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AbdiWahab252 wrote:Sophisticate,

Somali culture is obsessed with forcing folks into prison called matrimony. The pressure is on for the Xalimos from the minute they finish high schools. The Faraxs get the squeeze later on. Then after you get married, the damn community wants you to have a child 1 year after the marriage not recognizing the need to hedge your bets before breeding with the wrong person. It doesn't even stop after the 1st child, they want you to produce a litter without any regard to how you will provide for them.

Quoted for truth

MissFiora wrote:married twice in 8 years, u shoulda kept that bit to yourself if you are tryin to encourage us to get married.

This. Waanba yaabay at the enthusiastic way he's sharing such info it as if it is the most normal thing in the world.

I just finished watching this show and there was a cadaan old couple who have been married for 50+ years. Now that's admirable and a great advert for marriage

Enlightened sister,

The difference between me and yours is, you think real life in what is played on the movies while i live the real life. ruwaayad iyo realities kala dheeraa!!!

Coolman

You da man.

Xalimos don't get that a man can be loyal to more than one wife.

We might 'love' a wife but Junior always desires fresh meat, especially nubile firm Hiilib.

It takes me ages to get along with girl

im addicted to attraction and keep this going on between us

Some times it would cause problems when theres attraction between me and other two girls and then all of us meet in the same place

just few days ago, I met two of them in the same place so I decided to keep quiet until one of them...I nodded my head you ok without smile and she seemed surprised......then few minutes later i was about to go out and the other one was at the door and we said hi to eachother, smiling....the first one has figured out what was wrong with me since then but this one hasnt seen us together when i was entering

Midaa gobatey!

sahal80 wrote:It takes me ages to get along with girl

im addicted to attraction and keep this going on between us

Some times it would cause problems when theres attraction between me and other two girls and then all of us meet in the same place

just few days ago, I met two of them in the same place so I decided to keep quiet until one of them...I nodded my head you ok without smile and she seemed surprised......then few minutes later i was about to go out and the other one was at the door and we said hi to eachother, smiling....the first one has figured out what was wrong with me since then but this one hasnt seen us together when i was entering

Midaa gobatey!

Wallahi I'm not trying to be rude. But I didn't understand anything you just wrote. Correct me if I am wrong, are you seeing two women at the same time? They were in the same place and you nodded to one of them but the one you liked didn't notice, so you're stuck with liking one and the other one Likes you but you're not attracted to her?

Idman702 wrote:

sahal80 wrote:It takes me ages to get along with girl

im addicted to attraction and keep this going on between us

Some times it would cause problems when theres attraction between me and other two girls and then all of us meet in the same place

just few days ago, I met two of them in the same place so I decided to keep quiet until one of them...I nodded my head you ok without smile and she seemed surprised......then few minutes later i was about to go out and the other one was at the door and we said hi to eachother, smiling....the first one has figured out what was wrong with me since then but this one hasnt seen us together when i was entering

Midaa gobatey!

Wallahi I'm not trying to be rude. But I didn't understand anything you just wrote. Correct me if I am wrong, are you seeing two women at the same time? They were in the same place and you nodded to one of them but the one you liked didn't notice, so you're stuck with liking one and the other one Likes you but you're not attracted to her?

no
Firstly im not womanizer, its all about attraction-icjaab-

So it happens to be attracted to and by many girls without any serious relationship

was supposed my feelings to be true but some times it gets awkward when two of them are around you

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sahal, idman is right. wallah wahba kama fahmin. i read earliar and i just didnt want bother you and ask.

bal somali ko sheeg. my english also bad.

^^ Walahi I can't take this

COOL-MAN,

How important is the potentiel wive's mother-in-law? If she is known to be a difficult person to deal with, would you advise bailing out before committing or taking a more pragmatic approach (e.g. moving the girl to the other side of the city in order to limit her mother's visits/interactions)?

A Rageedi never asks for a girl's phone number. That is for desperate loser beta males.

If you don't get girls coming up to you (that's your fault) print yourself business cards - hand it over with confidence. Get your shit together.

http://www.vistaprint.com/category/business-cards.aspx


Phones are for logistics not for chit chatting, plus they overheat.

Cool-Man,

Marriage gets easier with experience. The first is the 'starter' marriage. You get to know how the whole thing works: what you like, dislike, tolerate and not tolerate. The 2nd is the practicum. 3rd is perfection. 4th is just for company. 5th and beyond is just zina prevention.

GedoGurl,

Romance is highly overrated. In marriage, it is about necessity. You have to see it in your interest to tolerate your partner's b.s. and vice versa.

Colonel wrote:COOL-MAN,

How important is the potentiel wive's mother-in-law? If she is known to be a difficult person to deal with, would you advise bailing out before committing or taking a more pragmatic approach (e.g. moving the girl to the other side of the city in order to limit her mother's visits/interactions)?

Bro somalidii hore used to say gabar waa hooyadeed. If the mother inlaw is a trouble maker then the Gal is likely to be one too.

Alhamdulillah I have been blessed with a good mother inlaw. She rarely ventures into my home business. the only times she comes waa markey inanteeda dhaleyso. Other than that its a no no place for her to get involved and that's our custom The gal's family tend to stay clear off their daughter's house while the family of the boy see their son's house as an extension to his original home.

This question is best posed to those who married to a troublesome mother inlaw or gals since they bear the brunt of mother inlaw troubles a lot of the times. My first wife's mother inlaw died before she came of age.

In other words, I have nearly zero experience On mother inlaw issues. 252 help?

Abdiwahab,
You couldn't be more right

You said it well

COOL-MAN wrote:Enlightened sister,

The difference between me and yours is, you think real life in what is played on the movies while i live the real life. ruwaayad iyo realities kala dheeraa!!!

cool man cherine cawa jac bad ku dhigtay awal iyada dadka jac ku dhigi jirtaye lol ... Duqa hablahan Sidooda hore ayay guurka bac uga qaadasanyihiin marka hadii ay maqlaan ba divorce Bac kale ayaa ku si xiranta

chelseaforever wrote:

COOL-MAN wrote:Enlightened sister,

The difference between me and yours is, you think real life in what is played on the movies while i live the real life. ruwaayad iyo realities kala dheeraa!!!

cool man cherine cawa jac bad ku dhigtay awal iyada dadka jac ku dhigi jirtaye lol ... Duqa hablahan Sidooda hore ayay guurka bac uga qaadasanyihiin marka hadii ay maqlaan ba divorce Bac kale ayaa ku si xiranta

Chelsea, Wallahi waa runtaa. The problem with this line of thinking is, women tend to bombard the man with "hada warqadeydaa isii!" every time they don't have their way. If you plead with her Naa walaley sheydaanka iska Naar, she goes "iskama naariye isii warqadeyda imikadan!"but the moment a man mentions the word divorce all hell breaks loose

Waa wax la yaab leh!