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Adali wrote:1.Confront her, completely ignore the guy and ask something inconspicuous, like "hey do you know where such and such place is"
depending on how she reacts, continue accordingly..
For the purpose of this exercise we will deal with the most probable scenario.
-She will ignore the fact that you are Somali, she gives you the directions behaving in a manner that signals she wants to get out of the situation as fast as possible.
2. Be very polite and smile, ask her if she can speak Somali.
She says yes..
3. Flat out ask in Somali who the man is, find out her relationship to the man in a rather brunt manner and unappologetic manner while maintaining good body language.
She will claim the guy
4. continue the narrative of interviewing her about the guy.. Where they met, how long they known each other etc
The purpose of this exercise is to socialise with the opposite sex in a challenging way. if under any circumstances she starts to get agitated you withdraw amicably, any girl who gets agitated already feels embarrassed and that is the whole point, to shame her. If she becomes feminine and falls into the role of an innocent girl and she doesn't claim the guy, ask her for her number ! and tell her I won't tell you won't tell anyone, because your entire frame here is that she should be embarrassed, and taking the interaction to a Somali language changes the context and helps your frame. If the guy tries to inject himself, cut him off politely by focusing on her more, if he insist, undermine him more directly, if he confronts you too much and you can't handle the heat, eject amicably, you have already succeeded in causing enough hassle to the slut.
You should play this game instead of pokemon go.
What about if she is with this guy, would you still approach them
I am honestly addressing an issue here, 80% of guys feel the same way as me, normal Somali guys who are not effeminate manchild see a girl with a foreigner, they get pissed ! simpel as that... It is not a rage where you want to fight, but it is a little cringe, you kind of lose your appetite, I can't even take a second sip of my coffee thats how disgusted I am. I am suggesting challenging yourself a little to alleviate this without causing harm to any party involved, be subtle and classy, do what you want really... let it be a creative endeavour but do not sit by and get violated like this.. you have to understand that this foreigner shouldn't feel comfortable to do this openly.. Remember what you see is merely the iceberg, the ones who hide it outnumber the visible ones by a great amount. You can't really do anything about those who are sensible enough to hide their shame.. but the dumb ones shouldn't get away with it.
Because I am not bothered by the exception to the rule, I am bothered by the growing trend .
I would much rather live in a world where each Somali man is spoiled for choice of his own women, than a world where our women hate us and favour foreign men over us, a world where a effeminate farahs run amok and we become countries like Thailand and northern Brazil the two countries where the highest number of prostitutes and ladyboys exist.. Our existence isn't to be servile and accommodating to foreign men. Why shouldn't I care about the welfare of my fellow Somali brother and sister?
Revolutionary wrote:Somali jealousy is real, I've learned it in this forum, sspot, topix, FB and around the net.
You don't see this happening to other ethnicities around the world where they curse and dehumanize women of their ethnic just for marrying outside.
For fuk sake, it's 2016, not the 13th century and this is mostly old generation (grandparent) mentality. There's a reason why Asian-White relationship is becoming so common today, same for African brahs.
Asian men have been thoroughly emasculated. Asians aren't the best example to use wtf.. They're crying online due to the extreme humiliation that they feel. Google it.
Because I am not bothered by the exception to the rule, I am bothered by the growing trend .
I would much rather live in a world where each Somali man is spoiled for choice of his own women, than a world where our women hate us and favour foreign men over us, a world where a effeminate farahs run amok and we become countries like Thailand and northern Brazil the two countries where the highest number of prostitutes and ladyboys exist.. Our existence isn't to be servile and accommodating to foreign men. Why shouldn't I care about the welfare of my fellow Somali brother and sister?
Wtf is wrong with you? You sound very insecure and weak.
Ninyahow stop obsessing about a few dumb chicks. This is why I hate Somalis sometimes, exaggerations, a bunch of melodramatic BS, calaacal etc..
This is not a trend where I live and in most other places with a significant somali minority. Most of you can probably count the number of mixed couples you know on one hand.
Teeda kalena, nobody respects a whiner! You guys really think that people, including "your" women, will respect you for crying on online forums?? Stop making us look insecure ffs and worry about building a legacy and improving yourselves.
This is a public forum. The last thing you want is for people to associate Somalis with whiney dudes who feel inadequate and insecure about their women. Wtf, you guys are turning us into the new Asians/Indians.
If you say something enough times, it becomes "real". Stop making these repetitive BS threads about your insecurity when it comes to women. If I was a woman and saw this type of behavior from men, I would run in the opposite direction. This shit is effeminate af..
I never see successful Somali brothers whining about this. It's usually guys who feel inadequate and emasculated who react that strongly to some random broad dating a cadaan or madow dude. Yes, it might bother you to see this which is natural, most men of any race hate to see men from other races with their women. I believe this is a natural trait since we view other men as competition. And something which most women don't realise is that men will use the fact that they've been with a woman from your group to humiliate you. You see this in real life as well as on the internet. Guys talk about their sexual conquests all the time. The few times that I've dated Arab chicks, my Arab friends were very uneasy about it because they thought that I would throw it in their face. I have a brother who exclusively dates non-Somalis and most of his friends are not Somali, they hate it when he is with one of their women. This is something which Allah has created in us men and which we can't totally get rid of.
But as with everything else, it's about balance. You're not supposed to obsess about the actions of some random chicks. You can dislike what they're doing, but don't obsess over it. And let's not exaggerate the prevalence of this issue. Wallahi it's not as big an issue as you're making it out to be. We love to exaggerate things.
The difference is in how you react on an individual level. Whining, crying, allowing it to effect you emotionally etc is weak. Focus on building yourself up and on overcoming your own weaknesses. It's your own feelings of inadequacy that are causing you to become this obsessed.
Even if you believe that there is an epidemic of women marrying out, we can't attack the women without also asking ourselves why there aren't enough compatible Somali men for those women. We need to look at both sides of the equation.
The real crisis in our community is the large number of unmotivated, unambitious, weak men we've churned out in recent years.
look at it this way, comming from a paternalistic and racist culture,
an offspring of somali woman and non somali man will not be somali...
so why worry about it?
they are leaving their culture and our gene pool..
there exceptions ofcourse.
My cousin is married to a half jamaican man, with a somali mom and jamaican dad.
He is a muslim and has reached out and become obcessed with somali culture,
moved to burco and is more somali than me culturaly and speaks better somali than me.
The children look 100% somali and speak somali at home fluently even while living in the UK.
I have a Somali girl in my apartment who is in a group of African American girls. I think she goes to college nearby. She is always wearing shorts, hair exposed and she is not into Somali. It bugs me inside and I feel sorry for her family but I KEEP My mouth shut.
Sumubaridi wrote:I have a Somali girl in my apartment who is in a group of African American girls. I think she goes to college nearby. She is always wearing shorts, hair exposed and she is not into Somali. It bugs me inside and I feel sorry for her family but I KEEP My mouth shut.
The irony is that no Somali man would even want to wife such a woman yet they want to whine about who she creeps with
I for one couldn't care less about the private life of some Somali thot. I care about the good, wholesome sisters.
The only time that something like this bothers me is when a quality woman with Diin and education marries some ajnabi. It's a loss for our community as we need strong, educated mothers. Usually these types simply marry out out love or because there are no compatible Somali brothers in their local area.
I have a bunch of well-educated, intelligent, beautiful relatives whom I worry for. There are far more good women than good men, it's just the way it is. You can't expect them to hold on for a good somali brother since time is working against them. I wouldn't even be mad if they married out as long as it's not to some bum and they're doing it for the right reason.
i would congratulate the guy and ask him to hook up with even more somali girls. there are plenty of somali chicks running around, some my become lesbos, which is a worse situation.
jamal9 wrote:i would congratulate the guy and ask him to hook up with even more somali girls. there are plenty of somali chicks running around, some my become lesbos, which is a worse situation.
I am suggesting challenging yourself a little to alleviate this without causing harm to any party involved, be subtle and classy, do what you want really... let it be a creative endeavour but do not sit by and get violated like this.. you have to understand that this foreigner shouldn't feel comfortable to do this openly.. Remember what you see is merely the iceberg, the ones who hide it outnumber the visible ones by a great amount. You can't really do anything about those who are sensible enough to hide their shame.. but the dumb ones shouldn't get away with it.
