Marrying from another qabiil.

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i prefer not to marry outside my qabiil
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30%
i dont care about qabiil but i would like to marry within my region/country
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31%
i dont really care as long as he/she is a somali muslim
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30%
i dont care about qabiil, region/country or religion.
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10%
 
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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Tuushi wrote:
CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC wrote:
Tuushi wrote:Hardcore.
i thought it doesnt matter to you since you dnt wanna have .... :lol:

:lol: Which part of hardcore made you get this?
get what? u said it before lol.
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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My wife will be from my clan and Alxmdllah... my clan is huge and too laandheer so there is no risk of incest iyo balayo. the earliest common ancestors with my sub sub sub clan would be probably be from more than 500 years ago atleast.

I wouldn't mind any Somali from whatever clan though.

@whoever's badmouthing Abgaal. There is a large population of Abgaal here and wlhi their women are far from ugly. they have this authentic Somali look that can be just.... wow.
I have this Abgaal neighbor :wow:
if I'd ever marry outside my clan It's 100% with an Abgaal girl.
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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Skippa wrote:We keeps it in the fam, kissing cousins and all :up:
nothing wrong with kissing cousins lol. horta are you married right now bro?
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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Cigaal. What does me saying hardcore to people sticking with the qabiil and subclan have to do with anything i said in another thread abt myself? :P
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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Tuushi wrote:Cigaal. What does me saying hardcore to people sticking with the qabiil and subclan have to do with anything i said in another thread abt myself? :P
sorry i misunderstood, i thought u meant i am a hardcore qabiilayste when it comes to marriage :lol:
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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I stopped caring about what qabiil I marry from, but all the cute shortys I've come across lately have been tolka :notsure:
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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I am very far from that alhamdulilah... or too lazy. :lol:
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC wrote:
Skippa wrote:We keeps it in the fam, kissing cousins and all :up:
nothing wrong with kissing cousins lol. horta are you married right now bro?
Alxamdulilaah :up:
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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Skippa wrote:
CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC wrote:
Skippa wrote:We keeps it in the fam, kissing cousins and all :up:
nothing wrong with kissing cousins lol. horta are you married right now bro?
Alxamdulilaah :up:
Ilaahay ha isku kiin daayo :up:
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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It's very interesting to see our generation trying to grapple with identities that don't matter all that much as the diaspora.

Looking at my Qabil, I have seen some of the best marriages and worst marriages. And the smallest of factors was Qabil. It really depends on the person you are marrying and the type of family they are coming from.

I love how someone asked what if you want to take your kids back home etc. As if raising a family back home is something anyone of us think about. :lol:

Looking at my family I have Darood, Hawiye, Isaaq and Dir littered all over the place. If anybody thinks my qabil is so great that my spouse or children have to be that they are delusional. If I could I would have half my kids take my tribe and the other half their moms. . . jk. :lol:
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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VeiledGarbasar wrote:
CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC wrote:
VeiledGarbasar wrote:Generally soomalida don't like ilmo-aayo getting married - so basically the children of two sisters.
you mean habar wadaag? ilmo aayo isnt your brother/sister, aayo means step mother

Aayo we call mothers sister. Step mother we call Eedo. But yeah habar wadaag I understand too, and yeah I mean that. I always used to hear it isn't good, apparently the kids always don't turn out good. Etc etc.
I have never really seen aayo used, only as I grew up I learned what it means. My step mom I call eedo.
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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BVSNet wrote:
CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC wrote:
BVSNet wrote:There are certain viewpoints that I can't stomach and in a lot of cases they are tied to qabiil so yes, I have a preference as a result
like what? are you saying you wouldnt consider another xamarawi if he isnt hawiye?

Like believing he's from Arabia then no I wouldn't go there
Thats not much more of a stretch from believing you are descended from a man call Hawiye. :lol:

How are you BV?
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

Post by InaSamaale »

The results are baffling...
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

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InaSamaale wrote:The results are baffling...
its interesting :lol: ... i'm curious have you went outside of the beesha?
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Re: Marrying from another qabiil.

Post by Lamagoodle »

Qaraabonimadu qaarka dambe ma gasho!!!!.

According to Baastounit(2015) 80% of same-tribe-marriages fail. Of the remaining 20%, 83% are just marriages on paper and the couples are in other relationship. 15% are so called "qaraabo kiil" (mercy marriages) where one of the partners is suffering from a mental disease, disability etc.

For further reading; Baastounit (2015). The elusive concept of qabiil marriages; an empirical study of somali qaraabo qansax marriages. Journal of Somali kacsi studies, volume 50, issue 3. p 23-26
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