Being molested by an immediate family member as a child and how I coped

[WorstofLuck]

My advice to you, to get really REALLY over it, there's is only one solution; do some molestation of your own.

Spoken like a true habar gidir

How do u know me

How do I not?

[thehappyone]

How do I not?

I guess my reputation precedes me.

Ignore what I said before, my little brother was using my laptop. We can still be friends?

[Alphamale1]

Who. The. Hell. Cares.

[Nomand]

I am sorry to hear such horrible things happened to you as s child, i hope you can overcome this and live a happy life.

[Prlnce]

Sounds like bunch of bullshit.

[WiredForGood]

I'm in a great space at this point because I have finally realized who I am, who I want to be and what I like.

The key is in your comment to move on and leave behind what held you back before. Perception and perspectives in life matter. Comparing adversities you faced to what others are dealing with is also important. I would suggest that you travel back home or to East Africa somewhere and see how people live with less and overcome adversities of all kinds while they have the brightest smile on their faces. Happiness can be learned.

Check this video of Ugandan Kids enjoying life to the fullest despite the obvious poverty and lack of the amenities you and me enjoy in the west.







From Somalia to Afghanistan, people overcome adversities and are happy because of their understanding of a higher purpose they serve in life. There should be no excuse to not enjoy life because of what happens in life to us.

[WiredForGood]

WorstofLuck


Watch this version too dear, I wish I could dance like these kids. Africa making us proud and showing the rest of the world you can't buy happiness indeed.

Life in it of itself is a gift from God, we should all remember that and live happy as much as we can despite adversities.

[Basra-]

When I was young, I was taken advantage of by a family member near and dear to me. The person was an alcoholic and to this day acts as if he didn't touch me. It messed with me psychologically. I grew to have very low self esteem, be interested in sex at an early age, withdraw from family entirely, abuse alcohol myself and contemplate suicide. Recently after sitting with a professional, without giving up my abusers name I shared my dilemma. She told me that if I had no desire to confront him or seek justice, that the best way is by moving on. I made the decision to forgive this person because of how close they are to me. I think they think I forgot. He has been mean to me my entire life. Almost as if I did something bad to him. I didn't forgive them only because of our closeness. I forgave him cause I wanted inner peace. One thing I learned after talking to a support group about it, is that many somali women were abused by relatives as kids. And its just swept under the rug.

My advice to you, to get really REALLY over it, there's is only one solution; do some molestation of your own.

What????? Spoken like someone who has been molested! Waryaa Is that why u r messed up in the head? How about your son? Whom u brag about here in the forums? Would u like someone to revenge on him? Akhaase!




Wood


I suggest u to CONTINUE to seek therapy. Obviously it will be useless to convince u to confront your abuser since u said he is your brother and that u r very close. But the real question here is, when will your healing begin? That is what I care for, more than semantic and little historical tidbits!

[thehappyone]

When I was young, I was taken advantage of by a family member near and dear to me. The person was an alcoholic and to this day acts as if he didn't touch me. It messed with me psychologically. I grew to have very low self esteem, be interested in sex at an early age, withdraw from family entirely, abuse alcohol myself and contemplate suicide. Recently after sitting with a professional, without giving up my abusers name I shared my dilemma. She told me that if I had no desire to confront him or seek justice, that the best way is by moving on. I made the decision to forgive this person because of how close they are to me. I think they think I forgot. He has been mean to me my entire life. Almost as if I did something bad to him. I didn't forgive them only because of our closeness. I forgave him cause I wanted inner peace. One thing I learned after talking to a support group about it, is that many somali women were abused by relatives as kids. And its just swept under the rug.

My advice to you, to get really REALLY over it, there's is only one solution; do some molestation of your own.

What????? Spoken like someone who has been molested! Waryaa Is that why u r messed up in the head? How about your son? Whom u brag about here in the forums? Would u like someone to revenge on him? Akhaase!




Wood


I suggest u to CONTINUE to seek therapy. Obviously it will be useless to convince u to confront your abuser since u said he is your brother and that u r very close. But the real question here is, when will your healing begin? That is what I care for, more than semantic and little historical tidbits!

Someone on here already said most somalis have been molested, we just don't like to admit it. Worstofluck should be grateful it was a member of the opposite sex.

[Basra-]

thehappy

all molestations are bad. Same sex or opposite. It is the lost of innocence. Unfortunately, the gain of intelligence for the child. Weight the cons and pros

[thehappyone]

thehappy

all molestations are bad. Same sex or opposite. It is the lost of innocence. Unfortunately, the gain of intelligence for the child. Weight the cons and pros

You're uncharacteristically mature on this topic, is there something you want to tell us?

[Basra-]

thehappy

all molestations are bad. Same sex or opposite. It is the lost of innocence. Unfortunately, the gain of intelligence for the child. Weight the cons and pros

You're uncharacteristically mature on this topic, is there something you want to tell us?

uncharacteristically? Will it change if I said I wish I was molested?

[Futurist]

Some Somali families are fucks

Thats why Somalia is a shitstain on the world

[X.Playa]

I don't buy it. Total b.s

[paperino]

I don't buy it. Total b.s

Provide 2-3 reasons of why you think it's b.s.