     nimco | Friday, January 19, 2001 - 02:37 am
I was involved in a relationship for nearly 2 years. The guy i was with told me he will marry regardless of anything. But when we finally decided to get married is family refused because of my qabill. I must say this hurted me a lot and i still can't believe they can do that. After all we are all the same i must point out at first my family weren't happy about it but they accepted at the end.
To make a long story short - the guy left me just to please his parent.
My question is - DO YOU THINK HE DID THE BEST THING?
PLEASE THIS IS VERY SERIOUS TO ME SO DON'T JOKE ABOUT IT. |
| muna broom | Friday, January 19, 2001 - 09:49 am
hey
yo bitch don' twist the fuckin' story, sort ur mums fuckin' attitude and u will be aiigh, maybe get yo man back hehe never.ur uglyness might turn the tribe off later gal. |
| Anonymous | Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 08:25 am
Hey muna dont act twist minded human,
The girls asked your opinion not to attack her personally.
To Nimco,
In my opinion ,if it is true what u saying, he did the right thing,cause his parents would have been party o the family ,and how can he/ or you stand their unhappynes? Allways try to find some one who can make happy both families, i mean yours and his. Me i have seen a beautifull somalian girl who also came from a decent family with all good quality, unfortunately the clan of girl is outcasted one, they called Not " nasab". I know it is myth such i thing,but how can i convince my mom and father.They will absolutey explode or may die for hurt attack. In the end to make live easier for my family a left behind my date. |
| Hiba | Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 08:29 am
Dear nimco,
How are you? The way I see is he did the right thing because you wouldn't marry him if you parent were happy about it. I don't understand how a parent would rumor his son's happiness. I guess the had good point. I am not saying you are a bad girl but I am saying maybe you guys didn't meant to be together. I know you would find someone else who's parent will accpet you who you are not what you wear or do. I like someone for four years the reason I want to tell him is his parent. For some guys their play major part of their and for some don't care but go for the one that care. |
| ahmed.yarii | Monday, January 22, 2001 - 06:09 am
hi nemco i thing he dont love u from the bigning if i am i do the best to my love not leav her and licten to my prent like a child i have to take my own chose in my self ..and i ask u q are ur qabil is some thing like midgan haa may be that the point but wherver i not leave my love alone ok .. and i hope u the best but next time nimco walal pick up the right person who u love ok good luck next . |
| Mahad Yare | Monday, January 22, 2001 - 07:57 am
Nimco, I think u got the massege outthere. Like my man Axmad yare said that he's love is not sruggle. If he really loved and wanted to spend all his life with you he would do something about it. Like we say ''jinni kasto dantiisa waa yaqaan''. And again, if he really loved you he wouldn't do that. He would do the best for him self. Wish you the best of luck. |
| Anonymous | Monday, January 22, 2001 - 08:56 am
Hi Nimco, You should consider yourself lucky girl.
If you would marry him, you might be unhappy, Cos his family will be around for a long time.
I think it was not meant to be, Allah has his own ways of protecting us even if it hurts a little.
Sister, samir Ilaahay nin khayr qaba ha kula kulansiiyo. Amin. |
| nimco | Tuesday, January 23, 2001 - 02:16 am
I would like to thank you all for all your advice and concern except muna who was on something on she wrote that.
I must say my qabill is well known and well respected, you see i am issaq and this guy was darood. To me and my family this was not i am problem to us but to his family it was. I know it is his loss and family and i will get over it. But unfortunetly it has made me think twice about this qabill business, initially a person qabill was never an issue to me but since this has happend i will only go out with my own qabill.
DO YOU THINK I AM IN THE WRONG FOR THINKING THIS WAY?
I hope to hear from you all soon
Thanks once again |
| advisor | Tuesday, January 23, 2001 - 02:46 am
wallalo, i am sorry to hear this tragic story. it is his loss, i quess he didn't love you enough but so what there are alot of isaaq good looking brothers in which you can understand better in this world. i am not a tribal person myself but when it comes to getting married theres nothing more i would like than to marry a isaaq brother no dis-respect to other somali people people but stic to your own kind for less complications. |
| Harun | Tuesday, January 23, 2001 - 02:14 pm
Iam the guy called him self anonymous
To advisor
your making things more complicated,ok,dont misguide the girl. What she told u was only unsuccessfull mission.Not a hatred towards daarood or other clan. I dont know much about your lifesytle and how u see things, but dont, dont try to poison mentaly this somalian girl.
Infact we all suffering from the serious and infectious disease of Clanism. To me it is a myth to believe only your clan members would fulfill ,your search of finding a soulmate. That is indeed a plain myth.
To Nimco,
frankly speaking i would recommend you ,not to give up your search of the person u want to marry. Isaak is only small clan compare to other somalis, thre fore dont narrow down your scope, perhaps you may find some one good within the isaak but again always try to fish some whre else, some whre were u can gain different taste, u know what i mean? I could be among the first candidates. lol |
| Beerlula Abdi | Wednesday, January 24, 2001 - 12:45 am
Dear Nimco,
Honestly walaal i am saddened by your story but you have to understand that if he loved for real his parents approval would not have mattered. Even if he went against his parents discussion I am sure they would eventually come to their senses. I suppose maybe it was his excuse for not really wanting to marry you.
I hope that Insha Allah, you will meet the right one and be happy. |
| DISAGREE | Thursday, January 25, 2001 - 03:00 pm
what a lovely name sister?
my q 2 ur anwser is NOOOOOOOO? because if irealy love the person absuletly NOOOOOO. i mean if my parents don't want me to mary he/she there must be a good answer to why not. not qabiil. don't u know the somalis that married jamacian people. please we are talking about XABASH JAREER. come on someone you love, not just love we know the real love like romeo and juleit. oh i'm sure i'll go for my love only for my lov. And i wouldn't disrespect my parensta ofcurse they are the only one ones i love the most in this world but there better be a good reason to why not. Nowadays people who are livestock only talk about qabiil. people are already graduated from qabiil, except qabiilayaasha nacnacda kuhaaya.
sista i hope u find some 1 who loves you not your qabiil.
bye luv ya
disagree |
| ahmed.yarii | Monday, January 29, 2001 - 12:55 am
HI NIMCOO WALAL U ARE RIGHT WALAHII GO WITH UR OWN QABIIL ISAQ ONLY? IF U WANT SOME FRIND ALSO ISAQ FROM BURCO LIVE IN EUROBE NIMCOOO HIT ME NOW MAY BE UR FIND UR REAL LOVE WITH UR COUSINIS OK .. |
| LILKIM | Monday, January 29, 2001 - 03:23 am
bitch im with muna all the way. sort your mums fucking attitude out before you start changing the damn story.itwas your fucking mum who started all this ••••. anywayz who ever it was he was to good for you.sorry if your offended but whats said has to be said. |
| Hope | Tuesday, January 30, 2001 - 07:58 pm
Dear Muna,
My heart goes out to you sis,I am really sorry about how ur love ended up but insha-Allah u will find a better,sweet,charming,strong,intelligent,
loving etc,future lover soon amiiiiiiiiiin.
About ur question of whether ur X-lover did the rite thing or not? I absolutely disagree with his decision sis,common I am agirl and I would not leave my lover becouse my parents want me to,leave alone being aguy,this guy just wanted an excuse to get rid of u or even worse his love was weak towards you.Don't misunderstand me sis ofcourse it's every one's dream to see both their parents and their loved ones giving in to each other and accepting each other but it doesn't happen that way all the time,it's our duty to do everything in our power to make sure our parents see how important this person is to your life.
Unfortunately not all parents agree with our choice,but turning the person u love is definitely
not agood option too neither is upsetting ur parents but this is atough decision and either way some party will get hurt,if u go ahead and marry ur love without ur parents blessings,it's the most unpleasant thing to do but it is allowed in our religion of Islam,parents are suppose to give us their blessings when we confess our love to them and if they oppose we can do otherwise.
So sis I hope I didn't confuse u but maybe it wasn't ment to be for u and him and who knoes he wasn't mr.right,anyways get over it and PLEASE sis
no matter what don't search for love with the beleive of QABIIL in your mind,it's really not an issue when it comes to love,hope u find love with some1 from ur qabiil,good for ya but don't understimate love u have for some1 coz of their qabiil......take care sis.
Salaam |
| nimco | Wednesday, January 31, 2001 - 03:18 am
To lilkim and muna
I think you need to go back to school, my six year old brother can write a more structured sentence than what you are writing. Once you learn to write properly without any bad language will I be able to debate with.
You sister if you cant even write what you want to say with civilized manner why bother at all?
To everyone else
Thank very much for all your comment and advice, I must say I have now moved on and is involved with someone else.
take care all of you!!! |
| advisor | Friday, February 02, 2001 - 04:22 am
all these people in here chat •••• so go with what your parents say, coz at the end of the day men come and go but family is forever. so don't let a man or anyone else come between you and your family! honey i am just advising you on how i would handle some thing like that for future reference be more carious about who you let into your life! |
| runloo | Saturday, February 03, 2001 - 04:30 am
i found hard to underdstand why isaaq girls always like darood men always they after darood men and they don't like their men why nimco could you please elaborate i have seen thousands isaaq girls wanted to marry darood but the guy's family said no
so why u like them |
| Saky | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 02:39 am
To: Runloo,
Hello buddy.
Simply because Darood men [most of them] know what women want, while Isak women are beautiful [again most of them].Therefore, no accidents no coincidents; just pure compatibility.
My dad, the greatest of all, is Maj. My mum the most beautiful mum, is H.Awal. So I guess this's a very solid evidence of what am talking about, and my entire life backs me up as well.
Cheers |
| nimco | Tuesday, February 06, 2001 - 02:46 am
To:Runloo
Personally speaking i don't know much about this qabiil business. When i met my ex it was through university. Both of us didn't talk about qabill for the first 6 months. I didn't know what qabill he was and he didn't know what qabiil i was. You see he's never seen somali and didn't much about qabill stuff and i left somalia when i was a baby.
I hope i have answered your question, i can only speak for myself but not others.
bye nimco |
| the truth | Wednesday, February 07, 2001 - 09:09 pm
Saky&beenloo LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL
SAY THAT AGAIN
LOL
JOKE
WALAHII YOUR STUPID COMMENTS GOT ME CRACKING UP,ARE YOU TELLING ME THAT THE QUEENS THE CREAM OF THE CROP THE BEAUTY ITSELF ISSAQ WOMEN ARE AFTER YOUR SORRY ASS LOL GET OUT OF HERE LOSER'S.WHY WOULD THEY SEARCH FOR UGLY IDIOT THINKING MEN WHEN THEY GOT THEIR OWN WILLING,LOVING DEEQSIYAAL GEESIYAAL COUSINS
TO CHOOSE FROM??????????????????????????????????
I THOUGHT IT WAS THE OTHER WAY AROUND MY FRIEND.IT SEEMS LIKE NOWADAYS I CAN'T WALK A BLOCK WITHOUT A HAMAARI WOMAN DAAROOD&HAWIYE HARASSING ME AS SOON AS THEY FIND OUT AM FROM THE MIGHTY H/Y ISSAQ CLAN THEY START TALKING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND INVOLVMENTS AND I ALWAYS HAVE TO BREAK IT DOWN LIKE THIS ;I GOT NO PROBLEMS WITH A LITTLE SUMMER ROMANCE BUT WHEN IT'S TIME TO SETTLE I WON'T SETTLE FOR LESS THAN THE CREAM,THE ULTIMATE,THE PERFECT, THE WELL BREAD ISSAQ QUEENS
LOVE YOU MY ISSAQ QUEENS |
| Habar Yoonis | Friday, February 09, 2001 - 08:07 am
Salaan all,
Well, i do really wanna marry my own first uno, its natural once likes his own pepole. But i wouldn't refuse a girl cause of her tribe. My ex was Warsangali, the one befor her was Ogaaden and now my current babe is Dhulbahnte.
so..ronlow sup bro, mybe your girls are crsooing over her..lol
later all..peace and love |
| IDIL_2001 | Tuesday, February 20, 2001 - 07:08 am
Hi nimo sis
Sweetiiiiiiii i'm verey sorry what happend to ya but don't worry one day u i'l find mr right sis, and u dream i'll come true sis don't say i'll go only isaaq man sis u are wrong we women we don't have qabiil sis......waxaan leenahaye dhaxdiin sis.
Sweeti i'm Darood girl and my mum is isaaaaq my boyfreind is isaaaaaq habaryoonis and luve him to death.....but my cousin's they don't wann me date isaaq dude but i toll them i'm in luve with him so sis i don't care what people think if my mum and dad are happy for me hiss familay luve me alxamdu lilaah.My point is nimoc if ya luve him sis don't give up becouse of qabiil plz plz luve is blind sis ohhhhhhh if ya reallly in luve tell him how u feel about him sis jecelka qabiil malha walaal.
cheers bye
idileyyyyyyyy |
| Ruweida | Tuesday, February 20, 2001 - 07:16 am
Idil,
Hadii aanu qabiil lahayn maxaad midgaan u jeclaan weydey. |
| IDIL_2001 | Thursday, February 22, 2001 - 03:03 am
Hi all
Reweida sis midgaan waxa la dhaho majiraan macaanto ilaahye hortiiisa qofkii laga wayo, maalinta yoomola qimaame baa midgaan aha .
Abaayo walaahi wiil muslin aha oo caafimda qabo qabiilkasta ha ahade waan raaci sis ok sweeeti i hope i answer u Q!!! sis.
much luve to ya all!!
Cheers
idileyyyyyyyy_2001 |
