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You did the right thing by not going to her house. A man and woman should not be alone together. The Prophet (peace be upon him) forbade men and women from being alone together. He said: "Never is a man alone with a woman except that Satan is the third party with them."

Perfect girl: Cooks good food, is ready to get down when im in da mood, doesn't talk so much. Very simple.

sorry to break the news to you, but there is no prefect girl. Just because men can never be satisfied. when someone is quite ans nice, they say she is boring and doqon. they are always on the look-out.

perfect girl : one who hasnt been plowed through by every tyrone and jermaine in the city, this is getting harder by the day

This reminded me of a women who once told me that a guy we both knew did shukaansi with her. Then I was surprised, because the lady was married and he was married. I really get upset and disappointed with the guy as it was a very insulting gesture. Then in anger situation I asked what did he exactly said to her? She said:
I went to his office and he said " Sit down and have some tea"

That women was really sick in the head I thought..and I still think she had some dirty things in her mind from the very beginning...since when sit down and have a cup of tea became shukaansi...?

Now to this young guy:

If the girl invited you to lunch it does not mean that she is a whore...She may have good intentions..She maybe a girl who just wanted to marry a Somali guy...What you should have done is to study her and watch her carefully what she is capable and not capable of...in conclusion meel cidla ah ayaad ka diddey, gabadhana waad u geftey...

Gabadha Xaal u gee dee

Aqalkeeda ha tagin, kaagana ha geyn.

we do not live in an ideal world where we have aour familes sorrounded by us. many of us live alone and we need to meet someone to marry. halkaad geyn? ma dariiqaad la istaagi? ma telephonkaad kula hadli which is the samething?

aniga I resufe to talk a man on the phone. I did it a lot but I trust my instint and invite in for men very very occosionally.

I refused to invite in men who everyone else thought were ''saint'' but I knew they were not. It turns out when I refuse them to come to my place they explode with anger and sometimes stalk me.

daiman wrote:we do not live in an ideal world where we have aour familes sorrounded by us. many of us live alone and we need to meet someone to marry. halkaad geyn? ma dariiqaad la istaagi? ma telephonkaad kula hadli which is the samething?

aniga I resufe to talk a man on the phone. I did it a lot but I trust my instint and invite in for men very very occosionally.

I refused to invite in men who everyone else thought were ''saint'' but I knew they were not. It turns out when I refuse them to come to my place they explode with anger and sometimes stalk me.

adigaa what kind of men do you attract with stalkers and old men obsessing over you, i think you may be cursed

Protaganist:

That is a reallly a good question. I think I am an easy target or too nice. wallahi everything I say here is the thruth.

I sometimes think that SOME men get wrong ideas of me and i put up with their crap for too long.

The guy is looking for a wife not a girlfriend, he did the right thing.....she probably wouldve ended up serving him a glass of wine to wash down the bariis, that's not wifey material

Advo wrote:The guy is looking for a wife not a girlfriend, he did the right thing.....she probably wouldve ended up serving him a glass of wine to wash down the bariis, that's not wifey material

This is joke?

so the woman invited him for qado, why would he assume she is a bad person?

let me tell you this. I invited a brother to my home a month ago. I used to see him around a lot then in the mosque. He said that he wants to see my house so he can visit me sometimes. One day I saw him in the street and invited him to come and told him that I would cook. He was very happy. we ate separetly( me in the ktchen, him in the sitting room). he stayed with me for a bit then took his jacket and left. He says hello to me and feels that he would like to ask me more.

are you better than this guy?

I had others guys that I stopped at the door because I knew their intentions were not honorable.

You guys have no idea about women.

Advo wrote:The guy is looking for a wife not a girlfriend, he did the right thing.....she probably wouldve ended up serving him a glass of wine to wash down the bariis, that's not wifey material

thumps up, honestly speaking its not about religion as it sounds, its about trust. How can a girl let in a guy she doesn't know enough? as you can see daiman has to disagree cuz she isn't perfect, its happening throughout the girls.

sahal80 wrote:

Advo wrote:The guy is looking for a wife not a girlfriend, he did the right thing.....she probably wouldve ended up serving him a glass of wine to wash down the bariis, that's not wifey material

thumps up, honestly speaking its not about religion as it sounds, its about trust. How can a girl let in a guy she doesn't know enough? as you can see daiman has to disagree cuz she isn't perfect, its happening throughout the girls.

Noone is perfect, sahal. But if you mean that I am a bad woman...naag xun...sorry to disappoint you because I am not.

you guys like the shuko style type of women. ehh...maallintii shuko habeenkii jeans. if that is what you want there are plent of them out there. walee waad war la'dahey.

lol @daiman, not just taking guys from streets to her place she has turned out saafirad as well. Fck off then your advices.

I did not take him from the street. he was not homeless, I used to see him places like in my local supermarket, the streets etc for years. when we finally spoke he told me that he knew my family back home and i asked my mother about his.

But there were a couple of men that I met in the street, they took my number. one of them got in touch. we met and he proposed to me. he then told me that he wants me to stay at home and not work etc. He was doing his degree and working part-time and teaching quraan.

but there are also others who I never let them in. even if they are dying in front o f it.

call me naive about inviting some men in, but defiently not naag xun.

adiga waxa ku dilil doona maseyr.

What is saafirad?