Why do girls get marry at tender age???

[BLUE RUSH]

WHEN YOUR 16 YOU THINK MARRIAGE IS ALL QOSOL QOSOL.

***kids don't really understand how hard it is and how you have to work at it constantly.
all i hear girls say '' if he treats me bad, i'll show him the door''

**obviouly its not as easy as that

**i could off got married to this gay when i was 15, i used think marriage was something it wasn't my mom didn't want me to but she said i said no

** my 19yr old cousin married 2 months ago to a girl that was 16
it was do horrible to watch the boy looked like his balls hadn't dropped the girl didn't look like she reached puperty yet.

** two babes getting marriege it was painfull to watch

** but i heard in islam that that when then kids reach a certain age its good to get married.

[Dhaga Bacayl]

15? Are you guys kidding? Where, in Africa?

[Criminaldiva]

man get out of their business. if they wanna get married, thats up to them dammit. f'ocking flower blockers!

[Lord Diplock]

Islamically you can marry if you reach the age of 'maturity' (16 yrs) and in most western countries, it is a criminal offense to have a girl or a lad married before he/she attain the age the law proscribs for marriage.

It is biologically advisable to get girls married at relatively young age. congenital diseases among babies would be reduced if the mothers were of young age.

Explosive's comment is an insult to many decent somali women. DD, his comment should be ignored as well.

I say marry at younger age, but before you get married, make sure your consent was not procured by duress or undue influence by those who look after your interest.

[SoMaLiSiZz]

Bissmellah


Who are we kidding? You know you start to plan your own wedding at the age of 5 so how about at age of 15? I know this 14 year old bissmellahi Masha*Allah she has more brain cells then the westernized Somali sisters.. Wallahi I am not even joking she has full jilbab she lives in the west in fact she was born there she dose go to school she dose not mingle with boys she dose not take gym class with them either the school board thinks she is an extremist because of that and because she never misses the prayer even in school she has this room in school where upon she prays ===> might I add this is my big sisters kid and I am already on search for a suitable husband for her! She has modesty, she knows who to make great dinners, knows how clean, and she always honours her parents! wallahi this is for real ! She studies Quran at leats 5 times a week... She had hijab way before she reaches puberty! she has many young brothers and sisters and they look up to her!

I am telling you if I find a young brother at her age or not older then 23 you better believe I will marry her off if she accepts it!

It is a shame women doesn’t get it when you hit puberty you are legal to get married to and you can consume the marriage if you want! The girl has to agree to the marriage!

Again it depends on how the mentality are of some girls wallahi you will see 25 years old thinking oh I am just a kid ! And you can find 13 years old who has brains like 30 years old the parents role is huge in this matter... Go to Somalia and you will see 18 years old fully happy with 2 kids in the west the call it abuse come one this is from sunnah ..


I am sure many of our mothers got married at age 15-16 I know mine has!


What is amazing is you people are not shocked that kaafir children are sexually active at very young age many parents do you think they had by the time the reach 15-17???

Now if they can be sexually active at that age is it not better for them to get married?

[Lord Diplock]

[quote="SoMaLiSiZz"]Bissmellah


Who are we kidding? You know you start to plan your own wedding at the age of 5 so who about 15? I know this 14 year old bissmellahi Masha*Allah she has more brain cells then the westernized Somali sisters.. Wallahi I am not even joking she has full jilbab she lives in the west in fact she was born there she dose go to school she dose not mingle with boys she dose not take gym class with them either the school board thinks she is an extremist because of that and because she never misses the prayer she even have this room in school where upon she prays ===> might I add this is my big sisters kid and I am already on searching a suitable husband for her! She has modesty, she knows who to make great dinners, knows how clean, and she always honours her parents! She studies Quran at leats 5 times a week... She had hijab way before she reaches puberty!

I am telling you if I find a young brother at her age or not older then 23 you better believe I will marry her off if she accepts it!

It is a shame women doesn’t get it when you hit puberty you are legal to get married to and you can consume the marriage if you want! The girl has to agree to the marriage!

Again it depends on how the mentality are of some girls wallahi you will see 25 years old thinking oh I am just a kid ! And you can find 13 years old who has brains like 30 years old the parents role is huge in this matter... Go to Somalia and you will see 18 years old fully happy with 2 kids in the west the call it abuse come one this is from sunnah ..


I am sure many of our mothers got married at age 15-16 ![/quote]

Lets hope u find her a suitable husband. Great story sister.

[The_Don_of_djibouti]

May allah increase somali woman of those standard...

Amin

[LaDy-Qac]

Somali SiZz,

First of all. I'm really proud of your niece masha allah. Girls like her are definately on the increase it' s just that we somalis tend to focus on the negative aspects of our communities and fail to recognize that there are indeed some wonderful girls and boys out there who fear allah(SWT).
However, most of us don' t plan or think about marriage at the age of 5. I definately didn't. I was playing with dolls back then as most girls were.
I find the age of 14 or 15 way too young for marriage and it' s not a desireable thing for most people. It' s too much of a responsiblity and it' s doesn' t require the ability to cook and clean alone. There is so much more to a marrige than that. And what about education?. Isn' t that one of the various reasons why our parents brought us here in the west?.

--"I am already on searching a suitable husband for her! I am telling you if I find a young brother at her age or not older then 23 you better believe I will marry her"--

sis this is not in our culture. It' s incredibly unlady-like to actively seek a husband as a women. That' s the man' s duty to do. I have seen a girl do it and really she has a very bad reputation now. Your niece sounds like a incredible girl so she wouldn' t have any problems finding a husband. A girl like her ragu wey isku dagalii donaan

[young@muslim]

Lets not forget our prophet pbhu adviced us to get married young! If you can do so, less dembi isn`t it! Allah swt knows best

[SoMaLiSiZz]

My sister LaDy-Qac in islam women can aslo help another women to get marriad! there is nothing in islam haram about that as longs it is in done in the correct way insha*Allah..

like I said the sisters has to be up for guurka..


Fe Amn Ellah

[COOL-MAN]

What about all those gals who have been around the block too many atime and now have come back to their senses and are wearing the xijab ? i wonder what happens to these gals and who looks after their affair? from what i have seen, they aren't lucky to get married quickly how ever ready they are. i kno this gal in my neighbourhood who used to go out with her freinds when she was about 14 and 15. she started smoking cigarretes and all the shit young gals in the west do. Her worried mum shipped her ass to syria where she learnt the qur'an off-heart in three years and came back fully covered with xijaab. she now teaches the local kids qur'an. everything is going well for her maashallah but she is facing minor struggle. her past is haunting the poor gal i live in a close knit somali community where every body knows each other and this is proving an obstacle to her chances of finding a decent man!. everybody knows her as the former hoe turned sheeqad. she is only 19

this is why i think gals should either marry at a young age or guard there modesty/reputation untill time is ripe for them to settle down!

[SoMaLiSiZz]

Bissmellah

Brother Cool Man;

you know what you are doing is gheebah [xan] and that is xaraam in islam. even if we dont know her you know her you see and you are calling her ex .. .. ..

how many do you know that has made towbah and teaches the Quran men or women ?

Allah has indeed forgiven people with worse sins, this sister has made towbah and she is teaching quran Masha*Allah ! dont call someone Allah loves ex anything do you know how I know Allah loves her ?

In the Quran, Allah tells us: «"Surely Allah loves those who turn unto Him in repentence and loves those who purify themselves."» [Qur'an, Chapter 2: Verse 222]

beucase Allah has promissed me and you and eveyone who repentce his love what is greater then that `?

«"And turn you all together in repentence to Allah O Believers, that you may be successful." »[Qur'an,

«"Surely Allah loves those who turn unto Him in repentence and loves those who purify themselves."» [Qur'an, Chapter 2: Verse 222]

In an authentic hadith (saying of the Prophet) he said: “"Allah is more delighted with the repentance of His servant than one of you would be, who suddenly finds his camel laden with supplies after losing it in a barren land"”

The Prophet PBUH said: “"If you did not commit sins, Allah would sweep you out of existence and replace you by another people who would commit sins, ask for Allah's forgiveness and He would forgive them."”

because then we would fall in much worse thing which is pride and we would think too much of our selves and that would lead us to hell fire ?? maad garaty walaal ? This hadeeth ofcourse is not tell us to sin rather that we are human and we do this sometimes and we have to repent and fear Allah!

look at what Allah call the ùs humans when we sins, Allah dosent call them Any ugly names but rather my Cibaadi..

"Say: O Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful" (Quran 39:53)

the Prophet PBUH said:
“ "O people! Turn to Allaah in repentance and seek His forgiveness, for surely I make repentance a hundred times every day." ”

Barak Allahuma feekom

fe Aman Ellah

[Unclebin]

Somalisiz

he's just telling the truth. He's not naming names, he's probably not known by anybody on S'net and he's definetly not embarrasing her. he's just providing anecdotal evidence of what happens to a female who changes but has a haunting past. It's hopefully getting to a couple of the younger females and males who are tempted by the pleasures of the western world. IF anthing the brother is benefitting all of us without technically doing xan.

Wouldn't Xan in tell him physically naming names and physically describing her locations etc ?

[Nuruddin]

[quote="Dhaga Bacayl"]15? Are you guys kidding? Where, in Africa?[/quote]

This shouldn't come as surprise to you, Back in Somali I remember girls who were just 15 or perhaps less get married, To guys half there age.

[Unclebin]

^ you mean double there age not half

Anyhow both my grandma's were like 14-15ish when they got married. Its normal in somalia.