The 50/50 Generation.

[Lillaahiya]

It works both ways though. A lot of women want a man who does this and that, makes x amount etc yet they themselves fail to play their role.
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And a lot of men don't want a woman making as much as him or more. Life's a trip.

[BlackVelvet]

Lmao Jasmine u were with me until the "serve part".

Adali u are a good man.

Yes and I was thinking this was a really promising relationship topic then you lost me


There's nothing wrong with wanting that kind of relationship it just bothers me when someone says that that is the relationship all people should have.

[Expresso]

Seems they haven't grown up or were raised believing in the western pop-culture. Basically, brain's half-cooked.

Acudubillah

[Sophisticate]

I agree with Julkimi, my parents were the same. That type of Somali man is a dying breed, especially among these generation Y types, still pestered by their hooyo to bathe. These dependents are looking for a replacement mother. I'm sorry but we cannot fulfill that role.

This is why broke men that are self-pitying need not approach.

[eliteSomali]

Haven't seen PO in this thread. wtf is going on?

[grandpakhalif]

as if u halimos are the same as our mothers, it's rare to find those also.

[Khalid Ali]

So u want a waliyul Amr, in marriage there is consultation but there is also the man in the house Woman have their say , but the man has the final decision. Thats how it always was that does not make woman inferior they have other roles , there is nothing wrong with a woman. Though it some times good that a woman resists and rejects your way of doing things.. You just have to find a clique that works for you...

ps when a girl is extremely beautiful she does not need to have allot of brains

[Sophisticate]

@GranpaKhalif shall we spoon feed you as well? I think that should be designated to the mother hen.

@KhalidAli I always knew you preferred sambusa with no filling - you're superficial.

[Adali]

Lmao Jasmine u were with me until the "serve part".

Adali u are a good man.

btw, welcome to Snet.

[AgentOfChaos]

Wtf is this cosmopolitan bullshit? First it was BV now we gotta deal with this ?

[Bella18]

Fair enough Islam has set out the duties of husband and wife, some of these duties can be shared by both parties.
A brother would only question what you can bring to the table when the demand list is up the roof and you know your time is ticking.
Don't get me wrong, I am not saying put your standards down but women in general should be more understanding.

Marriage is not a one way road, there is teamwork involved

[zulaika]

Marriage has always been 50/50, even in the traditional sense, the man does his part and the woman does hers...it's just that folks now a days don't often give the intent of marriage an honest go.

[Jabuutawi]

Aaah, nothing like a relationship advice from SNET members. Last place I would look for relationship (and love) is SNET. Nothing personal.

[Sophisticate]

Jabuutawi Are we that bad? You haven't a clue about our side jobs, don't be quick to judge. Most people here are self-designated relationship experts *badges of honour*.

[EvolSyawla]

lol....

Yes @ Jasmine. I don't sit well with 'serving'. Some women are just better built for servitude? I don't know.

You're right Bonita, we all should know our roles, but that is subjective. What have me and my man agreed to? What is he expected to do and myself, expected to do within the relationship? I know this would not be the same for every couple.

Hell no, My role is not to serve, neither is it his to be the sole breadwinner (even though he insists lol). If you want to be a housewife, then those roles can be clearly defined and expected, and as such, fulfilled.

You are in the dating process. Some guys will come at you left field with their nonsense (he said what?? You should have thrown an olive in his eye - some men do not know what tact and respect are), and maybe 1 or 2 will have ambitions that align with who you are as a woman, whatever type of woman that is.