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Re: Marriage Etiquette

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salool wrote:Ismahan..

37yrs ayey empty bed jiiftay oy dib oo dhigtay guur because of education and career and now all of the sudden she wants a man?...40ki bey qoorta ugu jirta.wax kasta wa iska qoraal horta but you make ur own choices and you have to liv with the consequences of it.It's unfair to her future children as well, by the time that kid turns 10 she is in her 50s...waa xiligi ay ayeeyo noqon laheyd. :mindblown:
You have a point Helwaa and I do agree, we all should accept the consequences of our actions. However, I think it is fair that if she feels that at this point she is in a good place to start a family (granded it was not a priority before) that she should go ahead and try her luck finding someone compatible with her and to her situation. I dont think a woman should limit herself based on what society deems acceptable. Besides, times have changed, yes she maybe pass the conventional age for marriage but she can still have a kid or two and considering she is financially stable, she will be able to provided well for her children along with the support of her spouse. I'm sure there are men who can appreciate a woman like her and wouldn't hesitate sharing a life with her.

Tuushi,

Didn't mean it literally LOL I meant in the sense that which one of us wants to be loved and have a man to share the days with us. If at 37, a woman decides she wants to get married and start a family, kudos to her.
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salool wrote:by the time that kid turns 10 she is in her 50s...waa xiligi ay ayeeyo noqon laheyd. :mindblown:
:lol: :lol:


Salool since ey 37yrs empty bed ku jiiftey nin fiican maad ugu duceysid. Clearly she deserves it after all this time. And by the way there are women who although they have a good career never put it before having a family, it just happened that way, nin ey ku kalsontahay waligeed meysan arkin. And then there are single women who are approaching 40, 50, 60 and they don't have a career.

Since they say Allah never puts on you a burden greater than you can bear you should always say alxamdulillah. 40 and single? So what, you don't have kids who are drug addicts or prostitutes. You don't have an abuse husband who gave you AIDS and you most certainly don't have organ damage from the liposuction and boob job you got because you couldn't handle your body after the babies. There's always a bright side :stylin:
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@ Salool
Kawaran mid iyadoo yar la guursadey oo ilaahay ilmo siiyey iyadoo 37 jir ah.would you also say it unfair to her children. maybe not.inagu garan mayno sababto ay u guursan weydey ka hor lakiin maqaadiir ka soo qaad. markaa hadda waxay doonaysaa nin iyo caruur. Good luck to her ilaahay nin khayr qaba ha siiyo. Anigu waan guursan lahaa haddi ay naag wanaagsantahay
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Ismahan,it seems we were both headed for the same point. :D
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Tuushi

Wax kasta waqti bey leeyehiin walaal, nin iyo naagina isku mid maaha.Ninku isago 90 ayuu caruur dhali kara laakin naaguhu nasiibka ma laha.First thing a guy think about when he is looking for a wife, wa imsa caruur bey ku dhali doonta aka agekeeda.A 37yrs female oo mutacalimad ihi oo shaqeysta ma helayso ninka ay rabta waayo ninka ay dooneysa wuxu raba naag yar...they've only two choices: either settle for less or stay single.That is the price you've to pay when you wait to long to get married.


Ismahan,

Somalidu naag 30kii dhaaftey o la guursan guun bay oo arkaan, i think her only option is to be a second wife..haye ninkaaga ma ku sadaqeysan :whew:
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BlackVelvet wrote:
salool wrote:by the time that kid turns 10 she is in her 50s...waa xiligi ay ayeeyo noqon laheyd. :mindblown:
:lol: :lol:


Salool since ey 37yrs empty bed ku jiiftey nin fiican maad ugu duceysid. Clearly she deserves it after all this time. And by the way there are women who although they have a good career never put it before having a family, it just happened that way, nin ey ku kalsontahay waligeed meysan arkin. And then there are single women who are approaching 40, 50, 60 and they don't have a career.

Since they say Allah never puts on you a burden greater than you can bear you should always say alxamdulillah. 40 and single? So what, you don't have kids who are drug addicts or prostitutes. You don't have an abuse husband who gave you AIDS and you most certainly don't have organ damage from the liposuction and boob job you got because you couldn't handle your body after the babies. There's always a bright side :stylin:
Hadiiba ay sariir madhan ay 37yrs ku jiiftay oo qooq dilin dee singlnimadeeda ha isaga jirto...ma kula tahay naag intaas oo sano isku talinaysay oo isku filan inay nin la heshiinayso oy warkiisa maqleyso iyadiibaaba nin xaafada ka ahe :whew:
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Salool. I really hope u dont believe and accept that bs.

I cant believe u would call out a woman to wanna have a child at age 40 and but accept a father at 90.A kid needs both parents.

Wax kasta waqti way leeyihiin lakiin pls dont justify societies guidelines as the mandatory list to follow.

Ilaahay haddu uqora,she will live her life just how she dreamt it.

No should just sit back and take it laying down because they feel not worthy of love after a certain age.
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lol Salool, you have a point, the problem will arise if she marries the first random guy she meets lakin hadi ey barato a man who can handle and appreciate what she has to offer, why not? 37 duq ma'aha. Life expectancy in Europe is 80 so she's not even half way there yet. Her life is just beginning.
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Wiyeer, why dont you pm the OP and marry her.


Tuushi, i dont believe in that but thats how many of our society think, a garoob has a better chance to find a man then a virgin female in her 30s.There're even some idiots who think if a female wait to long to get married she had her share of zinah.Dadbaaba rumaysan karin inu qofna virgin ahaan karin noloshiisa dhan. :down:


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Be honest now, walaalka ma kula talin laheyd hadu gabadha isku da' yehiin inu guursado? Personaly i would't.
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Salool age aint nothing but a number. Even if my younger brother brought home a 40yr old I'd support them.
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Bv, hadayba sheekada sida tahay walle maalin dhow islaamo badan ba ku dumaashi noqonaya...bal xinaha guriga sii buuxi cirada ha ku casaystaane. :whew:

Sorry i'm a racist when it comes to age....no islaan for my brother. :whoa:
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salool wrote:Tuushi

Wax kasta waqti bey leeyehiin walaal, nin iyo naagina isku mid maaha.Ninku isago 90 ayuu caruur dhali kara laakin naaguhu nasiibka ma laha.First thing a guy think about when he is looking for a wife, wa imsa caruur bey ku dhali doonta aka agekeeda.A 37yrs female oo mutacalimad ihi oo shaqeysta ma helayso ninka ay rabta waayo ninka ay dooneysa wuxu raba naag yar...they've only two choices: either settle for less or stay single.That is the price you've to pay when you wait to long to get married.


Ismahan,

Somalidu naag 30kii dhaaftey o la guursan guun bay oo arkaan, i think her only option is to be a second wife..haye ninkaaga ma ku sadaqeysan :whew:
Ilaahay 4 ayu ubaneye but he knows better. :mrgreen:
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Re: Marriage Etiquette

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Ismahan,

If you say to a man : naag kale ma guursan kartid markaas buuba ku waalan naag kale...wa la iska fasaxa oo waxaa la dhaha uun: walaalo cida aad doontid waad guursan karta just waraaqdayda uun halka ii si dhig intaanad bixin.Markaas bu xanjo kugu noqoni. :whew:
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Salool "No Islaan" banner is not good :down: :lol:

Who knows it might be good for you brother, help him mature a bit and learn more about life through her. I'd rather a decent older lady than a spoilt wasaqad his age or younger.
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somali women expire after the age of 30. any woman who has passed that shelf life is only fit to be a second wife at best.
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