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Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 4:56 pm
by OliveOil
greenday wrote:Olive is your dad strict? i think everyone has their moment of "aaaa get out my hair". They are right most of the time sadly,and am always findin this out the hard way
Duqa hide and seek la ciyaar

Naah, he cool...wuu dagan tahay...he watches movies with us, listen to somali music with me, he doesn't fuss about my friends or if I go out with any of them (my Hooyo does that)...it's just that he thinks caruurtaan are my children and gurigaan is mine...I mean I do stuff here and there but there r other young adults and teenagers who r all equally capable...I feel like everything oo halaysan korka buu iga saaraa

Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 4:58 pm
by qoraxeey
Olive macanto just be happy u have a dad

and that he is in ur life. Many dont have that
Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 5:00 pm
by OliveOil
KingMJ wrote:Those are the traits of a really good father, you clash because he is always trying to motivate and push you to be better. He is taking a vested interest in you which shows he loves and cares about you, it also shows he thinks about what you do a lot so always wants to help you.
Its old school tough love and in the end of the day those are the best fathers

I hear ya wallahi...it's true!!! My ex friend's father was so careless about his children...married another women and now caruurta are crazy and club hopping
I'm thankful to have him actually...laakiin inuu iga yareeyo buuqa iyo qaylada baa Fiican
Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 5:01 pm
by DropkickMurphy
It just looks like there is a communication problem. He wants you to be a better example for your siblings since you are the oldest and you want to be shown love and appreciate for all that you already do.

Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 5:02 pm
by OliveOil
qoraxeey wrote:Olive macanto just be happy u have a dad

and that he is in ur life. Many dont have that
Complaining is a human nature..everybody does it lol

Alhamdulilah though
Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 5:04 pm
by OliveOil
DropkickMurphy wrote:It just looks like there is a communication problem. He wants you to be a better example for your siblings since you are the oldest and you want to be shown love and appreciate for all that you already do.

Something like that!!! Lol what's wrong with wanting that?? Heck my mom gets me gifts wallahi when she is really happy with me....but abbo is different

Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 5:55 pm
by DR-YALAXOOW
olivoil how old are you young sister?. look yes somali parents can be difficult sometimes. laakiin believe me your father wants nothing but the best for you . its natural that people who live same house brothers, sisters and waaalidka sometimes have difficulties whit eachothers relationship.
fiiri dont just look your father outside behaviour against you.. somali parents do not show their love towards their children, like hugging or giving complemet and telling them that they love them like westerners, but that does not mean somali parent love less their childrens.
inshalah your going to grew up and move away from your parents home, so enjoy while you still there. waqtiga waa ordayaa.
Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 5:58 pm
by Beans
Why butt heads.Parents are right even when they are wrong.
Marhaba doesnt kill,try it.If aabe says the sky is green maant,i replied waa runtaa baaba.It doesnt mean i have to lie,i just choose to not to argue back.
Most SOmali parents rarely compliment the person directly tho.Only when u r not present are the compliments and pride in them shine.
Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 6:40 pm
by 934
Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 9:00 pm
by Lillaahiya
Walaalo, dad fara badan abo la nool ma haystan ee marka hore alxamdullilayso. Teeda kale, kolley kumaa caayo ee wu ku canaana. Taasi caadi weeye, waalid aan awladkooda canaanin ma jirto ee ha u bixin.
Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 9:03 pm
by 1nemansquad
i've had the same relationship with my dad coming up, because we are alike in so many ways and let me tell you something; now that i don't live with him and i've my own life; i miss him very much.
i used to think him being hard on only me was a curse but now that i think back, i think i was his favorite

Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 10:24 pm
by Advo
Olive you have to learn to appreciate and look at it from his perspective, because he doesnt mean what his saying on literal bases. His old school Somali just like our dads who operate on canaan with emphasis on the negative no matter how small and never on praising but you on the other hand is affectionate and very emotional so the two will always collide but what I am saying is dont take whatever he says personal or to the heart, just brush
Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 10:38 pm
by Alchemist
Olive is because your a love

Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 10:39 pm
by afisoone
Naa oliveoil; Aabaha uma xanaaqsanidee ee waxaa ka maseertay ilmaha kale miyaa. Maxaa ilmaha kale loo qabsaneeynin. Dumarka xin iyo maseer ayee qabriga la galayaan. Dadkaan maba ku fahmin meesha aad ka careeysantahay laakiin when it come to Saciid Afisoone the buck stops here...
Re: I don't have a good relationship with my father!
Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2011 10:41 pm
by afisoone