Kamal..........

[1_londoner]

So you dont mind a total stranger knowing all your business? Even though these strangers know you as 'just another girl' an probably dont lose sleep over your issues? And yet you want their unbiased opinion on your problems?

You want someone to talk to, I get that. But check out this 11 page topic walal....nearly every single person is telling you the same thing. The bloke is not worth it, ilaahey u ducay iyo deenta ha ka fogaanin....where else is there left to talk about?

[Complicated19]

So you dont mind a total stranger knowing all your business? Even though these strangers know you as 'just another girl' an probably dont lose sleep over your issues? And yet you want their unbiased opinion on your problems?

You want someone to talk to, I get that. But check out this 11 page topic walal....nearly every single person is telling you the same thing. The bloke is not worth it, ilaahey u ducay iyo deenta ha ka fogaanin....where else is there left to talk about?

Nothing.

[gemini_snake]

ka darag,

yes, she was around your age ( she was 17 at the time). anyway, it's unrealistic to think you will ever forget about someone who was once an important part of your life so no she has not forgotten about him, but the constant thoughts she used to have about him are gone. she told me she thinks about him maybe once every couple of months and it's only a passing thought. when she got the help that she needed, she finally let go of the emotional attachment that she had to him. a few months after she got married, we ran into him at the cinema and i thought she would break down seeing him with a bunch of girls but walaahi she surprised me when she said that she doesn't even know what she ever saw in him. he has tried to contact her many times since then but she has moved on and is happier than she has ever been.

like i said her situation was similar to yours. as much as you might hate seeing a therapist, that is the first step towards healing and you have to suck it up and do it. your only other option is to continue living and feeling like you are now.

Okay, ill try see a therapist...how old is she now?

she is 21. anyway, i hope you go through with it and see a therapist because they will help you deal with the constant uncontrollable thoughts of him and once those are gone, your attachment will start to fade as well. good luck with everything.

[Complicated19]

and Kamal, I dont think ur scum..I said it in the heat of the moment. Sorry. If I did, I wouldn't be wasting my time with you.


Anyways goodnight from Somaliland ppl


Ilahi khair ha na siiyo since most of you lot contributed positively to this thread


TC.

[SummerRain]

You need a Mother and a Father...I hope its not too late.

[Complicated19]

Mods, don't u think it's a good idea to delete this now? Nabs, please delete it.

[shidow1]

[soomaahan]

Mods, don't u think it's a good idea to delete this now? Nabs, please delete it.

Why delete

[Faranacab]

Mods, don't u think it's a good idea to delete this now? Nabs, please delete it.

Before it gets deleted, let me share this with you.......

The ABC “s of Life....

Aspire to reach your potential.
Believe in yourself .
Create a good life
Dream about what you might become .
Exercise frequently .
Forgive honest mistakes.
Glorify the creative spirit .
Humor yourself and others .
Imagine great things.
Joyfully live each day .
Kindly help others .
Love one another.
Meditate daily..
Nurture the environment ..
Organize for harmonious action .
Praise performance well done .
Question most things .
Regulate your own behavior .
Smile often.
Think rationally .
Understand your self.
Value life .
Work for the common good .
X-ray and carefully examine problems .
Yearn to improve.
Zestfully pursue happiness ..

[Voltage]

Can you share with us what is so special about this lad...'coz he sounds like a bit of a plonker to me.

I can't put my finger on it , but he's just really different to other guys.. I won't go into too much detail cos I'm sure he doesn't want the whole of snet to know his business but yeh .. I confided in him about about a lot of things then that kinda made me attached.. I usually dont confide in ppl too much...I mean if i do, its usually the wrong person..but I didn't feel like he was the wrong person.. But he literally knows everything about me ..It got to the point where it was really starting to affect my life. I would literally do anything he told me .. I stopped thinking straight and suddenly , he was everything. I swear there isn't a day where i haven't thought about him since i met him/started talking to him.. That's how bad it is.

You have established a bond that made you beholden to him. He is not special, he might even be a freak of nature but the bond that bond that you established led you to be manipulated by his psychological and emotional control. You are too young and I knew after you kept repeating "he is different", "no one can replace him"...that the problem wasn't your feelings to him as much as his control and manipulation of your young sensibilities whether you understand it or not and by the looks of it, you do not.

A positive thing about this is once you pass this moment, you will be a much more stronger and mature girl who will not be as wide-eyed as you are now. This may very well be a hurdle put into your path to make you the person you need to be tomorrow.

p.s. Just on this forum, that person occupies the lowest opinions I have of anyone here. I could be crude in describing what I think of that person on this forum but I will choose not to. Hopefully now you realize from the universal opinions everyone has of that individual on this forum, the fact he was the first person you told your inner problems, was also the person to expose your inner problems on this forum making you leave for a long time, as well as the fact even you realized you never were suicidal or this depressed before him...all add up to a single problem; Him.

[Somalian_Boqor]

27 year old fucker taking advantage of an innocent 19 year old Somali sister! Wallahi some people have no shame.

[djibsomali]

27 years old man and a 19 years old girl (waa iskuu daah)
19 years old girl is equivalent of up to 30 years old male

above 24 years old lady equivalent to up to 40 years old male

above 30 years old cajussa equivalent (well i don't know; but it is hopelessness)

[Complicated19]

Somalian B, hold ur horses. U don't know the full story. It's not good to make a judgement based on one side of the story. Can someone please delete this topic? It's just going on and on and on.

[Hyperactive]

Somalian B, hold ur horses. U don't know the full story. It's not good to make a judgement based on one side of the story. Can someone please delete this topic? It's just going on and on and on.

see what you've done to that young man sister? every one coursing him and throwing guesses here and there!! i even stepped in last night and told to not expose the wrong person cause for some weird reasons , every one has one name in their mind. Wallah that guy they think of is an innocent. he may hated by others for his tribal opinions but this is haraam.

you keep telling people : you dont know the whole story!! then why you letting them/giving them half of the story or less and making them keep guess of innocent person?

this is what happens when you just hear one side of the story. ka darag you may a victim here but not by kamaal, you had problems before him and you will have it long after him if you dont get serious professional help .

you lost nothing and you're young, get with your life , leave him alone.

[Complicated19]

Ahhh please I beg u shut up and delete this f-king topic instead of chatting shit... I didnt mean it to turn out like this. Like I said, I just wanted him to see this ... That's all... Arent u a moderator?? Again u r way out of ur depth and I have asked this dumb topic to be deleted a million times but noone is listening ..wat the fuk can I do? He's an innocent??? Loooool walahi ur funny... And u came to that conclusion from way I've said??? Like I said, there's a lot u don't know about.... Walahi I'm not in the mood for ur shit... I regret making this thread walahi... Just delete it will u?