Anyone else notice interracial marriages are much more successful than inter-clan?

[COOL-MAN]

My half German cousins are a confused bunch. They unfortunately hail from two highly qabilist peoples: Germans and Somalis. Both hate 'diversity' and believe they are superior to everyone else.

I think interqabiil marriages can work if you are establish boundaries: don't expect the other to attend your clan rallies, to carve out personal time for clan gatherings, and to develop a think skin for kaftaan from the in laws.

It can work, has worked and will always work.

No need for bounderies. Somaalida reer xididka wey qadariyaan

[AbdiWahab252]

Coolman,

I don't know about that. In my humble experience, I think marriages between people from different regions don't work out. Not qabiil but regions.

I am already on the prowl for no. 2 and I want her to be a pedigree Hawiye with out one drop of alien blood at least for 6 generations. In addition, I don't want her siblings to have married outside the H fam.

[Ak123]

interracial marriages aren't the key to success as someone would like others to believe, I still don't know one in person thats worked yet, plus all of them i seen the outside race dad split like no tommorrow.

in my area alone theres, quite a few single young somai mothers with mixed kids.

there's single mother somali girl with half polish baby.

Single mother somali girl with a half pakistani baby.

I know a yemeni guy who left his young somali wife with his daughter like no mans bussiness.

I know one white revert got divorced from his young somali wife with two young kids.

I once had somali neighbor boy who was half italian that didn't even know who his father was.

I use to go uni with somali girl who was single mother with half jamican kid.

I knew a somali girl who married a french guy once but he then later revert became muslim then left her due to her not getting her act together, the dude just got on a plane and never came back.

Now adays it's rare to find a marrige that has worked regardless of what ethnicity.

I think the problem is that when it's somali and somali marrige things are lot more complicated due the family being a lot more involved and somali choose the divorce option way to easly without giving it a proper go in making it work, most of time getting divorced over nothing.

[SteadyState]

My half German cousins are a confused bunch. They unfortunately hail from two highly qabilist peoples: Germans and Somalis. Both hate 'diversity' and believe they are superior to everyone else.

I think interqabiil marriages can work if you are establish boundaries: don't expect the other to attend your clan rallies, to carve out personal time for clan gatherings, and to develop a think skin for kaftaan from the in laws.

I would not be surprised if your family was a lot more willing to accept the German ajnabi into the family than a Somali outside of your clan. The kids will have an easier time being accepted as well vs kids that are of a different clan. I've seen the horrific abuse maternal uncles and aunts unleash on their nephews and nieces for simply being of a different clan. Yet they would never treat a foreigner's offspring with such contempt.

Zoomalis are the only people who will always prefer their kids to marry an Ajnabi than a Somali simply because they hail from a different clan. It's funny how people talk about the self-hate phenomenon as if it's new. The reality is not consistent with that. I'd say at least a majority of the previous generation suffered from self-hatred of varying degrees.

[Ak123]

Remeber over 50% of marriges end in divorce(60% for the US), divorce is not thing exclusive to somalis or any other ethnic group.

Yeah it's really crazy & sad how somali would rather have there kids marry a ajanabi over a somali from a different tribe even if the ajanabi is a non-muslim.

Somali Number 1 champions in selfhate.

[jalaaludin5]

Somali saying...

maska intaanad dilin mutawaladka dil.
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[PrinceDaadi]

This character called steadstate is into something and she is forcing us to accept it. in my family we married from every corner of Somali peninsula and i dont see this inter-qabiil thing u r talking about.

besides if u r into something you really dont need our approval.

[LiquidHYDROGEN]

Osob, isn't it contradictory to state that you are for endogamy in the Somali ethnic group whilst simultaneously hoping that your Kurdish sons bring Somali girls home?

No it is not a contradictory just because I married a non Somali does not mean I stop being one and favoring them. One can not predict their destiny or future but if I could than obviously I will always favor a Somali man over a Non-Somali yet I married a Non-Somali because that's what Allah planned for me and am happy with my husband alhamduillah. As for my son's Yes absolutely I would love them marry Somali Girl yet I can not predict who they will bring to me and honestly even my own Husband say's he would prefer to bring Somali girls home.

Walaal, ignore these guys. Marry who ever you want.

The only xalimos I have a problem with is the self-hater types who actively seek ajnabi husbands and then proceed to insult Somali men and embarrass us.

[LiquidHYDROGEN]

My half German cousins are a confused bunch. They unfortunately hail from two highly qabilist peoples: Germans and Somalis. Both hate 'diversity' and believe they are superior to everyone else.

I think interqabiil marriages can work if you are establish boundaries: don't expect the other to attend your clan rallies, to carve out personal time for clan gatherings, and to develop a think skin for kaftaan from the in laws.

I would not be surprised if your family was a lot more willing to accept the German ajnabi into the family than a Somali outside of your clan. The kids will have an easier time being accepted as well vs kids that are of a different clan. I've seen the horrific abuse maternal uncles and aunts unleash on their nephews and nieces for simply being of a different clan. Yet they would never treat a foreigner's offspring with such contempt.

Zoomalis are the only people who will always prefer their kids to marry an Ajnabi than a Somali simply because they hail from a different clan. It's funny how people talk about the self-hate phenomenon as if it's new. The reality is not consistent with that. I'd say at least a majority of the previous generation suffered from self-hatred of varying degrees.

What a load of nonsense. My family is married to many different clans and I have never heard any abuse or qabyaalad. Most marriages fail because we have false hopes/expectations or we rush into them and don't think it through. The number one problem in the Somali community is the obsession with marriage - even to the detriment of education or a career.

[SiennaEarth]

this is bullshit! Im a native samaale and almost lighter than my somali neighbours from these clans! How can they be more arab than me?

Don't let anyone kill your spirit.

[COOL-MAN]

Coolman,

I don't know about that. In my humble experience, I think marriages between people from different regions don't work out. Not qabiil but regions.

I am already on the prowl for no. 2 and I want her to be a pedigree Hawiye with out one drop of alien blood at least for 6 generations. In addition, I don't want her siblings to have married outside the H fam.

Good luck bro.

I married from a different clan than my own. I am happy with what God gave me. In fact among my clan it's highly encouraged to Marry from her clan if one gets an opportunity with a gal from my wife's clan.

We share borders and have similar dhaqan

[zumaale]

Osob, isn't it contradictory to state that you are for endogamy in the Somali ethnic group whilst simultaneously hoping that your Kurdish sons bring Somali girls home?

No it is not a contradictory just because I married a non Somali does not mean I stop being one and favoring them. One can not predict their destiny or future but if I could than obviously I will always favor a Somali man over a Non-Somali yet I married a Non-Somali because that's what Allah planned for me and am happy with my husband alhamduillah. As for my son's Yes absolutely I would love them marry Somali Girl yet I can not predict who they will bring to me and honestly even my own Husband say's he would prefer to bring Somali girls home.

You completely ignored the point I was making. I was not in anyway being critical of your rightful choice to marry whom you seek. I do not care if Somali females marry outside their ethnic group because it has no effect on the Somali ethnic group as their children have no ties to being Somali. My question related to a comment you made in this thread that you want Somalis to marry Somalis and keep it in the family. I found it contradictory that you would support such a stance yet you want your Kurdish sons to marry Somali females.

[Hyperactive]

success and faill depends of expectation each have before marriage. i advice with somali or ajnabi, make clear what each need from the marriage at hand. dont be shy to state your vission about marriage.

[GAMES]

I can count with one hand the number of Inter racial Somali marriages i have seen in my entire life.

So i don't know why u think its widespread among Somalis.

Weird.

[DANGIRL]

interracial marriages aren't the key to success as someone would like others to believe, I still don't know one in person thats worked yet, plus all of them i seen the outside race dad split like no tommorrow.

in my area alone theres, quite a few single young somai mothers with mixed kids.

there's single mother somali girl with half polish baby.

Single mother somali girl with a half pakistani baby.

I know a yemeni guy who left his young somali wife with his daughter like no mans bussiness.

I know one white revert got divorced from his young somali wife with two young kids.

I once had somali neighbor boy who was half italian that didn't even know who his father was.

I use to go uni with somali girl who was single mother with half jamican kid.

I knew a somali girl who married a french guy once but he then later revert became muslim then left her due to her not getting her act together, the dude just got on a plane and never came back.

Now adays it's rare to find a marrige that has worked regardless of what ethnicity.

I think the problem is that when it's somali and somali marrige things are lot more complicated due the family being a lot more involved and somali choose the divorce option way to easly without giving it a proper go in making it work, most of time getting divorced over nothing.