Somali weddings are boring in comparison

[Addoow]

The bride looks beautiful mashalah.

[Firefly]

Don't Somalis feed each other milk at the wedding? Dadki hore? I've been to a wedding where the bride and groom gave each other caano from a bowl..the same one. I don't really know what it symbolised..perhaps their unity? But I thought it was cute, and really traditional.

Black_velvet:- I don't know where you've heard about the bride not bein' allowed to be present at the nikaax....I think that's a Somali cultural thing. According to Islam the bride is present with her mahram. I remember readin' ' From my Sisters Lips' by Naa'ima B Robert..and in one of the chapter's she was talkin' about her actual nikaax ceremony...Islamic one..and she was present. But I'll doublecheck just to be sure.

[BlackVelvet]

Don't Somalis feed each other milk at the wedding? Dadki hore? I've been to a wedding where the bride and groom gave each other caano from a bowl..the same one. I don't really know what it symbolised..perhaps their unity? But I thought it was cute, and really traditional.

Black_velvet:- I don't know where you've heard about the bride not bein' allowed to be present at the nikaax....I think that's a Somali cultural thing. According to Islam the bride is present with her mahram. I remember readin' ' From my Sisters Lips' by Naa'ima B Robert..and in one of the chapter's she was talkin' about her actual nikaax ceremony...Islamic one..and she was present. But I'll doublecheck just to be sure.

My point exactly. It's a Somali thing where it's 'ceeb' for the bride to be there at her own nikaax like it's a surprise she's getting married at her own wedding Isn't it bidca horta to make something halal xaram just because it goes against your backward understanding of modesty?


ps I didn't know about the caano, maybe taking the 'wiil iyo caano, gabar iyo caano' thing literally?

[Hyperactive]

BV i dont think somalis or even some arabs do that because they do wedding and nikaah two different days.

i remember few years ago , naag gorigeena lagu nikaayayey. she was there and signed marriage contract.
there was no many people invited, just 2 witnesses, sheikh and my dad. so was okay to just sit one of the sofa`s just like every body and sign her papers.

also most of our marriages , at least people i know, do not do mixed wedding, either men only (nikaah) or women only the wedding.

plus these days to safe the expenses and instead inviting bunch of men and women , people take their daughters, witness,(you dont have to take witnesses, you can find at the court) to the court in front of the islamic judge in public and do the wedding. in the court the girl has to be there so the judge will take her agreement.

[BlackVelvet]

That makes sense it's an arab thing, an example of culture being turned into religion. Anyway don't get me wrong I am not saying the bride should sit there infront of all the odayaal for her nikaax. However having a private affair when the nikaax is actually done and all the papers are signed, then it is important for the bride to be present infront of the judge/sheikh. The party with the women or the baris and hilib for the men is just a party. Hadii aad partyga iyo contract saxiixow/nikaax hal maalin kadhigtid ama laba maalin, wax lacag badan ama lacag yar taas qofkey kuxerantahay. But at the end of the day a wedding without a bride is an oxymoron.

[Hyperactive]

lol i didnt say or even think is arab culture.

arabs do not have one culture when comes to marriage.

for example egyptainn, palastinian, syrian and some other nationalities, they do the nikaah at the wedding hall infront of every one as part of the wedding ceremony.

most arabs i know do the nikaah eithier in the mosque after maghrip prayers or just go to court.

i didnt find nikaah as one way doing it or one culture, ive seen people doing (from same culture) it in different ways, some in the mosque, some at home and some at the court.

home and the court, girl was there to finish legal papers.

[Ms.Erudite]

Why the big emphasis on symbolism. I think it's pointless and adds nothing to the ceremony or the marriage. The very fact that a marriage is taking place shows unity and the coming togther of two people. You don't need rings/drinking from the same bowl/ cutting the cake or whatever to highlight what comes with marriage..I think it speaks for itself..doing these things won't strengthen the bond..it's just something for the rest of us to "aaw" at.

Great for entertainment purposes and that's about it. I will not be having cake stuffed into my mouth..while loads of people look on lol

[Enlightened]

This is a persian nikaax, love the video lakin check out the stuff that is actually laid out at the nikaax. Notice please that the bride is actually present at her own wedding! Why she can't be there when she's getting married according to Somali culture I will never understand. Anyway there is the quran which represents religion/faith in their marriage, the rings represent the promise, the mirror is for the bride to look at herself before the nikaax (this one is weird but I guess you're looking at your single self one more time and being honest with yourself about the decision?). You will notice the sugar cane that the bridesmaids will rub on top of the cloth placed above couples heads, this is to represent sweetening of their relationship. When the sheikh asks them if they do, the girl says "with the permission of my father and mother I do" the guy apparently doesn't need permission. Then they sip bitter youghurt to symbolise sticking through the bad times and they feed each other honey to symbolise enjoying the good times togetehr. Now tell me isn't that the most romantic nikaax ceremony ever! I can't imagine a somali couple feeding each other honey or kissing like that but I think the bride being present will be welcomed progress!

although that wedding is beautiful, they are sucking each other's face in public. the reason Somalis don't do that is because it is haram and it is private affair nooh.

[Hyperactive]

i think those things more important for women.

anika i dont care how they celebrate , i just want want my wife in the bedroom as soon as possible.

do the legal things , less than 5 minutes, taking my wife and rest can do what they please, isnt my problem.

[Eye]

Somalis weddings are either ridiculously boring, or crazy fun. There's no in-between.

[Firefly]

Black-Velvet:- How is it considered ceeb? Her mahram is there too. I'd like to be at my nikaah, I want to know what I'm signin'..

Ms.Erudite:- Lool@having cake stuffed in my mouth. I know what you mean..I find all that stuff unnecessary and it's a bit too showy..'"Ooh look at us we're so in love"

[*Nobleman*]

Weddings is all about the baris and hilib, nothing beats the wedding munch.

[BlackVelvet]

LMAO@ at as soon as possible, Hyper wax waalan

Feeding cake is a western thing, I don't particularly like it but this persian thing is different, the bitterness of the bad times and the sweetness of the good times and the reflection of truth...maybe this is the effect that studying english literature has had on me

Firefly you have never said you want to be present at your nikaax to a group of Somalis have you? Say it to your aunts one time and see what they say

[Enlightened~Sista]

BV, wow! that wedding must've cost a lot, very classy and beautiful

i think those things more important for women.

anika i dont care how they celebrate , i just want want my wife in the bedroom as soon as possible.

do the legal things , less than 5 minutes, taking my wife and rest can do what they please, isnt my problem.