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gegiroor wrote:A Somali Muslim and a white Muslima with Middle Eastern culture is what I would go for.

kulmiye21 wrote:

gegiroor wrote:A Somali Muslim and a white Muslima with Middle Eastern culture is what I would go for.

what about Somali culture

AwRastaale wrote:

VeiledGarbasar wrote:

Aayo we call mothers sister. Step mother we call Eedo. But yeah habar wadaag I understand too, and yeah I mean that. I always used to hear it isn't good, apparently the kids always don't turn out good. Etc etc.

Your mum's sister is habaryar (junior mother).

Your aayo is your stepmother or the wife of your uncle who in our Somali tradition is technically your stepmother.

The kids of your habaryar are habrawadaag since both mothers shared mother/womb.

Eedo is your parental auntie or father's sister. Her kids are your inabti or ilmambti.

Af Soomaliga saxda wa sidas.

SultanOrder wrote:

VeiledGarbasar wrote:
Aayo we call mothers sister. Step mother we call Eedo. But yeah habar wadaag I understand too, and yeah I mean that. I always used to hear it isn't good, apparently the kids always don't turn out good. Etc etc.

I have never really seen aayo used, only as I grew up I learned what it means. My step mom I call eedo.

Vivacious wrote:

VeiledGarbasar wrote: Yaaa! Haasha! Abgaal agoonyar aa katahay right?

I'm gonna have to look for mid warsangal-abgaal?

No. I am Owbakar.
Don't look for a man from beesha.
Look for the one aad sheekada isla fahantaan ee
reerkana raali ka yihiin


Edit: Ma la socotaa only Abgaal & Murasade say Aayo when referring to habaryar

zumaale wrote:I do not think it is really an issue for men but if Allah wills that I have daughters, I will advise them not to marry from a Qabil that neighbour us due to the volatile nature of Somali clan relations. I cannot imagine them having children for another Qabil that might be at war with their own kin. Can never get my head round how Somalis of old would on one hand be killing each other whilst on the other hand giving their daughters away as part of a peace settlement. It is as if they did not attach much value to women and viewed them as commodities that could be exchanged in return for camels or to settle clan feuds.

That being said, I would ideally like to marry from my own clan because it is more practical when it comes to paying Qadhan and results in less complication during times of conflict or when interacting with the extended family. However, Allah has his own plans and if I end up marrying one of the Rwandan clans, so be it.

Rambie wrote:

zumaale wrote:I do not think it is really an issue for men but if Allah wills that I have daughters, I will advise them not to marry from a Qabil that neighbour us due to the volatile nature of Somali clan relations. I cannot imagine them having children for another Qabil that might be at war with their own kin. Can never get my head round how Somalis of old would on one hand be killing each other whilst on the other hand giving their daughters away as part of a peace settlement. It is as if they did not attach much value to women and viewed them as commodities that could be exchanged in return for camels or to settle clan feuds.

That being said, I would ideally like to marry from my own clan because it is more practical when it comes to paying Qadhan and results in less complication during times of conflict or when interacting with the extended family. However, Allah has his own plans and if I end up marrying one of the Rwandan clans, so be it.

Your post remind of that story about Dhulbahante man who divorced his Isaaq women when SLAND toke over Laascanod in 2007!

Lamagoodle wrote:

InaSamaale wrote:Thanks Lam, laakiin waa maxaa qorqod?

Qorqod; nin jikada gala (the Mecca of women)...Imagine if he goes to Somalia and given his qorqodnimo he heads for the jiko; that is the end of your marriage because the women will be singing "qorqod qooraansi dheer, dheryaha qooraaminaayo, qoloduu yahay qurun buu u keenay, ee qaadirow qolo ha noogu dhigin"

Qorqod= man who goes to the kitchen to look for leftovers in the pot