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BlackVelvet wrote:Firefly your cousin and the Pakistani woman are lucky, who would complain about a free chauffeur service? That's what you wanted as well innit

I'm still looking for my chauffeur.

Ayeeyo_xilwaa:- Ilahay ha uu sahlo..i do think it's too much having someone with you 24/7.

Ayeeyo Xilwa wrote:

BV

Maxaad sameen hadu ninkaago ku dhaho ma bixi kartid?

Albabka ayaan furi lahaa...watch me

Seriously though bax to where? To the shop to my mother's house to another city to another country to the moon? No matter where it was I would not react well to the 'I forbid you..ma bixi kartid' nonsense but if he was willing to talk through it and state his case like a reasonable adult then I would listen.

I knew a lady who's husband was an abusive haddith dropping brute. He'd pluck ayats out of context and drop haddiths of dubious origin and use them to justify his actions. It's really annoying that she believed she had to endure that for the sake of her religion, the guy really got in her head. Allah ka magan galney niman saas ah, amiin

Xalwo

if she agreed to this before the marriage then it should not be a problem. Diinta is not a Knife people can use to stab each other, it is a way of life. the teachings of the Diin is open to anyone and they are so transparant and easy, if she feels his demands are against Islam she can make him aware of this.

if his demands are not against Islam, and she still does not like them, then why did she agree to them in the first place.


btw: this is a Farum so STFU about keeping my opinions to myself, im trying to enlighten you Lol

Deleted since it made someone very upset. A man should admit his mistakes. I took it back.

BlackVelvet wrote:

Ayeeyo Xilwa wrote:

BV

Maxaad sameen hadu ninkaago ku dhaho ma bixi kartid?

Albabka ayaan furi lahaa...watch me

Seriously though bax to where? To the shop to my mother's house to another city to another country to the moon? No matter where it was I would not react well to the 'I forbid you..ma bixi kartid' nonsense but if he was willing to talk through it and state his case like a reasonable adult then I would listen.

I knew a lady who's husband was an abusive haddith dropping brute. He'd pluck ayats out of context and drop haddiths of dubious origin and use them to justify his actions. It's really annoying that she believed she had to endure that for the sake of her religion, the guy really got in her head. Allah ka magan galney niman saas ah, amiin

aamin sis.Everything is calaf i guess laakin nin sidaas oo kale ah habeen lama joogen.


Firefly

Aamin walaalo...i hope he change and act like a normal person.




UDUN

I'm gonna say this only one time, stay out of my threads and keep ur tasteless maahmaahs to urself.

Salaam

I wish for any new Somali couples for happy marriage and healthy kids. Since the Somali race is loosing so many people and we need new kids so the race can continue existing, any negative view or comment on any new couples is just reversing that trend and ought to be rejected. That is according to Udun's view.

^^Wel i'm one of the relatives and i wanted to see other pples views since we all think diffrently and this is A forum full of strangers.Who knows maybe someone have experince of controlling farax or knows someone who does.The Bottom of line is i can post whatever i like about whoever i want...if you dont like it..DONT ENTER MY THREADS.

Anaba ka daran oo ka gureya....Juuq danbeba hadaad iga maqashid..JOW!

Xilwa xaal qaado, it is all my fault if it has gone this far and it upset you that much, dib danbena ha iiga grin as if I am dying to talk to you. You are hillarious btw. Dib danbeba ayeeyo ha iiga gurin Reerkaana ha dumin faras baad ugu joogtaa oo waa ku aragnaaye. Inshallah, Alle calafkaaga waa kuu hagaajin adigana, aamiin. Waa kuu soo ducynaynaa in Alle calafka adigana kuu hagaajiyo.

udun

xaa heysa, inanta maad iska daaftid.

btw, i agree, she should not have posted this type of stuff, and she should definitely not be asking for tips in how to break up a marriage, laakin waa in aad ka xishootid dhumarka ma garatey.

snoop12 wrote:udun

xaa heysa, inanta maad iska daaftid.

btw, i agree, she should not have posted this type of stuff, and she should definitely not be asking for tips in how to break up a marriage, laakin waa in aad ka xishootid dhumarka ma garatey.

You are behind man, saw aniga ma masaxay maad arag? You are way behind buddy. Btw what did I say wrong other than may be maahmaah?

The hadith needs to be revised, travelling for a woman is no longer a safety issue as we no longer travel in the back of camels in deserts. Whether you are going to another country or to the shop, it shouldnt be an issue.

Many ways to look at this. On one hand, I don't see the point in looking at this from a masquline/feminie type view. Obviously both the Guy/Girl want good and are trying. While I admire the dedication, it is best for both of them to live in a Muslim Country Where it is more possible to live the perfect Islamic lifestyle. Living in the West there will always be things that You will sacrafice/give up. I also don't believe for a minute this Man accompanies His wife everywhere She goes. I'm sure there are times Where it is needed for Her to go out, and He is extremely tired and just gives the keys to her and says "Yo go".

Muraxow waxaan la yabanahay is how can a guy have so much control over his wife. I've always been under the impression that women are never and will never be under our complete control, and when you have a women who his completely submissive is when you should sleep with your eyes open.

Why you ask is because they will never accept that we are right 100% of the time, and the times we are they will think it has to do with them. Wa cajiib dumarka but I rather have a women who loves me and disagrees with me, then a women who listens to everything I say but can not express her love

I think as human beings we should be patient with our spouses and want them to be the way we desire over many many years. And honey is sweeter than vinegar.

What if the girl is not married and she's both a full time student and an employee? What happens then? Do we get dropped off at work and taken to class?

Even when I'm married I would honestly feel annoyed if my husband followed me everywhere. Like DAMN, I sleep next to you, wake up to you, eat with you, kick it with you... And now you're going EVERYWHERE I GO? I honestly need to do more research on this topic because I'd allow my husband to go places with me but not on some jigaboo typa shit where he's everywhere I turn.

Leila25 wrote:The hadith needs to be revised, travelling for a woman is no longer a safety issue as we no longer travel in the back of camels in deserts. Whether you are going to another country or to the shop, it shouldnt be an issue.

Leila,

Subxaanallaah, sister it is dangerous for a Muslim to say the xadiiths of prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) should be revised. Every thing that prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) stated is good at any generation and any time. It is humans who are taking it too extreme and may not fully undertsand the purpose and the meaning. In my understanding, it is putting the responsibility on the man to know how his wife and doughters are doing, what does she need, and where she needs to go. It is to ensure that he, the man, should be aware of the well-being of his wife/daughters and their whereabouts. Travelling is still a safety issue. Let me give you an example, dut to the upsurge of violence in Southern Somalia particularly Mogadishu, there are many Somalis who take the risk road from Somalia thru Kenya thru Southern Sudan thru North Sudan thru Libya and take the risk of taking small boats to Malta and then thru Europe. A large number of these migrants are women. It would be heart breaking to hear the horrors they are going thru during these riky migrations. Many loose their lives and many of them are being abused. I have to say it in Soomaali "waxaa jirta in ka badan 400 gabdhood oo Soomaali ah oo ay khasab ku qabsadeen maleeshiyada Koonfurta Sudan ee Christianka iyo Animistka ah waxaana loo haystaa waa addoonsi ay xoog ku haystaan maleeshiyadaas. It is a well-known tragedy that occurred to our migrant women. If we really understood the whole meaning of Muxrim, these would never have happened to our women. The father, the brother, and the husbands of these Somali women should never have allowed these defenseless women to take this risky journey.