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[quote="Gedo_Boy"]Gamadid,



for me the problem would be the lie.....because if she tells me in discreet confidence: "No I am not a virgin, there was this boy when I was 19 and ......" that is something......nobody is perfect and things happen but the fact that she had the integrity to be honest about it and tell me straightforward then I might still marry her b/c I know nobody is perfect..........not even GB

But if she lies, you don't know what she is lying about? Was she a stripper? Did she have mass orgies? Did she do a film? Was she the neighborhood love? That's what is too scary to fathom.

And if she lies to you about that, then when will she decide to be honest and decide to lie.

You just don't know what you are getting.


Before I married her, I would ask very honestly and tell her that what she says is between me & her and I would never ever tell anybody either way. But I just gotta know [/quote]

^^^^

are you one of the dudes married to their hands? shaking up and down. you seem so paranoid about women. how can a person marry a stranger such as a former stripper? go to gedo and marry one you can remote control.

musika stop stalking me for my attention.

But you have to keep on mind that a girl can lose her virginity accidently like riding a rouch bike.

or

like arab chicks on their wedding night, they pop a small baloon full of rabbit blood

or

a week before the wedding, she visit the local surgeon and becomes a new born virgin


( I know some ladies are thinking right now, dammm u advo, I thought no faraxs were clever like that, fuk u my fareen)

^^ they keep underestimating us.

Gedo-Boy, true saxib, honesty is the key to a healthy relationship. If she tells you that up front when you get to know her and you express insterest that would be the best. You will either decide to go ahead and lay the foundations for a future together, or abandon her.


It would be difficult for me to ask a woman if she is a virgin. It is good to know as a man that you are the first to be intimate with your wife. But in this day and age, expectations are very low. Besides, from the horrible stories of FGM, Who wants to torture a woman? I would rather enjoy the intimacy without pain involving rather than make a priority to bleed a woman just because that is what many think to be a manhood. That is savagery in my book.

I heard Some Northerners used to take their brides to the doctor to deconstruct the forced superficial virginity and avoid complications That is more civilized.

Gamadid,

I think the FGM acts as an inhibitor to losing your virginity not due to higher moral standards but just b/c of the pain associated w/ promiscuity and the more apparent discovery of non-virgin status. But as Advocator said, many women (like in Egypt) have themselves sown back up or their hymen reconstructed.

As for the Northern practice of going to a surgeon first, I heard in Xamar women would do that too, at least the ones who could afford to see a doctor.

I agree with the declining standards. I think when people get hung up on virginity TOO much then we lose sight of what was wrong. I strongly feel that a woman's attachment to a man is dependent on how many men she has had sex with. If there are too many relationships I think it becomes more unlikely a healthy marriage can develop.


As for the virginity for virginity's sake, I read some stories about women in Arabia who are scandalous but want to keep their virginity b/c it will be discovered upon marriage.

These women would allow the man to have anal sex with them and perhaps oral sex just to maintain their virginity. So on the wedding night this guy may be happy he's got a virgin, but is she really a virgin?

That's what MIGHT happen if you get too caught up on virginity as a status.

I'm sure there are many girls who are good-natured, God-fearing but just got caught up in 1 or 2 incidents......is it fair for such girls to be put on a lower status than a scandalous girl who says: "You can have everything but vaginal sex with me because I'm saving that for marriage and I don't want to be considered a love"?

I believe people can redeem themselves.

Besides, another point is we have Somali guys running around claiming they're so promiscuous and sleeping around with all sorts of girls, Somali and otherwise.

So if there are so many guys that aren't virgins then how can we expect the majority of women to be virgins? Who are these guys sleeping with?

I don't think all these are banging the few number of dhilos.......

So as a society if the men are promiscuous so too will be the women.

The question is if she lies about it what would you do? Plus, there are a lot of women out there who are worse than men going around and sleep with guys one after another. Or using BOB (Battery Operated Boyfreind)....

hell yeah it matters, i want to have my cake and eat it too.

[quote="revolter"] Or using BOB (Battery Operated Boyfreind)....[/quote]



Hey at least it's not another guy who is gonna be smiling for no reason everytime he sees you & your wife together w/ a look on his face like: "I tapped that bro!"

why must be a virigin

i want my wife to be the best woman in bed

iyaduu experiance leh

I'm sick and tired of this topic....i wonder why pple never get tired of it

waryaada hadi aad xabad heshan oo duufka iinka biisa when you get old one day iska guursada oo naga naafa nac nacda aad habeen iyo maalin mesha ad ka wadaan

I would f u c k her first then divorse.

no one wants a used tool. specailly in a xaraam way

i will tell her to F off. and she wont get the mehri money

Hey at least it's not another guy who is gonna be smiling for no reason everytime he sees you & your wife together w/ a look on his face like: "I tapped that bro!"[/quote]



i remember that happening to one guy but replace another guy with the whole block.

As long as she ain't been with AW's close relatives and friends, its okay with me.

But say if my friends or cousins know her rep, then i will not proceed with the marriage