Mothers Can't Raise Sons

[DANGIRL]

I AGREE

but you can never underestimate the power of having aabo at home and doin his job

I can tell you that a woman can do a better job of raising her son(s) to be a man then his father can.

[snowflakes821]

In today's Somali society there are plenty of Baby daddies but not enough fathers. I still blame the mothers mostly.

What do you mean by baby daddy? Do they not marry the men and have out of wedlock kids?

[Enlightened~Sista]

Ismahan why ?

Anyways yeah AW i agree with you..its best to have both parents..girls need role models and boys do too. But if there is no father or mother..the other single parent should involve the extended family uncles /aunts

It takes a village to raise a child




P.S no gender wars please!

[AbdiWahab252]

Every boy needs a strong male role figure in his life. He learns how to be a man based on that figure.

Anywayz, just based on my nephews, I know sons are more liable to listen to an older male figure than their mother.

The daughters are doing well due to the constant attention/pressure from their mother.


Enlightened Sis,

Yep. My nephews want to be like me and my twin. It feels good to be a role model.

[Enlightened~Sista]

you have a twin??

[SummerRain]

In today's Somali society there are plenty of Baby daddies but not enough fathers. I still blame the mothers mostly.

What do you mean by baby daddy? Do they not marry the men and have out of wedlock kids?

Whether they are married or not...most only serve as sperm donars and their role dies there. Somali women are the blame. Most of them are on welfare which takes care of what the man should be responsible for. You are left with a loser who puts his paycheck in his pockets while crusing the streets, feeling no sense of responsible towards his wife or kids. If only these women would make their man work for his bed and bread or else hit the road, alot of family would have been straight.

[Enlightened~Sista]

Ismahan i think you're very wrong to only blame women for this whole mess! Please be sensitive some of us have relatives who have gone through divorce and let me tell you this they have never lived on benefits.

[AbdiWahab252]

Enlightened Sista,

Yeah, I have a twin. He is a very strict Wadaad and my opposite. We are identical twins and the only difference is that he looks like a Dahabshiil employee while I don't.

Ismahan,

I am no longer invited to doonitan because I always ask a Farax what he does for a living, how he intends to support my cousin etc.

I am opposed to giving away women to men who lack ambition or work ethic

[xidigow]

In today's Somali society there are plenty of Baby daddies but not enough fathers. I still blame the mothers mostly.

What do you mean by baby daddy? Do they not marry the men and have out of wedlock kids?

Whether they are married or not...most only serve as sperm donars and their role dies there. Somali women are the blame. Most of them are on welfare which takes care of what the man should be responsible for. You are left with a loser who puts his paycheck in his pockets while crusing the streets, feeling no sense of responsible towards his wife or kids. If only these women would make their man work for his bed and bread or else hit the road, alot of family would have been straight.

Unfortunately I have to agree with you.

[BABYGIRL123]

[quote="AbdiWahab252"]
Yeah, I have a twin. He is a very strict Wadaad and my opposite. We are identical twins and the only difference is that he looks like a Dahabshiil employee while I don't.

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You need to be more like him

[AbdiWahab252]

BABYGIRL123,

We are a lot like my two Awowe, one was a Wadaad and other was not.

Still I love my brother dearly & hope that I become like him except the gardheer part.

[Foxy22]

In today's Somali society there are plenty of Baby daddies but not enough fathers. I still blame the mothers mostly.

What do you mean by baby daddy? Do they not marry the men and have out of wedlock kids?

Whether they are married or not...most only serve as sperm donars and their role dies there. Somali women are the blame. Most of them are on welfare which takes care of what the man should be responsible for. You are left with a loser who puts his paycheck in his pockets while crusing the streets, feeling no sense of responsible towards his wife or kids. If only these women would make their man work for his bed and bread or else hit the road, alot of family would have been straight.

Indeed Somali women are to blame for it but then again who is to blame for these Somali Women?

As for AW, Mothers can't raise sons? What would you know about being a parent? or being a mother? How can you judge a situation where you looked after your nephews for few hours? You think you can do a better job than these boys mother? Wallah you are so full of it.

[AbdiWahab252]

Foxxy22,

Mothers can raise a son but can't raise him into being a man.

There are certain lessons only a man can teach a son.

[SummerRain]

E-S

Note that I said mostly. Those women who make a honest living but are unfortunetly coupled with the wrong guy have no blame in this. However, you cant disagree with what I said since its the top reason why Somali fathers are not practicing their role.

For one, I think that a man can only be a good father/husband from the examples that were set by his own father and the general living style in the home he grow up in. Moreover, I highly doubt that if I man was made to see his responsibilities by his woman( which is wrong in the first place, b/c he should know them), he would have time for fadhi ku dirir, chew, and other nonsense that Somali men do instead of being home with their kids. However, When rent, food, etc is already taken care of by a third party, he loses that role and there is nothing for him( well...) to do than be a NACAS is NACAY.

[Enlightened~Sista]

so his wife should show him the right path..oo ninku aqli munan ilaahay siin?

im sorry it seems you are blaming their bad behaviour on their wives! these are not lil boys we're tlaking about..these are grown men who should know better..i can understand if u blamed their mothers and father for their bad behaviour but the wives?