Your Sincere Advice Is Needed... Please no bashing..

LionHeart-112 · Post by **LionHeart-112** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:09 pm

^^why did ur mother give birth to you?

Kambuli...yes they do..

so u know he has another wife?

kambuli · Post by **kambuli** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:10 pm

Somalisis,

Do you know the difference bet. Meher (Nikax) and reception... aroos .. alla allaalaa

I said in the beggining of my question No bashing please......

SoMaLiSiZz · Post by **SoMaLiSiZz** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:15 pm

So if the nikaax took place then they are husband and wife! So my quiz is why are they separated living in different locations? And why buy an apartment without consulting with you husband before doing so? Strange indeed Confused

B-MAX · Post by **B-MAX** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:17 pm

(((The plan is for her to move to where he lives when everything settles down... )))

Why ask him money to buy an apartment in Europe if her final plan is to settle down in America? This doen't make any sense.
Kambuli,will you come to the freaking point?
It seems that you've already Crucified the guy. So no matter what we tell you,we are still not getting it!

Post by **Basra-** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:22 pm

[quote="B-MAX"]Why do you have to bring Gay-comments in every thread?
There must be some connection right there![/quote]

I have to agree BMax- Laughing

SoMaLiSiZz · Post by **SoMaLiSiZz** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:23 pm

Something is missing in this Picture wallahu yaclam

SomaliLight · Post by **SomaliLight** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:23 pm

Kambuli,

This is one sad situation, i wish upon no sister....I hope Basra's awful joke is wrong and this not about you.....but what am i talking about? you are obviously smarter than this girl... Laughing

...it obviously means he doesn't want to suppport her for whatever reasons...so maybe she should avoid asking for financial help.

kambuli · Post by **kambuli** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:23 pm

Somalisis quote "And why buy an apartment without consulting with you husband before doing so? Strange indeed , "

Who said she did not consult? God! Qofka sheeganaya wadaadnimo like you sis kuma fiicna fududeyku walaalhay... Ask the question before you reach your verdict....

B-max,

Didn't I say ' There are family involved? Didn't I just say there were no argument or disagreemnt about the apartment... Hadalku xaggee ayuu kaa maray... I am not Crucifiying the guy.... I just asked you guys a xxxxx advice.. cut it ifyou can't... why beat about the bush... What is little help? Acuudu bilaah... waar dadkaani maba yaqaniin garta..

Somalilight,

If a man and a women can't ask financial help each other, what are they to each other? That is a wrong advice.....They should be like one person...But if one of them is distructive or extravagant or gold-digger or dishonest we can undrestand the other person to be very cautious and I my advice would be just like that. But honestly, this is very very weird situation which I have never heard before....

Post by **Basra-** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:35 pm

Kambuli is a diamond digger & thats it! Laughing

PS: Nothing wrong with that Hedee! Rolling Eyes

B-MAX · Post by **B-MAX** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 2:35 pm

What can i say now?
You're the only one supporting your cousin here even the self acclaimed somaliNet's mother theressa aka Somalisizz is really confused with your story.

SomaliLight · Post by **SomaliLight** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 3:11 pm

Kambuli,

you cannot apply the rules of norm on these couples, i mean they haven't lived with each other for five years and he feels reluctant to help her out for whatever reason. In accordance with their rather different marriage situation, i suggested that she not ask him for money. Obviously she has family priorities and thus she is not able to live in America with him. It seems to me, he feels that if she doesn't live with him, he is not obligated to give her financial means. So in accordance with this obvious situation, she should refrain from asking him financial help, as this appears be the hidden factor in their agreement of thier situation.

kambuli · Post by **kambuli** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 3:51 pm

Somalilight, quote "

"He feels reluctant to help her out for whatever reason."

Exactly that is my concern.... What is this whatever reason?

"In accordance with their rather different marriage situation, i suggested that she not ask him for money."

If she can't lean to him when she is in need... Then what is he for ? I totally disagree... If she was the type that he got fedup of her asking help I would say he is right, but she told me she was very shy to ask him for help even when she needed.

Samatr · Post by **Samatr** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 3:57 pm

It's her fault she is too soft, you can't be shy especially when dealing with your spouse or future spouse.

SomaliLight · Post by **SomaliLight** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 4:15 pm

Kambuli,

This one of those relationships that are hopless. I suggest you Kambuli, lend the girl a couple of dollars to help her out, and tell her work on her marriage negotation skills. This is a dead relationship, people should know when to quit dead things, poor girl.

kambuli · Post by **kambuli** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 4:49 pm

Somalilight,

I can't agree you more that this relationship is dead... Now it is my belief that the guy was always not honest with her.... But poor sister... she lost her reasoning over him... She just loves him. I have never In my entire life seen a sis who loves a guy that much... Poor thing Sad

But I disagree with you on your advice which goes " and tell her work on her marriage negotation skills. "

Nothing is wrong with her, he is the one that needs to work on his marriage negotiation skills.. Laughing

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