Is Arranged Marriage good or bad?

[Cash_Lacag763]

We are all familiar with the story : boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, boy and girl gets married. For the majority of the western world, this is our ideal of a great beginning to a perfect marriage. It is important to realize that while India is very modernized in some aspects (i.e.. they lead the world in student's math and science scores and produce the largest amount of engineers in the world) they still keep to the tradition of arranged marriages. Marriages formed out of love AKA "love marriages" do happen in India but it is not the norm. It is an accepted fact that a person's family will play a role in picking the marriage partner. The system seems to protect the family. The parents take care of their children, and the children obey their parents. Parents find suitable spouses for their children from appropriate families. So, there is no chance of marrying outside their own religion, caste, social status or economic class. This protects the couple from the problems that usually originate from disparity of religion, caste and class. Through a marriage two families come into mutual relationship, and both families together try to work out the marriage if problems arise in the marriage.
what do you think?

[hiphop50girl]

IM HUNGRY

[QansaGabeyle]

It is good only if the girl you are arranged to marry is not ugly.....fat, disabled, horrible personality, hoe and many other things.

[The-Screw]

i think it's wrong. it's better to just marry for love.

[xoogSADE14]

screw believes in love......... oh how sweet

[The-Screw]

who doesn't?

[Ceelgabo]

[quote="The-Screw"]who doesn't?[/quote]


Screw divorce rate is higher among countries that believe in marrying for love than countries were they have arranged marrieges...for example India,Pakistane, much of Middle East has way less divorce rate than Europe or States were over 50% of marrieges end in divorce or one of the spouse being killed for insurance money...

[Sir-Luggoyo]

I don't know the ingredients of sustainable marriages and what keeps two ppl together for so long but if we take reer Xamar V other Somalis as an example, the divorce rate is way way way lower in the Reer Xamar communities, and we all know that Reer Xamar's are all for arranged marriage.

Is it because the wife is confined at home and the hubby is a freelance fukker and the wife doesn't know where he is and is not even allowed to ask?

[QansaGabeyle]

i think you can learn to love anyone. only one love exists and it is that you have for your siblings and parents. any other kind of love is a temporary infatuation that will eventually go away.

somalis have a high divorce rate because they rush to marriage. many girls want to get away from their houses where they are told what to do all the time and marry some strangers or men they do not love because they believe they will get 'freedom' their parents. i would advise parents never to be too strict on their kids..........

[mahamed99_sex]

i wll only agree with if the guy iam getting married is hotty.then i dont mind arrange marriage.

[kambuli]

Qansa, quote " any other kind of love is a temporary infatuation that will eventually go away. "

This is very disturbing Why would it go away eventually It shouldn't and one should hold to it, water it and fertilize it every now and then

[The-Screw]

[quote="Ceelgabo"][quote="The-Screw"]who doesn't?[/quote]


Screw divorce rate is higher among countries that believe in marrying for love than countries were they have arranged marrieges...for example India,Pakistane, much of Middle East has way less divorce rate than Europe or States were over 50% of marrieges end in divorce or one of the spouse being killed for insurance money...[/quote]



do you have facts to support your claim? wait, even if you do, and what you're saying is true, that just goes to show you that people have choices. they can do what they wish and that they're not being held hostage or againts their will, that they're not being forced to love someone that they don't love. come on dude, its common sense here. what do you expect when you set up a 17 year old girl with a 32 year old man and move her away from her family? of course she's going to say with him even though she probably might not love him, she doesn't have the will and the means to leave him like she would if let's say she was in the west or one of these countries that do no support arranged marriages. see what i mean?

[Shankaroon_614]

Arrange marriage is sometimes good and sometimes bad because the person that you are arranged with might be a great person, a lovely person. And usually, like you said every arranged marriage stays together than love marriaged. My dad aa soo doonay my mother and they where talking like a year and they happen to fell in love. If my mother didn't fell in love with my dad, I wouldn't be here.
So, I don't know how I will be married, only Allah knows

Oh yeah, another thing, arranged marriage guys seem to treat you better because they are scared to ruin the families reputation or respects the family very much unlike some (not all) love marriage guys!!
I believe

[*HannaH*]

Do you guy's think that recent divorce rates compared to our grandparents has anything to do with, alot of their marriages being either arranged or semi-arranged?


Obviously, not as sole factor, but one of?

[dhuusa_deer]

[quote="*HannaH*"]Do you guy's think that recent divorce rates compared to our grandparents has anything to do with, alot of their marriages being either arranged or semi-arranged?[/quote]

Nope