I am a husband first, then a father, then a "insert career"

[SummerRain]

Summer I understand the idea of thinking about your partner's needs and endeavouring to support them but I don't know, would have assumed kids come first maybe it's that base blood is thicker than water instinct.

Well it is a partnership right? You have to give it it's right. And waht makes you think a mother would love her children more than a father? The two are ultimately playing for the same team and are trying to accomplish the same goals which include taking care of the kids. I don't see the problem here.

The kids comes first for every mother, the husband can be replaced.Kuwa laga so jiiday ba liiska ugu horeya.

It is with this kind of thinking we run into issues. salool nimanka isku mid ma'ahan so we need to becareful not to generalize all men or women. If a husband is happy where he is and vice versa there is no need to replace anyone. Think about that for a second.

[Tanker]

Jasmine6

The balance between work and children is very hard but it is possible, and very important for the wife to be independent economically from the husband or at least take an education.

[ZubeirAwal]

Is that what Benjamin Netanyahu told you?

[zulaika]

Hey Zuli, it's been a while


Well I guess you are a partner before you get the addition and the two of you are in it together, still though maybe I'm just being stubborn about it but would you put your husband/wife before your kids? Who gets first priority of your time, of your affection?

You probably wouldn't say it to your partner's face but surely...

But then again they do say men are like kids and I have heard of "wiilkiisa uu ka maseerey"

Lol @ wiilkisa ka maserey

A mothers love for her child is paramount, this goes without saying..it's pretty much intrinsic in itself. There is a reason our beloved prophet Muhammad PBUH said "Your Mother, Your Mother, Your Mother, Your Father"

My point being even a husband knows of his love for his mother and would not compete for his wife's affinity for her child. I guess you would have to be a mother to know the love of your child is effortless no need to weigh out child vs husband precedence.

And to reiterate what SummerRain said, if both husband and wife are on the same page in terms of the well being of their marriage and children.. There is no competition between them and easily prevail upon each other's good nature. He will put her first, she will do likewise.

[BlackVelvet]

Summer and Zuli I think one has to be married to get where you're coming from. There is this magic, voodo thing that happens to women when they get married, I think you have to live it to believe it

The kids comes first for every mother, the husband can be replaced.Kuwa laga so jiiday ba liiska ugu horeya.

Waxa i soo xasuusisey this lady who once said walaalkey iyo ninkeey, walaalkey is more important because I can always find another husband but I can never get another brother.

Nothing to contribute. Jasmine wlc back.

Thanks InaS

Jasmine6

The balance between work and children is very hard but it is possible, and very important for the wife to be independent economically from the husband or at least take an education.

I think someone would argue that a big part of marriage is being dependent on each other, needing each other.

[Tanker]

Yes they have to help and support each other in the marriage but I am just saying the wife should be ready if a separation happens she shouldn't live on the street after the husband leaves her.

[Skippa]

I am muslim first then a son and a father(in equal measures) ...the immutable bonds before all else...that's where I am

[Hyperactive]

I am muslim first then a son and a father(in equal measures) ...the immutable bonds before all else...that's where I am

that's where I'm as well except father thing. a muslim, a son and a brother.

[Marques]

Welcome Back! I see you've got off where you started i.e. relationshipsssss....

[Basra-]

[Cherine]

I agree with the man.

Wife first then the business of mantag iyo bambar then whatever 100% .

[GeoSeven]

I'll agree with this. A frustrated wife, for lack of emotional or intimate attention might be the undoing of a family. Satisfy her and the household should be in order

[Vivacious]

would have assumed kids come first maybe it's that base blood is thicker than water instinct.

True, but how did you become a mother before passing through the "wife" stage?
You are a wife first, then a mother, then whatever
Welcome back though, your absence has been felt here

[BlackVelvet]

What a bunch of softies