child support

[EvolSyawla]

Have you considered whether or not he is actually the victim here? Why is she taking him to court? There are always two sides. I do not agree with victimizing a human like that, no way. Not to justify her actions, but she is probably a very scorned woman. Or he married a psychopath, in which case, you better do your homework first lol.

I pray to Allah I am never burned so badly that I fail to feel compassion. But do not make another man's problems your own. I have not heard of Somalis in this situation, because the fams usually come together to prevent this sort of leeching/abuse.

You wana marry Shaniqua or Melissa, good luck with whatever fallout happens lol

[Malachite]

Even if her parents are Isaaq and mine are hawiye?

[EvolSyawla]

It comes down to her. You seem to be a sound individual, so take your time and remember to ask tough questions. Bring up these kind of situations as discussion, you will get her opinion on what's happening. If you don't like it, don't ignore it for the sake of love.

And no, inter tribal marriage doesn't mean that her fam will fight for every penny you have. Even if they are evil, you should know that beforehand nooh? lol

Child support is xaq, and you will be obliged to support YOUR CHILDREN. Not her hair appointments and other b.s like that.

Having children out of wedlock to avoid financial problems is ridiculous when you know the life-long daddy issues you would be giving your children.


P.S, Hawiye + Issac is so much more common than I thought.

[Rambie]

Where is the OP?
shekada ino wad dee.

[gegiroor]

Have you considered whether or not he is actually the victim here? Why is she taking him to court? There are always two sides. I do not agree with victimizing a human like that, no way. Not to justify her actions, but she is probably a very scorned woman. Or he married a psychopath, in which case, you better do your homework first lol.

I pray to Allah I am never burned so badly that I fail to feel compassion. But do not make another man's problems your own. I have not heard of Somalis in this situation, because the fams usually come together to prevent this sort of leeching/abuse.

You wana marry Shaniqua or Melissa, good luck with whatever fallout happens lol

I've known several cases where Somali women took their ex Somali husbands to court, and the legal fees and whole ordeal were devastating for the guys. Knowing and having talked to at least two of the guys revealed that the women were very upset of the divorce and the treatments that preceded it, and in some of the cases because the men were not willing to pay the child support on time.

[gegiroor]

So you already knocked out a one while still in uni.

Nacas foqol nacas.

Man, you're acting as if the man can prevent for a woman to have a child. If by the time woman discovered she is pregnant is too late, or she does not believe in killing the baby in her womb for religious reasons, the baby will come. Nowadays, people are not celibate before marriage, and by engaging premarital sex, one should expect a baby along the way. He just need to help in any way he can. That is all he needs to do.

[BeyondQabil]

My ex boss pays 30% of his income + 20% monthly in lawyer fees. On top of that, the beech takes him to court every other month for minor things.

as he eats a mcchicken and fries for lunch everyday


The more I see threads like this, the more I am accepting the reality that I will father a few kids out of wedlock and never get married

These wicked people don't know how much they're ruining folks. They just want your money without bothering how much you will spend for the other children. If a woman can't take care of her child, let her give it to the father of the child. Unless the divorce was caused by gross misbehavior of the husband, or unless the husband doesn't want the child.

Why struggle for the custody of a child you can't take care of?

What if the Man dies, will the woman die too? Will she i=give it up for adoption?

There's a case where a man ended up killing a girl who had gone to court to demand child support.

http://westfm.co.ke/index-page-news-bid-5473.htm

[Rambie]

So you already knocked out a one while still in uni.

Nacas foqol nacas.

Man, you're acting as if the man can prevent for a woman to have a child. If by the time woman discovered she is pregnant is too late, or she does not believe in killing the baby in her womb for religious reasons, the baby will come. Nowadays, people are not celibate before marriage, and by engaging premarital sex, one should expect a baby along the way. He just need to help in any way he can. That is all he needs to do.

Well, there is something called "condom", now you have a garac child on the way
and his father is already packing his bags to Africa forget about continuing his high education.

If she's Somali and as sacred as our friend here, than there might be a way to cover it up.
Otherwise, his shoes is in deep shit, especially if he's still on his first two years at uni.

You fked up big time Guwop,

[Baird10]

know it sounds harsh, but figure out a way to pay for living expenses on your own and count your blessings when CS does come in. Trim the budget, request for state services, whatever you can. My daughter and I spent many days with very simple meals, second hand store clothing, etc.

[gegiroor]

My ex boss pays 30% of his income + 20% monthly in lawyer fees. On top of that, the beech takes him to court every other month for minor things.

as he eats a mcchicken and fries for lunch everyday


The more I see threads like this, the more I am accepting the reality that I will father a few kids out of wedlock and never get married

IMO, 30% is reasonable to support your children, but he pays 20% for legal fees? Boy, that woman was settling score with that man Those lawyers screwed him too. Poor fella.

I remember this guy who used to work in my department going nuts, he couldn't fulfill his work duties, and the fella was in distress that leadership noticed something is not right about the fella. Then in one afternoon, I heard the project manager and the lead architect talking about how he was not fulfilling his responsibilities. As soon as I saw him the next day, I took him to the side and told him what I heard. That is when he revealed that his wife left him, took the kids, hired this topnotch divorce lawyer, and he was going through a tough divorce battle in the court. Luckily for him, he immediately talked to one of his buddies in another department who was a manager, and he was given another job immediately. He knew he was going to be placed in 2 months performance review and due to his situation, he was not going to focus work 100%, and therefore would have been eliminated after the 2 months period ended. So, this other guy he knew gave him a lifeline, where the job was much easier to do, and he could have as much time as he needed to meet the lawyers and go to court.

[gegiroor]

My ex boss pays 30% of his income + 20% monthly in lawyer fees. On top of that, the beech takes him to court every other month for minor things.

as he eats a mcchicken and fries for lunch everyday


The more I see threads like this, the more I am accepting the reality that I will father a few kids out of wedlock and never get married

These wicked people don't know how much they're ruining folks. They just want your money without bothering how much you will spend for the other children. If a woman can't take care of her child, let her give it to the father of the child. Unless the divorce was caused by gross misbehavior of the husband, or unless the husband doesn't want the child.

Why struggle for the custody of a child you can't take care of?

What if the Man dies, will the woman die too? Will she i=give it up for adoption?

There's a case where a man ended up killing a girl who had gone to court to demand child support.

http://westfm.co.ke/index-page-news-bid-5473.htm

Does OJ Simpson case ring a bell?

[Rambie]

My ex boss pays 30% of his income + 20% monthly in lawyer fees. On top of that, the beech takes him to court every other month for minor things.

as he eats a mcchicken and fries for lunch everyday


The more I see threads like this, the more I am accepting the reality that I will father a few kids out of wedlock and never get married

[Bandit]

So you already knocked out a one while still in uni.

Nacas foqol nacas.

Man, you're acting as if the man can prevent for a woman to have a child. If by the time woman discovered she is pregnant is too late, or she does not believe in killing the baby in her womb for religious reasons, the baby will come. Nowadays, people are not celibate before marriage, and by engaging premarital sex, one should expect a baby along the way. He just need to help in any way he can. That is all he needs to do.

Well, there is something called "condom", now you have a garac child on the way
and his father is already packing his bags to Africa forget about continuing his high education.

If she's Somali and as sacred as our friend here, than there might be a way to cover it up.
Otherwise, his shoes is in deep shit, especially if he's still on his first two years at uni.

You fked up big time Guwop,

you keep skipping the part where i said I don't have kids

[Rambie]

I know it's a headch man, I'll laugh with you.

[Bandit]

These stories remind me when my older cousin got accused of fathering a child with an AA female 10 years ago we had to do dna test and everything