Love=Lust of the mind and body?

[AyanTu]

[quoteHuman nature is to be selfish.]

Ms.nalia,

If been selfish is in Human nature, then how can humans feel love if love is unselfish? Also, why do you describe love as something heavenly sent, something pure, something only few people can exihibit?

Helwaa,

Your explanation of lust-marriage is just 1 of the many variables behind the high rate of divorce. I dont think one would marry out of lust, because that is plain stupid since no sane person would rush into a difficult road called marriage just one feels attracted to the other person. I feel attracted to some women, even can feel lust for them, but I would never marry them! For marriage, I look for a woman who is wifey-material, and physical attraction is just one of the least matters in this equation.[/quote]


Not everyone has common sence....sadly
And ppl do marry purly for lust, thinking it is love.

[HELWAA]

Miss nalia

I'm not point fingering anybody huuno...We have the hightst divorce rate among qaxooties ..why does other nationalties stay together longer then us...lust-love is one of the reasons yaa ukhti.I have seen it in many marriages.


realest

You dont know anything about the world walle.As muslim you are not allowed to date or commit zinah....Many choose their partner by attraction and lust...That is truth...They get married because they want xalaal sex.Everything is qadar and if you are lucky it will last forever or just end.

[Realest_007]

realest

You dont know anything about the world walle.As muslim you are not allowed to date or commit zinah....Many choose their partner by attraction and lust...That is truth...They get married because they want xalaal sex.Everything is qadar and if you are lucky it will last forever or just end.

Some do, but not many. I mean com'on who would go into marriage just to have ''xalaal sex''?

First of all, you are right, sex is a human desire/behaviour. But the person that marries just to have ''xalaal sex'' has forgotten that marriage has more value, and is the first stepping stone to build a family: the basic unit of a society.

So how can you marry to someone just to have ''xalaal sex''? If the person wants to have that, fine but dont take children because that means been responsible for their upbringing.

Also, Helwaa, do you mean guys or both guys and females? Because I dont think there is a decent female out there that would degenerate marriage into ''xalaal sex''. I mean every girl/women wants children, and create a happy family right? So the sex thing is just a bonus which should not be that important in deciding to marry a person.

[FAH1223]

*vomits on thread*

[Madd_Scientist_]

*vomits on thread*

american somalis

[Madd_Scientist_]

it's actually interesting...

[FAH1223]

*vomits on thread*

american somalis :love:

[Madd_Scientist_]

[AyanTu]

Miss nalia

I'm not point fingering anybody huuno...We have the hightst divorce rate among qaxooties ..why does other nationalties stay together longer then us...lust-love is one of the reasons yaa ukhti.I have seen it in many marriages.


realest

You dont know anything about the world walle.As muslim you are not allowed to date or commit zinah....Many choose their partner by attraction and lust...That is truth...They get married because they want xalaal sex.Everything is qadar and if you are lucky it will last forever or just end.

Wow i didn't know that was a fact, but i can believe it, but i don't think that has anything to do with marring for lust....i think we spoke about it in another thread.

Conclusion....somali men have little or no sence in Resposibility...raised not to know how to take care of themselves let alone anyone else, while the women are over worked and in western socity, they don't have to take it....government will do what our men can't

[FAH1223]

Wow i didn't know that was a fact, but i can believe it, but i don't think that has anything to do with marring for lust....i think we spoke about it in another thread.

Conclusion....somali men have little or no sence in Resposibility...raised not to know how to take care of themselves let alone anyone else, while the women are over worked and in western socity, they don't have to take it....government will do what our men can't

Whether they are married or not...most only serve as sperm donars and their role dies there. Somali women are the blame. Most of them are on welfare which takes care of what the man should be responsible for. You are left with a loser who puts his paycheck in his pockets while crusing the streets, feeling no sense of responsible towards his wife or kids. If only these women would make their man work for his bed and bread or else hit the road, alot of family would have been straight.

[Babygirl-]

You Lust for many things but you Love only one.

[AyanTu]

You Lust for many things but you Love only one.

Not true, u can love more than one at a time....

[*Amal]

Love is generally caring and looking out for someone, lust is looking out for yourself by getting something out of a person you think is attractive...

Lust can grow into love tho..

[Basra-]

[quote="ms.nalia"][color=#4000BF]
[b]
I dissagree.

Love is a spiritual metaphysical ground. Many have blurred the line of lust and love but I assure you they are not the same thing.
You can lust over many but you only love very few if not just one. [/b][/color][/quote]



hhhmmm interesting..... Ms nalia here is a question for u....Which comes first--- Love or Lust?

[ms.nalia]

Conclusion....somali men have little or no sence in Resposibility...raised not to know how to take care of themselves let alone anyone else, while the women are over worked and in western socity, they don't have to take it....government will do what our men can't

You're not actually gonna sit there and tell me that its all the mens' fault? Thats bulshiit. It takes two to tango. Women need to stop being so freakn critical, and stop demeaning the men. You shouldnt kick a man while hes' down...thats just weak.