Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

[*Arabman]

Love marriage = by way of dating = doesn't comply with Islam

[SummerRain]

[quote="Padishah"]It doesn't have to be short and passionate, but statistical analysis shows that expecting a long, passionate, romantic marriages are a rarity. There is nothing wrong with being in love, getting married, and settling down and having a family. A combination of pressures makes the 'blissfully married' dream quite far from reality.

Are you a betting woman, Ismahan?[/quote]

You have a point there, however, it can also be the same for an arranged marriage. Thats life, nothing guarantees us whether a marriage is going to work or be successful or any thing for that matter. Its hard work, and I think is better when you are making it happen with someone you picked yourself. What if this choosen certain person truns out to be a psycho or completely different. Again its a personal choicse, but I rather, share my life with someone I'm comfortable with and know to a certain extend.

Btw, dont be afraid of love, its a beautiful thing. U dont have to be blinded by love to get into a marriage you are not ready for. Take your damn time and get to know the person and have those real talks.

[DR-YALAXOOW]

Arranged marriage is the best!!

so called LOVE marriage badanaa waxaa leeysku guursadaa QOOQ laba qafood qooqdey.

habeenka ugu horeeya markaad naagta ka tuurato NAASIHII aad u maleeeyn jirtey inay taagan yihiin BALAQ NOQDAAN meeshaas ayuu ku dhamaadaaa so called LOVE marriage.


laakiin Arranged marriage waa labada qof iyagoo aqal wadaagaayo ayey is bartaan mudo, aad ayey isku ixtiraamaan, jaceylka dhabtaana waa imaanaa mudo ka dib.


love marriage waa kuwa aroosyada baararka ku sameeya ee naagaha niikiyaaan badanaa waa leeys furaa arooskaaas.

like this aroos in stockholm .

http://www.ceelbuurnet.com/7juli507.html

love marriage aka LABA ISKU QOOQDEY MARRIAGE maaha arooos fiican.

[SummerRain]

I disagree DR. Yalaxoow, if one gets into marriage because of qooq well they did it for all the wrong reasons. Thats a very weak analysis dear.

[Padishah]

Ismahan, dearest. I'm all for love; its just my no nonsense practical personality clashes with the whole laborious drawn out 'court a woman, date her and convince her you're the ticket' process.

[SummerRain]

Padishah, I can go on all day about this, but like I said, its a personal choice. All I know is my parents or any family memeber better not come to me with a Arranged marriage idea. As for you, I think its safe to say you would be looking for one somewhere is Mudug or Bari soon eh.

[Padishah]

Istagfirullah, mayo! She simply MUST speak English, as I communicate best in the language. Who knows, maybe I'll be in your neck of the woods sometime in February.

[SummerRain]

loooooooooooooooooooooooooool, I cant say my SOmali is even good let alone perfect. it really needs alot of work too but we should all be determined to learn Afka Hooyo. I sure once you come here, your idealogyabout love/marriage might change.

[Madmadoobe]

Arranged marriage for me. My family in burco, canada, and emirites have 3 different chicks for me. I think i should get them all.

[muktaar]

if the love marriage is so great why the hell the divorce rate in the somali community in diaspora is so high????

somali biches need to stop watching soaps opras and stupid somali men need to go bak to their roots...

arrange marriage all the way

[snuten2006]

LOL @ DR. YALAXOOW

What you said is right I think. It is nothing wrong with love marriage, but after trying arranged marriage, all I can say is that it is working very fine. But you have to have smart parents, cause they cant pick out anyone, the parter have to match you.

[snuten2006]

I would have prefered to go marry in Somaliland, but it is easier in the west. Wallahi every time I go to Burco & Hargeisa I go crazy, cause there are so many fine girls everywhere, and I ask myself, why are the not so many hot somali chicks in the west?