It is common to hear the expression ' ladies first' . Women , in particular, daily repeat it as if it is a rule. They actually feel proud of it , unknowing its origin and its real indications . They think it is praise to them , while it is a shame to be said according to its origin
The story of this saying took place in Italy . It is about two lovers who loved each other so much . They decided to marry . But some social circumstances and relatives block the way of their marriage . They did not accept this and intentionally decided either to live together as husband and wife , or to die . together Having done best to achieve the marriage , they got disappointed . Dying was the only option . They thought about a number of ways to commit the suicide ,throwing themselves into the sea was the appropriate way to them . The man sincerely said he would not bear the situation of seeing her drowning to death in front of his eyes . He convinced his beloved that he would throw himself first and then she would do so latter.
In the rush moment , the man did it and drown. The lady was looking at him as if he was ' singing ' . The man was dead . It was the lady' s turn to follow him to live together underneath , as they decided . But she soon broke her promise , forgetting her sweetheart who was dying in front of her eyes and in heart as well .
She ' threw herself back to the village ' . Yes ! Her promise was to throw herself . And she did , but to the village instead of the sea .
She came back home , to her relatives as if nothing has happened . Few days later , she fell in love with another man . She was happy with him as if it was her first love . It did not take a lot of time till she got married to him
Since then, people start doubting ladies and start repeating the saying ' ladies first' , with the implication that ladies should throw themselves into the sea first , should die first, because they are not trustworthy
It is really interesting when one hears a lady proudly says ' ladies first' , thinking that she adds a privilege for being a female . Some people, men and women , take it as a social rule, unknowing its real indications .
This is not a personal point of view . It is not, moreover , a personal interpretation of the story . It is what many sources say and interpret the original story . So , women please forgive me for shedding light on this .
I do only a favor for women so that to be aware of when to say ' ladies first ' and when not to say .
I thought its respectful to use that phrase .
