap him I can understand your part but why she did it.but why did he cheat on you after 8 years.
And do you belive him....What about the woman where is she?
Bye
Fadumo |
| Helpful | Tuesday, November 28, 2000 - 10:17 am
Sister, how are u doing, I hope u r fine.
I may not be as old as u, I am 19, but an important lesson my mother taught me was never ever
trust guys no matter what. They will lie until the end, apparently they have pride to worry about.
So here is what I think, If u came on the net and told everyone this story. It seems to me that u
believe what your friend is telling, and the reason u r on the net is because u are confused. One,
u believe your friend, and two u can’t believe your mate would do such a think to u. Tell me if I
am right so far. By the tone of your voice, I have a feeling that your instincts say that your mate
is also lying through his teeth, so until u can see for your self all these doubts and unanswered
question will remain. I ask you to go out and do what ever you can to get to the bottom of this,
and see it for your own eyes. But before u do that confront your friend and see if she still sticks
to the story, u say she fabricated. Then do the same with your husband, and emphases on the
fact that if he is lying the truth will come out one way or another. Also tell him that, all u care
about is the truth, and what happens after that u can deal with it together and figure out a way to
fix the mistake. I wish you the best, and I hope that my advice can help u.
Good Luck.
P.S. Don't hasitate to ask anymore questions, we are after all her to help u |
