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     | Unrecorded Date i am sure u can imagine why i am saying all this...yes i have been badly hurt by one of them.He told me lies after lies after lies..and i was a fool to believe him. At that time i thought i was in love with the idiot, thought he meant everyword he said.Little did i know its a game for the male species. Most of them..honestly i cant find a male who differs alot from them.I dont want to lose hope but i am now...slowly slowly...i want to stop , i want to believe but no one to convince me otherwise. they hurt u and say its all the womans fault.A man could have 200 chidren outside of marriage...and as much as they think there is no prove on their body...the prove is no woman becomes a mother without a male there. what i would like is a little hope, a little hope that the male species can be trusted...and how
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| | Unrecorded Date deeplyhurt, Your veiws is what the ultra-feminists say about men. You are doing generalization. Your views and what you are saying may lead you to lesbianism.
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| | Unrecorded Date Deeplyhurt, don't generalize. In life one is bound to meet the good, the bad and the ugly!!! Trials and tribulations.....that is life!! Hebel, how compassionate you are!!!!
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| | Unrecorded Date deeply hurt Its not uncommon to feel this right after the relasionship is over sis, but in time everything will work themselves out. Have faith, coz as much as i agree with ya gal, i know there are few good men about. you dont need a man to have a happy fulfilling life sis,though its nice to have an understanding,loving caring companion to share the good times, to have children together. So sis give yourself time, time heals everything. And if u were meant to find the kind of guy u want, insha allah u will. Relashionships aren't as easy as we think, just like everything else you have to work hard at it inorder to have a good and stable one. So sometimes being single gives u the oportunity to find yourself, to enjoy the freedom, do something worthwhile so even after a hard break up you know its not the end of the world, and there are blenty of fish in the sea. Sis wishing u the best of luck and i hope u learned a lesson out of this. if u need help furhtermore this is my email indebendent@hotmail.com take care
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| | Unrecorded Date Deelpy hurt Sis I think samething is wrong with you, you need to go to the Mosqua and ask Allaah help, as Bro Madar said If you Continuous like that you will be Deelpy lesbian gene.
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| | Unrecorded Date Deeplyhurt, a poem for you. It called 'Betrayal' and it is by someone called Jan. Love...I once gave to you Feelings...I thought were true Trust...I shared my heart Dreams...that we'd never part Happiness...you made me feel Kisses...I thought were real Chances...I took for you Honest...I thought you were too Thoughts...of you all day Looks...words could never portray Time...you took up a lot Lust...is all you sought Open...I tried to be Disappointment...is all it got me. Hope you get over the hurt, Cheer up sis!!
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| | Unrecorded Date to madar hebel and nasra plz read what a person writes b4 u jump and start writing thinking u r so damn perfect, 1st what u r talking about is far from the subject. nasra= how do you know whether i go to mosque or not ha.listen dont judge a book by its cover. and plz sis if u cant write good english, dont bother u just make a fool of urself. madar= i am an inteligent female..but even the most smart ppl make mistakes..and thus i lose hope for the male species, dont mean i will become a lesbian ok. As u know marriage is not a must in islam, this proves if some1 had enough and wants to remain single they can To hebel..you are it..the ugly ones to sister and anon= thankz a lot, nice to know there are honest compassinate and smart ppl like u thankz
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| | Unrecorded Date deeplyhurt, > madar= i am an inteligent female..but even the > most smart ppl make mistakes. You might be "an intelligent female" and yes "even the most smart ppl make mistakes", even the men who wronged you made "mistakes" when they get invovled with you, right? > and thus i lose hope for the male species, dont > mean i will become a lesbian ok. It is true that "loosing hope for the male species" does not "mean" you "will become a lesbian", but you will become what is called a GABLAN or a CELIBATE for the rest of your life if you give up the hope of settling down. Maybe the problem you have with men is that, you want to get involve with them without marriage which is a mistake. > As u know marriage is not a must in islam, this proves if some1 had enough and wants to remain single they can You might not have to get married, especially if you have some kind of ailment or some legitimate reasons that prevents you to not get marry, but generalizing all men is not a good reason. However, for most people, marriage is a must for them. It is the only way they can *protect* and *satisfy* themselves. You see, a *marriage* life is the *natural* thing, but *celibacy* life is an "un-natural* thing. People who are celibate for the rest of their life suffer loneliness and some physiological/psychological problems. A marriage has many pleasures and pains, but celibacy has no pleasure at all. Practicing chastity is the most unnatural of perversions as is the lesbianism/homosexuality lifestyles.
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| | Unrecorded Date deeply hurt i know what you are saying, but like sister said time heals everything...in no time u will see yourself thinking about another relatoinships. So sis give yourself some time. Wixii ilaahey noo qorayna seegi mayno sis...whether it is bad things or good. So have faith. So far it seems to me like those guys proved just what you were saying. Men never understand us women and i wonder if they ever will. hadii add u bahaantahay someone to listen my email is ............> enegmatic@hotmail.com dont hasitate sis peace for now
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| | Unrecorded Date Dear: Deeply Hurt Abaayo men is our lives if you called all of them Arrogant and be wary of , that is why I said you need I a Guidance, I don't mean to hurt you, just advised you, because the Prophet (scw) when he have problem he use run to the mosque. Sis how many men we misleaded I can say countless, so Insha Allaahu after Days life will came back. I wonder without men how we can live like (Nans) and Commit fornication may Allaah protect us. Your's Nasra
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| | Unrecorded Date amazing all I asked was whether she wanted pain killers and I got something I didn't understand for an answer (hebel...you are it...the ugly ones) I feel like I been insulted here.
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| | Unrecorded Date dear deeplyhurt: girlfriend, i feel for u but dont u think ur a little bit over reacting to this, " i hate the male species" crap? hebel, man i think she was insulting u lol, nasra; i love ur advice sis, even if 'ms.deeplyhurt' here dont apreciate it, the only way to get our hearts clean of hate and loathing others is by going back to allah and going to the masjid and being surrounded by it is beauty and feeling the presence of the angles and knowing that allah is above all , and to Him we will return .....,
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| | Unrecorded Date to hilda, nasra and xirsi thanks for your insights, and honestly i am not gonna sit here and deny what you guys are talking about is untrue. Laakiin si fiican iima aydaan fahmin, hadii ann sii faahfaahiyo myself, not that i wanted to b4, the thing is i was married 4 a year1/2 but not anymore, u see the guy i knew first and the one i married became tottaly different, its not a questoin of whether he was religous or not, the question is why so many men, including my two brothers and my father who i love the most, dont care much about nothing else but themselves. What i mean is they dont give a damn, especially their kids. My father has several kids who he dont know where they r till now, and my brothers are worse, everyday cheating with their wifes, and it desnt worry them one bit. I am not surprised with what i got when my own siblings are doing it, but my consern is why is it so easy for men to blame us. everytime i ask my brother why he dont take care of his kids they say its not their faults, its the womans....but how. Just because we trust them...mind u when u meet them first they will do anything for u, they r so sweet and u wont think twice about them. Also i said i am starting to hate, not hate, there is a difference. I mean how do u tell the con from the good ones. Like they say u cant know a person untill u live with them, so do i keep marrying and divorcing untill i find the right one??? And the other thing that hurts me above all is the young chidren involved,they r forgotten about, they r always left with the mother to take care of, and the men just go and remarry...esp most muslim men...i know the religoin dont tell them to do that, but they hide behind it anyways. To make a long story short, without missunderstanding me, i dont hate men, just so many reasons to start hatin, and i am not saying woman are much better, but all i wanted to know is how do u keep hope after all this...my writing here does not mean that i hate them, infact it means i would like to be happily married with a loving husband and beautiful chidlren but how do u find such men,not perfect, i am just asking for the avarage men, who have their priorities in order and sraight hebel..i dont know what u think u r...funny or something.waxaan ku iri meel fariiso and maybe get a job, u r in every discusion there is writing stupid comments, what do u want ppl to say u r so good...i dont think so...in my opinon u r an attention seeker who is upto no good...plz do something with your meaningless life....quote: a mind is a trible thing to waste peace all
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| | Unrecorded Date deeplyhurt, its now that you are getting to know more, all men are the same regardless of their nationalities. i agree with your conclusion although i might not be correct. but you made one important point out here, i really dont understand if all those somali girls who compare the good things of other men to us somalis will understand your valid and very important conclusion and will start thinking or reason like you. what else can i say, i am deeply sorry it happened it to you, but believe me you had no choice but to believe it and you are not the only one. LIVE IS NOT ALWAYS FAIR! Jaaw.
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| | Unrecorded Date SALAMUCALAYKUM. SIS FIRST LET ME GIVE YOU AN HONEST ANSWER. YOU MAYBE LOOKING FOR RELATIONSHIPS IN A BAD WAY. MAYBE IT'S BECAUSE YOU ARE RUSHING INTO IT TOO FAST BEFORE GETTING TO KNOW THE PERSON. AND LET LOVE COME YOUR WAY DON'T LOOK FOR LOVE CAUSE YOU KNOW ALL THE MEN AREN'T THE SAME. AND CHECK OUT THE KIND OF GUYS THEY ARE BEFORE YOU THINK ABOUT LOVE. AND IF THESE THINGS DON'T WORK FOR YOU DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT GETTING A RELATIONSHIP OR LIKE I SAID WAIT FOR A GOOD MAN. YOU ALSO DON'T NEED TO STRESS YOURSELF OUT OVER SOME LOSER, CAUSE WHILE THEY ARE ENJOYING THEMSELFS OVER DUMPING YOU, YOU ARE LOCKING YOURSELF IN YOUR ROOM CRYING. SOMALI WOMEN DON'T CRY OVER MEN AND WE DON'T LOOK FOR THEM EITHER AIGHT WE LET THEM COME TO US. SO JUST CHILL AIGHT AND ENJOY YOURSELF. THINK ABOUT SCHOOL AND YOUR FUTURE AND HOW TO MAINTAIN YOURSELF. SALAMUCALAYKUM. TILL NEXT TIME NO'IN BUT PEACE AND LOVE FOR YOU. UBAX
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| | Unrecorded Date Deeplyhurt, I agree that there are irresponsible men out there and the worst of them are the *so called* religious ones. They are notorious of abandoning their spouses and children. I do not know what makes these men behave the way the behave, but I know it is not the religion; it is their upbringings. You said your brothers follow the footsteps of your father. I think it is the same situation for the most men who are dead-beat fathers. Most likely, they came from dysfunction and broken homes, thus, they end up dysfunctioning themselves, in most cases. These men use their women and children like they use their clothes; they are addicted to the art of messing up other people's lives without conscious. They are what is called KHAYRUL MASUULIIN(irresponsible men) and they are worst than the PLAYERS, because the the PLAYERS know who they are are. These men, on the other hand, think they are men's men and worst religious, but they are not. Thus, they do dis-service to the diin and they bring bad name to the other man who are good. Deeplyhurt, I pray for you and your children.
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| | Unrecorded Date Xirsi Xaar Weyne Walaal Xirsi Hadaad caydo dadka Diinta leh Allaah ayaa Kaa abaal marin.
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| | Unrecorded Date Anonymous, aniga cidna ma cayaayin; haddii run la sheego oo laga sheego dadka xun, micnaheeda ma aha in diinta la caayay. And FYI, cayda la caawo "dadka Diinta leh" iyo "dadka Diinta aan lehayn" waa isku mid wayna xuntahay oo waa dambi labadaba. > Xirsi Xaar Weyne Adigana Ilaahay ha kaa abaal mariyo. LOL
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| | Unrecorded Date Dear "Signs of the unseen"a fabulous book from Jalaludin Rumi will help you to understand perhaps answer lots of the questions you are seeking. The problem you described and the pain you've been trought is not limited to Somalis the problem is deeper than that. Do not try to put in trial the humanity you will be dissapointed. You are healing wright now and is about time you realise that. Please stop using this discussion group and focus on your inner strengths You will find happiness. "God is called the Forgiver...How do you want God to forgive if we(simple human)cannot forgive??? Peace & Love & Harmony.
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| | Unrecorded Date Deeplyhurt, Ali gave you a good suggestion!!! Rumi's poetry is also great. Listen to it on tape.(recitation by Coleman Barks, who translated his works). The poems are accompanied by the sound of the 'cuud' instrument played by one the best 'cuud' players a Sudanese who lives in Japan...can't remeber his name now. For an introduction to Rumi's poetry try: "The Essential Rumi" published by Harpers Collins publishers.
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| | Unrecorded Date hi deeplyhurt: sis,i think i owe u an apology (sorry), i didnt quite get where u were going with ur original posting, but now i hear u and get u lol, and itis sad coz all u said is all true, but sis there are few good ones around lol, hope u snatch one of them good ones, lol good luck, and oh, good response to hebel lol
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| | Unrecorded Date deeplyhurt so what are U saying now? All I saw was how yar mouth was spiting like rainy day. spits was shooting out like bullets I had to turn my windshield wipers on just to clean my face. SHEEEEEEESH! . . hebelidontknowwhatuthinkur...funnyorsomething.waxaankuirimeelfariisoandmaybegetajob,urineverydiscusionthereiswritingstupidcomments,whatdouwantppltosayursogood...idontthinkso...inmyopinonuranattention seekerwhoisuptonogood...plzdosomethingwithyourmeaninglesslife....quote:amindisatriblethingto wastepeace all
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| | Unrecorded Date ahahahahahahahah lol hebel qufac dhuus kugu dhac
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| | Unrecorded Date ha ha ha hahahahahahahah Deeplyhurt..... take it easy girl.......you ain't the first... and surely you won't be the last. you just had some bad relationship... so what? people starve out there..... and you moaning about a relationship that went south.......get a life pssssssssssst..............RESPECT!
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| | Unrecorded Date Deeplhurt, Iam sorry for you. didnt you listen to your mom. Men are after one thing and one thing only if you give it up soon they will leave and if you dont still they will leave. so the best thing is to wait till you are married. remember men are DOGS.
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| | Unrecorded Date tiis tiiis faxda abaa malagugu dhici karaa. abaa ii dhiib no neefoowkaniiniba waa u dhiibtee ii warta suuqa ii maanyo ii walaalkiin ani maxaa iigu diidee?
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| | Unrecorded Date hebel Qumayo aan kuu sheegaa ani maa saas i dhahee maraxyahoow adi qumayo aa geed kugu xirati iska soo celi neefoow maxaan ku falaane asmo iyo tiibaay aas qabyaa maanyo aastoliiste weeynaadi waaye warta_suuqana maajfkoo waaye
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| | Unrecorded Date Thanks to all the ppl who kindly enough offered their help and suggestions. Honestly there were some good ideas that most of you contributed and i am gladly keeping them in mind. I wrote in here mostly too gain things from those of you who knew better, and glad to say most of you were inteligent enough. Believe me i know there are worst people in this world and i am very grateful to god for what he has given me. I have been in the worst situations and have learned from that what a lot of people take for garanted..ie..health, peace food etc.i also know the world is as full of bad ppl as there is good. The worst are the "xaasid" and i think it is save to say somalians have lots of them..ie hebel. Even if one somali does a good thing like the "net" there are those like hebel who abuse it and lots more. The whole idea about this forum was to help ppl and though every one knows their problems are small compared to others, still doesnt ease the pain, and i think it feels a lot better when you talk it out with some one. I came here thinking that my people would actually understand me, and some of you have and thanks to those of you, but the rest i think need more help themselves..again ie hebel on a last note just wanted to say thanks for ur time, u know who u r. Hebel waan karaa in ann kula caytamo ama ku habaaro etcetra but you and i are not even in the same standards..and i would hate to sink down to your idiotic level. Advise = stop ruining things for others, and plz seek a therapist soon, u really need it. peace all...thats all from me
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| | Unrecorded Date Deeply hurted: I am glad you figured them out. they are all the same. I guess it is time for you to get a gorrila as a man. After all, Gorrila is man's closest brother or cousin species. i hope that hepls ;-). khalil.
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| | Unrecorded Date Geelle To deeply hurt Walaaley dhibka aad sheeganayso amba waa igu dhacey sidadan is iraa maba jirto gabar dacada,waxa laygu samyey haddaan ku iraa mid baan muddo wada soconay maalintii dambena xafladdii guurkeda ayaa layga marti qaadey,lakin ani waa samrey oo iiman aa ALLaah i siiyey marka adigu hadaad daacad tahay laba dhibane beynu nahaye bal aan is barano laga yaabee in aynu si shaafinee Abayadiis.
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| | Unrecorded Date Deeplyhurt IM having a ball chick. telling me one good reason why I’d seek help? when having a blast of a lifetime? So I can stop having fun? No the heck, freaking, stinking , lousy way. U stay hurt I’ll have my time. I have to go and stand over there now. Bye.
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| | Unrecorded Date hebel damn r u that ignorant bro..or is it just me. First of all i wrote in here and told a problem which happens to alot of ppl, and secondly i think thats what this site is for. You are forgeting that it says Ila Tali-Ask the experts. I dont see u being an expert, one says "ninkii tiisa daryeelaa tu kale ku dara". I wrote in here in truthfull words which i cant say for a lot of ppl who write in here. Every one in life has had problems such as this or far worse. The reason u need help is u dont know when to draw that line. See there is a time for everything, and i dont see it being funny when u write in here funny comments about ppl who were brave enough to tell u of their personal problems, only a sick person would think otherwise. And not to mention you are missusing the net, again what a person like u have worked hard to provide to thier fellow somalians. But i guess what would a person like you know anything about that, u only know how to destroy and the worst is you think u r right. Wake up bro and smell the coffee, qayrkaa ka hartay, aduunyo iyo aakhoiro seegtay, tell me how that is having a blast. I wonder walaahi about that. And u forget that time heals all wounds, i have my fun believe that, but not from peoples misfortunes.Never. Last but not least, i am not bitter really, just feel sorry for ya. U aint got no exuse either coz i am sure you are over 30,if not more and proud to say i am 20 There 4..waxaad isku haysid banaanka usoo saar.
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| | Unrecorded Date Then why ask me IM not an expert? And besides you have an attitude could it be why he left? who knows I just don't want to touch where it hurts so go ahead don't let me tie U up ya have a problem so solve it. go away now and take care yar pain. . . . . . I have turn this way now
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| | Unrecorded Date DEEPLY HURT Join the club SIS
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| | Unrecorded Date Anon,men are dogs eeeeeeehh?What are ones born by dogs called?If men are dogs then women are puppies.
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| | Unrecorded Date this goes to the sister who is deeply hurt by men. first let me remind you that they are your father, brother, causins, uncles etc. anyways my point is that you picked the bad and wrong apple, but if you have faith in you and patience you will soon pick the good apple. my advice to you is wait till the right one comes along, i beleive there someone for everyone outhere but u need to hang in there for the best. i can't immagin what u have been thru and how he make you feel. insha allah we pray for you for the right one this time. have you ever heard the expression that says "every dog has a day". urs is coming just hang on sis. "wixii la sugaa sad kiis la hellaa"
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