When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bills

[EvolSyawla]

If the relationship is based on contribution from both on everything, then they'll work it out.

If he wants a housewife, then provided he is sole breadwinner - if they both are cool with that - then what's the discussion?

Every couple agrees to their own boundaries, interests and expectations. Traditional, modern or a mix of both on different topics. Just make sure neither of you are surprised after the aroos

[YummyMummy]

^ exactly

[BlackVelvet]

What if he doesn't want to hire one and insists you perform your duties™ as a wife instead?

Inyow

Since I am still working with my salary I can afford a shaqaalo and if he realises it's actually expected of him by the religion to pay for household assistance (this is an amazing part of the deen if it's true - never researched it) then I will take up cooking classes and do the cooking (he can do the dishes - not good for my nails).

You see walaalow, waa win-win. Happy wife, happy life




And since the wife is relaxed when she gets home, when he gets home their other duties™ will be more ermm...thorough

Don't know why this arrangement had never occurred to me. Feminism led me astray

[Keyblade]

Isn't what you propose a more convenient feminism anyway?

[BlackVelvet]

No it's not. I am allowing him to look after me. That is very not feminist


Why are you even complaining, isn't this what men live for? Being all alpha in the house and providing and stuff. Surely it makes perfect sense

[Keyblade]

Complaining? Nah, I just like poking holes at your idealism

[BlackVelvet]

Are you more of a 50/50 guy, without being a devils advocate what are your personal feelings about my suggestions, do you see yourself having that that kind of arrangement?

[Keyblade]

Nah I'm more of a if I can afford it, fuck it why not kinda guy. But tbh, I kinda like your arrangement . Thing is though, I know things never work out ideally so you have to wing it a lot of the times.

[BlackVelvet]

MashaAllah when the time is right I hope you find a smart woman who can support you in that "if I can afford it, fuck it why not" kinda place.


You see ladies, they are out there




Keyblade, something's always gotta give, he'll either have stinky feet or not as sweet or not as tough or not as handsome or not as convenient as you would have liked. I don't think you ever get 100% of what you're after. Life's joke on us. That said, of course the female is always 100% of what you dreamt about, perfection only comes in XX.