Guys who actually talk to girls come in.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

^^ Lool I know, my ex said after i divorced her I asked you for my divorce but did I force you to say it out loud " wan ku furay" at that moment weren't u begging me to say it since ever I can remember? Nd my friend, that's when I stopped taking women seriously SMH

[Idman702]

Looooooooooool

I didn't make this topic so divorced men could talk crap about women. It's your fault that she asked for her warqaad. You didn't fulfill your husband duties and I'm not talking about sex. Seeing most of you are all chauvinistic douches, I can only imagine how you act in your house holds.


AW is a money hungry, cheapskate, he probably starved his ex wife.
Coolman is probably an abuser you know what they say about OG men,
Chelsea likes to argue so I can imagine him arguing and fighting with his ex.


Tbh I think all the ex wives dodge a bullet. Good luck to the unsuspecting wives y'all will have. I feel sorry for the poor gals.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

^^ no we are all divorced bcz women dnt know what they want

[sahal80]

sahal, idman is right. wallah wahba kama fahmin. i read earliar and i just didnt want bother you and ask.

bal somali ko sheeg. my english also bad.

yaa sheikh i dont jump into a relationship? Rest r icjab. clear?

they r kinda aquaintances or people you meet them in your dialy life and in your neighbourhood...naturally some like you some dislike, some dont know you...

we r not gay so theres some attraction and jokes, being nice to eachother.....

[Siciid85]

Somalis girls huddle together and travel in groups , it takes a pro to separate the one from the group.

[Colonel]

COOL-MAN,

How important is the potentiel wive's mother-in-law? If she is known to be a difficult person to deal with, would you advise bailing out before committing or taking a more pragmatic approach (e.g. moving the girl to the other side of the city in order to limit her mother's visits/interactions)?

Bro somalidii hore used to say gabar waa hooyadeed. If the mother inlaw is a trouble maker then the Gal is likely to be one too.

Alhamdulillah I have been blessed with a good mother inlaw. She rarely ventures into my home business. the only times she comes waa markey inanteeda dhaleyso. Other than that its a no no place for her to get involved and that's our custom The gal's family tend to stay clear off their daughter's house while the family of the boy see their son's house as an extension to his original home.

This question is best posed to those who married to a troublesome mother inlaw or gals since they bear the brunt of mother inlaw troubles a lot of the times. My first wife's mother inlaw died before she came of age.

In other words, I have nearly zero experience On mother inlaw issues. 252 help?

Abdiwahab,
You couldn't be more right

You said it well

Good advise sxb

[AbdiWahab252]

Cool-man,

A mother in law is a wild card. Sometimes a woman can be her mom's duplicate and at other times the two can be different. I have seen mother in laws who are a handful and they pass those traits and lessons to their daughters. Then there are some who are miskiin but their daughters are just damn aggressive. The latter I blame on their fathers who didn't put them in line in their household and daughters are their father's favorites.

All in all, it is a good rule of thumb to see how your future sodoh treats her husband. If its terrible, then expect the same from her daughter. And worse of all never marry a family that is predominately full of sisters. These have no experience in dealing with brothers and so are not taught to give leeway to Somali males. She will treat you as her equal in everything and forget that your culture has made men a privileged lot.

Idman,

You sound very cocky and full of yourself. That will change when you get closer to your 30s as you become desperate. The Faraxs your age won't be interested in a woman of a similar age. They are looking at sisters who are 5 or more years younger. The clock now starts ringing very loudly as you get to your 30s. Defeaned, you become desperate and start actively seeking out the AW252s who are basically the only option left, The Faraxs your age will upgrade to 2nd wives a decade later and the young Faraxs will view as a gumeeys. So it is the AW252s who may be interested either in making you a 2nd wife.

The other option is you marry an Ajanabi but he too will either have been a convert (if you can put on that sheikhad front) or a loser who wants a low cost marriage because you know that Xalimo's dont have the gall to ask Ajanabis to pay top dollar for their mehers or aroos.

Idman, be nice to me, because you never know.

[Sophisticate]

Cool-man,

A mother in law is a wild card. Sometimes a woman can be her mom's duplicate and at other times the two can be different. I have seen mother in laws who are a handful and they pass those traits and lessons to their daughters. Then there are some who are miskiin but their daughters are just damn aggressive. The latter I blame on their fathers who didn't put them in line in their household and daughters are their father's favorites.

All in all, it is a good rule of thumb to see how your future sodoh treats her husband. If its terrible, then expect the same from her daughter. And worse of all never marry a family that is predominately full of sisters. These have no experience in dealing with brothers and so are not taught to give leeway to Somali males. She will treat you as her equal in everything and forget that your culture has made men a privileged lot.

Idman,

You sound very cocky and full of yourself. That will change when you get closer to your 30s as you become desperate. The Faraxs your age won't be interested in a woman of a similar age. They are looking at sisters who are 5 or more years younger. The clock now starts ringing very loudly as you get to your 30s. Defeaned, you become desperate and start actively seeking out the AW252s who are basically the only option left, The Faraxs your age will upgrade to 2nd wives a decade later and the young Faraxs will view as a gumeeys. So it is the AW252s who may be interested either in making you a 2nd wife.

The other option is you marry an Ajanabi but he too will either have been a convert (if you can put on that sheikhad front) or a loser who wants a low cost marriage because you know that Xalimo's dont have the gall to ask Ajanabis to pay top dollar for their mehers or aroos.

Idman, be nice to me, because you never know.

AW,

Geezers are the least likely option for a young woman. Their pudgy frames and their faded looks make them unappetizing, all things being equal most young women would avoid them like the plague. The only thing going for them is financial stability. And if they don't have that then they are screwed, since they are unable to compete with younger men with money. Idman was right, the male divorcees are largely a disenchanted and bitter bunch. At first I thought you were never married. Now I realize you're just a disgruntled odey, that's experienced marital failure so he'd like to live out the rest of his days a bachelor, so he doesn't become the male equivalent of Elizabeth Taylor.

I should point out that only men considerably older than you or ajnabis are the only option for a woman that is approaching 30, it's the craziest exaggeration I've ever heard. And sounds more like a desperate ploy to salvage a failed attempt at shukaansi.

[COOL-MAN]

Lool@abdiwahab and sophi. This will be the most interesting debate if it goes on for another page or two. Am routing for abdiwahab to win hands down via experience but we Know how good sophi is. Bring it on guys. Ayisho shah heil leh lasoo carar.

Colonel, there you have it. Your question tackled by a proper pro.

[Idman702]

Wow just wow.

AW you're so bitter to the fact you're wishing all those things on me. Guys my age or even younger than me are very much interested in me thank you very much. Even if your likes were the richest men on earth I wouldn't sell myself that short, so nice try buddy.



Sophie get em. You're already leaving him in dust.

[AbdiWahab252]

Sophisticate,

I will let you in on a secret. Women mature faster than men. A guy your age is a couple years is less mature than you. You probably are more emotionally mature and know more about the world than his adolescent ass. He won't command the same level of respect or might I saw awe you may have for a fellow who is years older than you. A marriage with a man your age will have unnatural power-respect dynamics.

A Farax your age needs a woman whom he can get the same adoration/respect/awe and that will come from a younger woman. So there you are, 30 years old. The bachelor pool of men your age are casting nets to fish out some younger Xalimos who will shower him with the adoration and look younger to bit. They are less knowledable about the shukaansi game and so are less bitter than a 30 year old. She still sees the positive in men and hasn't been screwed over several times.

But my dear there is hope. Just as you become disorientated by the loud sirens of "GUURSO! GUURSO!" and are about to faint, there is an AW252 ready to scoop you up. Bidaar or calool, he is everything you want: mature, got his shid together, and most importantly, he views you as a young Filly something you will never get from the Farax your age.

Then comes the 'spin' that you will tell your friends who settled years ago: 1. He is mature. 2. He is knowledgeable in everything including relationships. 3. Yes, looks may not be everything but how many handsome assholes have we dated, looks ain't everything.

So my dearest Sophi, be nice and appreciative to the Older Seasoned Farax. It is either him or Ali Salahudiin Walker from the Masjid.

[MujahidAishah]

Lool@abdiwahab and sophi. This will be the most interesting debate if it goes on for another page or two. Am routing for abdiwahab to win hands down via experience but we Know how good sophi is. Bring it on guys. Ayisho shah heil leh lasoo carar.

Colonel, there you have it. Your question tackled by a proper pro.

Agah waar meeshan waa yurub baraasho wanaagsan shah iyo bourbon biscuit igu soo daar

Aw already knocked out idman ... Sophi will win im routing for the girls

[KingOt]

AbdiWahab you sound too pessimistic. The way I see marriage, you find a girl you like marry and live a few years together. When you start boring one another have a child, loving the child together and bringing it up is a challenge that brings you closer again. This is just my theory on marriage though, I don't have any personal experience.

But if you wanna keep it working as a guy you need to limit contact with other girls, it'll just lead to sin.

[DisplacedDiraac]

If you plead with her Naa walaley sheydaanka iska Naar

Bow, if my guy called me that I would ask for my papers even quicker.. come on now

Anyway back to the topic, most guys have never asked for my number off the bat like that, they would first get my attention and start a conversation.

As a teen guys used to send their friends or my friends to ask for numbers lol.

African guys are something else though (non Somalis) I've had numerous walk past me and seconds later they run back and hand me a paper with thier number written on it

[AbdiWahab252]

Aishah,

Luggoyo! You also don't like these young women who try to run hand on your odeey when he is shopping at the halal store.