Which of these parenting styles applies to you?

[Avicenna]

Apparently there are four accepted types of parenting most people select.

1. Authoritarian Parenting
In this style of parenting, children are expected to follow the strict rules established by the parents. Failure to follow such rules usually results in punishment. Authoritarian parents fail to explain the reasoning behind these rules. If asked to explain, the parent might simply reply, "Because I said so." These parents have high demands, but are not responsive to their children. According to Baumrind, these parents "are obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation" (1991).

2. Authoritative Parenting
Like authoritarian parents, those with an authoritative parenting style establish rules and guidelines that their children are expected to follow. However, this parenting style is much more democratic. Authoritative parents are responsive to their children and willing to listen to questions. When children fail to meet the expectations, these parents are more nurturing and forgiving rather than punishing. Baumrind suggests that these parents "monitor and impart clear standards for their children’s conduct. They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive. Their disciplinary methods are supportive, rather than punitive. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative" (1991).


3. Permissive parents, sometimes referred to as indulgent parents, have very few demands to make of their children. These parents rarely discipline their children because they have relatively low expectations of maturity and self-control. According to Baumrind, permissive parents "are more responsive than they are demanding. They are nontraditional and lenient, do not require mature behavior, allow considerable self-regulation, and avoid confrontation" (1991). Permissive parents are generally nurturing and communicative with their children, often taking on the status of a friend more than that of a parent.

4. Uninvolved Parenting
An uninvolved parenting style is characterized by few demands, low responsiveness and little communication. While these parents fulfill the child's basic needs, they are generally detached from their child's life. In extreme cases, these parents may even reject or neglect the needs of their children.

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Which one would you probably choose and why?

[Nanees]

I think I'd be a mix between 1 and 2 depending on the kids behaviour. Some kids are more likely to obey if they understand, others are more likely to push boundaries and test you if you indulge their questions.

[BlackVelvet]

2.

Rules are importand but I would find it strange if any child of mine didn't ask for an explation as to why things are the way they are. That and the other 3 options are horrible imo.

[Shirib]

I think I'd be a mix between 1 and 2 depending on the kids behaviour. Some kids are more likely to obey if they understand, others are more likely to push boundaries and test you if you indulge their questions.

haye where are these kids u didn't tell us about?


yea i'd say im a number 2

[Nanees]

I think I'd be a mix between 1 and 2 depending on the kids behaviour. Some kids are more likely to obey if they understand, others are more likely to push boundaries and test you if you indulge their questions.

haye where are these kids u didn't tell us about?


yea i'd say im a number 2

trust me, lol, ive got kids. You may think you'd be a 2 because it sounds perfect but when a kid is in your face telling you no! I WONT! as they've locked themselves in the bathroom and left the water in the tub running you're not gonna stand there and explain how water damage can be very costly to the floors, not to mention the safety hazard it poses to have them in their with the door locked and a slippery floor

[The_Patriot]

5.

[Shirib]

I think I'd be a mix between 1 and 2 depending on the kids behaviour. Some kids are more likely to obey if they understand, others are more likely to push boundaries and test you if you indulge their questions.

haye where are these kids u didn't tell us about?


yea i'd say im a number 2

trust me, lol, ive got kids. You may think you'd be a 2 because it sounds perfect but when a kid is in your face telling you no! I WONT! as they've locked themselves in the bathroom and left the water in the tub running you're not gonna stand there and explain how water damage can be very costly to the floors, not to mention the safety hazard it poses to have them in their with the door locked and a slippery floor

I can be a number one when needed.

But I prefer my wife to dish out the heavy punishments (hitting) while I sit down and have the talk with them. I wanna be the good cop

[Avicenna]

Interesting. Well, this is what each style of parenting can lead the child to become:


Authoritarian parenting: generally lead to children who are obedient and proficient, but they rank lower in happiness, social competence and self-esteem.

Authoritive parenting: tend to result in children who are happy, capable and successful (Maccoby, 1992).

Permissive parenting : often results in children who rank low in happiness and self-regulation. These children are more likely to experience problems with authority and tend to perform poorly in school.

Uninvolved parenting: rank lowest across all life domains. These children tend to lack self-control, have low self-esteem and are less competent than their peers.

http://psychology.about.com/od/developm ... -style.htm

[The_Patriot]

where is 5? Non of the Above

[ZahraWadani]

6

[The_Patriot]

6

You mean all of the above.

[Daff]

If I am in a goood mood #2 appplies
If I am in bad mood #1

[Saraxnow]

When they are very young, at the ages of 1-5, I would be authoritarian. From ages 6 till preteens I would give and take with them,be assertive yet explain and give reasons to my objections so they actually learn why,and I'd make space for their growing personality since this is when they want to assert their presence and independence.So, I'd be a bit more flexible yet firm.

After they hit puberty I am their friend,so more of the 'permissive' type of parenting,but they would still look and respect me as a parent because I brought them up well

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