My sister wants to marry a Hawiye..my family is in huge war!

[djibsomali]

Do you listen to your parent that is the million dollars question???

I did!
6 years ago, I told my parent that I intend to marry this tall caramel hawiye girl (the only baggage was a 20 years old divorce without kids).
My parents were not impressed at all.
Among all of them my father just said “illahay ayaan kugu dharshey haa qursaan”
Wow that was a bomb shell!
No one asked, about personality, family, history etc..

One afternoon, I took my father to a corner and asked him what his objection was?
Mumble jumble. Wallahi he did not make any sense……
All I remember was they are into sixir (black magic ) … looooooool.
I told him bowlshit…………………………

I came back to the UK, cut all links to the girl (would not pick up the phone at all).
1 years later I found out the girl married a cousin of hers.
Had two kids got divorced and searched me again to reform the link.
Amazing…

Why did I listen to my parent?
I asked Allah because of my father swearing on his name not to marry her that Allah hopefully give me something better in exchange of not only adhering to my father but honouring the word of Allah.

Still waiting…………………………
Inchallah………………

[BlackVelvet]

All I remember was they are into sixir (black magic ) …

Have your parents never been to Mogadishu?

[PrinceDaadi]

I must be lucky because i dont ask people's qabiil and it might happen i m talking to a girl for a sometime and might not know her qabiil. my parents? that is not even their business, it is me who is getting married not them.

[Bari14]

Omg if you don't have the balls to stand up for your own love interest then you don't have the right to claim them :dam:

If I bring a girl to my parent's house, they know what the deal is. I call it light work

[SultanOrder]

Aabe Siyaad aun amaan sii




Jasmine we are all arabs, Somalia isn't in the Arab Union because we are cadaan.

Mothers are usually the toughest to break, and the parents are usually harder to break if they are the same qabil. Honestly this tribal mentality is hurting us more than helping is and it's such a good thing to see the young kids so ignorant about it.

[djibsomali]

All I remember was they are into sixir (black magic ) …

Have your parents never been to Mogadishu?

No!

anything east of hargeisa is Mogadishu to them!
They call them xamarawiyeen..

[eliteSomali]

What kind family do some of you come from? If your parents decline a marriage because of qabiil and no other reason then they are wrong and not getting married is really the least of your issues. You have a mentally ill parent who needs urgent help. You folks should be correcting your parents' mistakes not accepting and implementing their mistakes yourself. What is with this obsession and qabiil anyway? That shit is the past, leave it there and worry about your future.

To those who are saying stick to your own, isn't it too late for that? All of us are mixed up, so whatever one of us is, we all are. Love it or hate, but we're all the same people at the end of the day. We've fucked each other too much and too long to just "stick to to our own" at this point.

[BlackVelvet]

All I remember was they are into sixir (black magic ) …

Have your parents never been to Mogadishu?

No!

anything east of hargeisa is Mogadishu to them!
They call them xamarawiyeen..

Wow that's so different to the average Hawiye's experience because the entire Somali world is in Hawiye lands more or less so you get that exposure. I don't know any reer miyi Hawiye but would be interesting to see what they think about qabiil and what stories they may have about those they've never met.

Aabe Siyaad aun amaan sii




Jasmine we are all arabs, Somalia isn't in the Arab Union because we are cadaan.

Mothers are usually the toughest to break, and the parents are usually harder to break if they are the same qabil. Honestly this tribal mentality is hurting us more than helping is and it's such a good thing to see the young kids so ignorant about it.

Yeah you and your "aabe Siyaad" put me off your kinsmen for good

We are in the arab league because of your aabe Siyaad. I am all for looking out for national interests including joining blocs when it suits us lakin I aint selling my identity for any amount

[MrPrestige]

What did you expect for them to celebrate Lol? There is a certain stigma attached with Hawiye. I wouldn't let my sister marry Hawiye either, it is too
far and too foreign.

[Advo]

I subscribe to the theory of bringing a different qabiil home, the marriage lasts longer and the sex is hotter. Can u imagine the tention of qabiildon in the room? The spirits of our ancestors roaming in their respective corners cheering for the epic sareer showdown. Foreplay ontop of foreplay, I'm not a philosopher, but cotdammm I should be paid for these inputs.

[SultanOrder]

you crack me up. I like how you take back the Somali identity, it reminds me of black revivalism, it sticks it to Darood and Isaaq Hubris.

[Sophisticate]

I listen to my parents. They don't approve, I don't approve since they are reasonable. But the sixir thing come on.

I think djiboutisomali just wants reer galbeed chicks to himself.

[eliteSomali]

I listen to my parents. They don't approve, I don't approve since they are reasonable. But the sixir thing come on.

I think djiboutisomali just wants reer galbeed chicks to himself.

But your parents would be wrong to stop a marriage because of qabiil but you still would agree with them? This is too much fuckery for one night. I am going to bed. Good night.

[BlackVelvet]

you crack me up. I like how you take back the Somali identity, it reminds me of black revivalism, it sticks it to Darood and Isaaq Hubris.

It's not something I have to "take back" being Somali and not Arab is a fact of my blood



Soph there is a general negative correlation between how educated a person is and how much they're influenced by qabiil. Ideologies...that I can see how you wouldn't want to mix them up but from what you guys have said it's just ignorance. There is a strong detachment from reality which only exposure to the outside world can fix.

[Adali]

I feel sorry for the guy, he should just leave her and find a girl from a respectable family.

An engineer ? even the most prejudiced should hold their tongue.

Anyway, yarka has alot of value if they don't appreciate him, other families will accept him.