Alphanumeric wrote:
GeoDesic,
I accept the premise that we are attracted to physical presentation foremost, whether consciously or sub-. What I wanted to touch on is the stencil we carry in our minds, of what beauty is meant to be. That stencil is more often than not a mold of our upbringing. We don't decide what is beautiful; beauty is predefined. With that in mind, do we hold out this stencil with everyone we encounter, allowing them to pass if they match it? A cynical understanding, but that is how I see it. But as a I said, people change over time. The body is most often the first to change.
I know what would make me fall head-over-heels for her; eyes that say more about her than she could, a smile that would brighten any dark day, a gentle laugh and a soothing voice, sharp mind and a soft tongue, a caring heart and open hands, loyalty and firmness on principles; these traits all in one woman, and I would scorch the seas to get her attention, if need be. Firsts are physical, but personality seals the deal.
What I intended by my posts was to nurturing the traits you find exceptional in your other half. Encouraging each other is what is important, not relying on a stencil that is handed to you. People change over time. Holding out a stencil and demanding they fit into it may not be as fruitful as sincere and polite encouragement. Of course, it must go both ways.
Your ideal woman is hard to come by brother and I am a bit late with the reply. . I am sure you will settle for one who has two or three of the character/attribute choices in your list
There is a trade off always where you give up something for something else and all works out as good as without a compromise. I recall telling a female relative once that she would be hired after her interview(she was planning for a job interview at the time). My justification was her looks. And she got the job. Human beings are shallow mostly when it comes to looks and I can't blame them. I am one of them at times.
