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A/W,

Thanks Abdi for #6.. I forgot that in the list...Men who listens to other people..specially issues about his household/ his wife The same goes for the girls I agree...

But Abdi iskusoo wada duuboo adiga waxa kuugu daran waa dhaqaale... Alla show bakhaylsanidee

nothing is wrong with helping poor familes....

[quote="AbdiWahab252"]

7. Women who are not financially smart/realistic - These sisters spend money on wasteful things to "keep up" with the Joneses. She has to have the new set of dahab, diiraac & what not even though she can't afford it nor can you.[/quote]

Hmmmm..

Abdi

1. The deen says you have to provide for the household. The woman can work if she wants but her income is all hers and she can do what she wants with it. You on the other hand have to pay the bills including hers.

5. The Somali woman has always been the head of the household which means if you want to stay married you have to keep your wife happy.

6. Women talk, you canÂ’t avoid that.

kambuli:

Sis, I am observing my cousin's mistake. Every other week, he is going to Dhiigshiil to send money to his in laws. Just the other day, his father-in-law married a new wife while still waiting on his children overseas to pay the bill.

EyesOnly:

I understand. My only concern is that if I should die, that she will be able to provide for the kids. I don't want Abdi,jr. to depend on anyone else not even my brother.

I come from a very conservative family where divorce is not allowed. Its marriage to the death.

A/W,

I know what you mean..This phenomenon of people getting married every now and then while they are on the payroll of people abroad is killing every family.. One of our relatives (actually from your Jalaf clan) married the ninth wife since Somalia broke..can you imagine?

kambuli, my goodness, 9th !!!

When i was last in Somalia, I was offered a woman to marry lakiin I smooth talked my way out it.

But, how did u guess I was Jalaf ????

This seems to be the most popular/well known laaf of Sacad here.

A/W,

Honestly I did not mean that you are Jalaf... But just Sacad...

Kambuli, I know

But too often, people marry without looking at the other's families. Nothing is worse than getting annoying, horrible in laws. Its even worse if they come from the same clan.

AW

aren't you a lil too old to be talking about marriage and stuff?.........or are you looking for wifey numero deuce?

Reer jalaf..the most popular sacad here???

I doubt that!

Infact they are pritty much unknown....

Only ever met one family that are reer jalaf directly related to Caydiid....most that i meet happen to be reer nimcaale!

[quote="AbdiWahab252"]Women Men Should Not Marry

1. Women without any work ethic & look forward to you providing for everything in the household. Its fine if you live in a welfare state.

2. Women from focked up families - Yes, if the family is dysfunctional or are the type that are too close & involved in each other's business. The in-laws from hell will get involved in your life. You have basically married into the "Fockers"

3. Women with relations back home - Not only do you have to take your sorry arse to Dahabshiil for your eedo but now u got more mouths to feed. Guess what, you ain't gonna send the same "bill" to your eedo as your in-law. Prepare for a lifetime of raising other people.

4. Women with fathers is still having kids & he lives in Africa - Those bundle of joy are simply little financial vampires who will su.ck the little cashflow you wanted to save for your own.

5. Women with dominant mothers - Her mother is dominant over her father & guess who will be dominated, YOU. The mother will teach her little Cambaro how to keep a man in check.

6. Women who depend on the advice of others - Wlc to a lifetime of airing your personal laundry on the Somali version of "The View" Over the telephone, your life will be discussed by a panel of her friends and pray to Allah that there is at least 1 who thinks you are okay.

7. Women who are not financially smart/realistic - These sisters spend money on wasteful things to "keep up" with the Joneses. She has to have the new set of dahab, diiraac & what not even though she can't afford it nor can you.[/quote]

Have you got hurt before? Intaas oo naago miyaa jac kulul kugu dhajiye? Oh AW, you'll be aight.

[quote]3. Women with relations back home - Not only do you have to take your sorry arse to Dahabshiil for your eedo but now u got more mouths to feed. Guess what, you ain't gonna send the same "bill" to your eedo as your in-law. Prepare for a lifetime of raising other people.[/quote]

Damn too many people I know are in this situation.

Abdi, you will be the sort of guy who will be henpecked by his wife.

SegsiK, with you by my side, i know i will

Xoogsade: Wife No. 2...... That is for my 40s.

Ugaas Diini: All the more reason to avoid being Dhiigshiil's no. 1 customer. U know something is wrong when the Dhiigshiil clerk already has your account information set up b4 u get to the counter.

ABSAME: Saxiib, why are u cursing me ?

Kambuli: So which of my list do u fit in ?

To the POSTER!...AbdiWahab...how can you come up with a list that doesn't even pertain to you?? I guess in your moment of desperation you thought YOu'd be fortunate enough as to marry a SOmali sistah.....ah! the sheer tragedy!



Now, its your fine duty as a man of lower class to stick to what your used to...no need to venture out.