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Theguardian wrote:

NoThatAbdi wrote:This would explain why you rarely hear of Somali men sleeping around other Somali men's wives, there is no temptation.

I have noticed a lot of fine Single mothers and single women around my area. I even see some at the gym but rarely a married woman.

Reason why you don't hear about it- is because Somali sisters don't sleep around or they do with real men who don't gossip like little girls.

I tried the not gossiping thing but if you want to maintain a friendship with Somali guys, one must dig a little dirt here and there. If you don't take part in gossiping, you become those men who lives only revolve around their partners life, her friends and interest...basically no healthy male friendship. By gossiping I mean taking my phone out and showing(innocent) pics of the woman I'm currently courting, I don't get into what base we have reached and sometimes I even lie to make the girl seem more holy.

All men gossip or it gets awkward after you finished discussing football.

FAH1223 wrote:simple really... metabolism slows down as you get older and most Somali girls don't work out at all.

not gonna lie, apart from occasional swimming, exercise is a foreign concept to me

InaSamaale wrote:

FAH1223 wrote:simple really... metabolism slows down as you get older and most Somali girls don't work out at all.

not gonna lie, apart from occasional swimming, exercise is a foreign concept to me

Metabolism doesn't change much up till the age of 50. Only after this age does it start to decline noticeably.
Between 25 and 50 you can eat about the same amount of calories, so that doesn't explain why Xalimos get fat after marriage.

Theguardian wrote:One thing for sure though - Somali men are bloody lucky to have Somali women. Time to take good care of women brothers or you will lose them.

Lose them to who? Let me guess, are you one of those twitter-xaliimos whose entire time is taken up by insulting Somali men to madow/arab/Asian men? Are you gonna run to Kamal the Kurdish kebab-vendor for a 25 apple meher? Xaliimos who marry outside their race are just as prone, if not more so, to the same Social problems other Somali women suffer from. Sanka ha taagin, you are not all that.

I'm proud of the Somali women with Self-respect, who hold down a job and study at the same time. Those women who strive to be good mothers to the next generation of Somalis and who don't sit on the sidelines with their madow/arab/cadaan/klingon boyfriend constantly shitting on Somali males and the Somali community at large. My mother, Aunties and cousins are that type of woman and I have nothing but love and respect for them, no matter their dress size. The most important kind of beauty isn't just skin-deep.

LiquidHYDROGEN wrote:

Theguardian wrote:One thing for sure though - Somali men are bloody lucky to have Somali women. Time to take good care of women brothers or you will lose them.

Lose them to who? Let me guess, are you one of those twitter-xaliimos whose entire time is taken up by insulting Somali men to madow/arab/Asian men? Are you gonna run to Kamal the Kurdish kebab-vendor for a 25 apple meher? Xaliimos who marry outside their race are just as prone, if not more so, to the same Social problems other Somali women suffer from. Sanka ha taagin, you are not all that.

I'm proud of the Somali women with Self-respect, who hold down a job and study at the same time. Those women who strive to be good mothers to the next generation of Somalis and who don't sit on the sidelines with their madow/arab/cadaan/klingon boyfriend constantly shitting on Somali males and the Somali community at large. My mother, Aunties and cousins are that type of woman and I have nothing but love and respect for them, no matter their dress size. The most important kind of beauty isn't just skin-deep.

I don't have Twitter account - so that should answer your question.
I never bashed Somali men - however we do have problems - where Somali men are constantly bashing Somali women about their size and comparing them to other women -this thread is evident to that. Somali women are loyal and majority of them are like your family - Somali men need to get their act together and start appreciating their women - no need to get defensive by accusing me non Somali-lover.

I am marrying a Somali man next month -but (Allah for bids) if our marriage fails for whatever reasons - he won't abandon his kids like typical Somalis guys do - if I am being honest that's the biggest problem I have with Somali men- how they can easily walk out on their kids without looking back.

I am not for inter-racial marriage amongst Somalis - but I constantly hear Somali men complaining Somali women marrying out but when Somali women explains to them why? They are dismissed and called ugly names.
*Problem needs to be addressed in order to find a solution* deny it- it will only get worse.

Fair enough. Sorry I blasted you, I thought you were someone else.

Yes we do have problems, huge ones. But only Somalis, and Ilaahay, can solve them. The state of a lot of Somali guys is pretty depressing but alxamdulillah they are a minority, like the bad females. It comes from bad parenting e.g. absentee fathers and mothers who are too soft on their kids.

Eat, eat and watch tv= cambaro buuran

They can barely walk after child birth. New Xalimos are changing the status quo with diet pills. Exercise is never an option it seems. Xalimos hate to sweat. Lol

LiquidHYDROGEN wrote:

Theguardian wrote:One thing for sure though - Somali men are bloody lucky to have Somali women. Time to take good care of women brothers or you will lose them.

Lose them to who? Let me guess, are you one of those twitter-xaliimos whose entire time is taken up by insulting Somali men to madow/arab/Asian men? Are you gonna run to Kamal the Kurdish kebab-vendor for a 25 apple meher? Xaliimos who marry outside their race are just as prone, if not more so, to the same Social problems other Somali women suffer from. Sanka ha taagin, you are not all that.

I'm proud of the Somali women with Self-respect, who hold down a job and study at the same time. Those women who strive to be good mothers to the next generation of Somalis and who don't sit on the sidelines with their madow/arab/cadaan/klingon boyfriend constantly shitting on Somali males and the Somali community at large. My mother, Aunties and cousins are that type of woman and I have nothing but love and respect for them, no matter their dress size. The most important kind of beauty isn't just skin-deep.

That's all that needed to be said bro

Theguardian needs to let go of her man-hating agenda and get back to reality. No society ever prospered when it's two genders were opposed to one another.

Oh wow; now I am a "man-hater-with agenda" - just because I want Somali men to stop abandoning their children after their marriage
fails.
And what reality do I need to get back to?

Yes both gender need to work together but in reality they are not. Somali men just run away - just like now you refuse to acknowledge there is a problem by refusing to address the issue -
so typical - just bury your heads in the sand and hope Somali women will just put up with it forever-

Theguardian wrote:Oh wow; now I am a "man-hater-with agenda" - just because I want Somali men to stop abandoning their children after their marriage
fails.
And what reality do I need to get back to?

Yes both gender need to work together but in reality they are not. Somali men just run away - just like now you refuse to acknowledge there is a problem by refusing to address the issue -
so typical - just bury your heads in the sand and hope Somali women will just put up with it forever-

Pointing out any sort of issues with our community makes you a hater iska amuus and front like everything is goooood. Waku sidee?!!!

TheGuardian, you have your heart in the right place.

Xaliimo vs. Faarax : The Gender Wars , Episode VIII

The G, your message is clear walalo, I don't know why The Mailman is coming at you like that. I guess he just wants to let off some steam. Pay no mind.

Theguardian wrote:Oh wow; now I am a "man-hater-with agenda" - just because I want Somali men to stop abandoning their children after their marriage
fails.
And what reality do I need to get back to?

Yes both gender need to work together but in reality they are not. Somali men just run away - just like now you refuse to acknowledge there is a problem by refusing to address the issue -
so typical - just bury your heads in the sand and hope Somali women will just put up with it forever-

Newsflash: I've been on this forum for quite a while and I've criticized the behavior of Somali men on numerous occasions, and so have many of the other members here. Don't blame me for your lack of reading comprehension. So yes, I did acknowledge that a huge problem exists.

But you don't solve this problem by pitting Somali females and Somali males against each other. I'm advising you to quit with your emotional ramblings and gender-bashing and actually think before you speak. This is my sincere advice.

The G walle xaqiiqada ayey sheektay iyo mushkilad ugu weyn ee umadeena haysata.Ninko maalinta naagtisa oo furo ayaa caruurtisa ugu danbaysa mid mid ilaahy so hadeyey mooye.

Maalin dhawayed nin weyn ba xanuunsadey magaal i dhaw..Ninkaas 6 caruur ah ayuu dhalay.Naagti waxay kala tagen 18 sano ka hor caruurto aad oo yar yar.18 sano kamu ag wareegin..sida kolba ugu jiray naag guursasho iyo dhoofis.Cala kuli xaal all his marriages ended in divorce.Marku hada xanuunsadey ee wayeel oo noqday bu caruurti oo dad waaweyn noqotay dib is idhi ola xidhiidh.Aabhood oo xanuunsaneya mid kasta wuu diiday inu aqalkiisa seexayo ka waran.Yacni masiibo ta ka weyni ma jirto.

Imika isaga oo balanbaleya bay qaar ay qaraabo isku yehiin ay gurigooga ku hayaan.Every father who never take care of his kids will end upp like that.