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[quote="kambuli"]
That is true... also the CALAF is the most important part.. No one knows where they will end... No matter how you may have in your mind an Ideal wife/husband.[/quote]

So very true! btw, is Calaf a somali word or an Arabic world?
If Qadr means Fate, how do you translate Calaf


Is it destiny I honestly do not know.

Who was saying something about tampons?

Is that the excuse girls use nowadays? "I use tampons so that is why Im not a virgin"... How stupid.....
It's virtually impossible for a tampon to break your hymen....which lays at the opening of the cervix, which is atleast 5inches deep in most women.
Tampons are not five inches long, besides you control the speed and the angle at which it goes in. It would hurt like hell, you cannot just break your hymen by accident or mistake. If you did happen to reach it with the tampon then it wouldn't just slip in, you have to put some force into it.

So, cut the shitty excuses....if a man doesn't like you for who you are...then tell him to F.Off. Just like they say there are plenty of men in the sea. So many infact that you don't have to waste your time with someone who doesn't want you or that you have to make excuses for yourself. If he can't understand that you had a life before him and that you're not psychic, as in you didn't know you would end up with him and only him. Then he is illogical and why would you want to spend your precious years with and illogical man?

Free Yourselves ladies, you don't owe anything to anybody except to God and yourselves!!!!

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Do You have to be so Graphic about Tampons and how You slide them in?



Yesu na Maria! I was hoping to go to Hajj to clean off my sins!
Well, Deflowering Young girls back in the days was No good Idea!

You're married, and the words tampon cervix and hymen bother you?

Strange.

This question comes back very fequently - nothing is wrong with marrying non-v unless you are not confident with your manhood.




[quote="Young_Activist"]Guys will u marry a girl who is not a Virgin? As we know it is been a cultural, and ritual thing for our girls to keep The only thing dat they have full control of, their Virginity. Now it is 2006, things are a bit different no, things are wayyy different and we know wat is up . So should one go against the norms and adjust to the 21st century and not to worry about dat thing. wat will one do if they find a girl they love, admire and like is not a virgin? Should it matter? Should one just marry someone based on other qualities? But wat about da fact that their was someone in there (slept with da girl) and BACDA WAALAGA SOO FIIQAY.

It is a disturbing thing, it is like how do u choose. This is not to pass a judgement and bad mouth da girls, but rather to focus on wat is important thing in choosing da person dat hopefully u could spend da rest of yor freakin life with.[/quote]

ERROR.....it is da other way around....i think one who doesn't wanna V-girls is someone who is not 'confident with his manhood' .

But i have to stress dat there is nothing wrong with non virgin girls and no one is saying dat. Rather this post was intended wheather one should forget about our rituals and cultural believes and marry non virgin girls....it is kinda taboo as u know to marry non virgin girl in our culture even to day. So i wasnot suggesting wheather they are bad or good but rather to see wat ppl say about it. And u dont wanna forget about the religion aspect of this.

young, my point is why should any1 worry about if the girl he loves is V or not? ppl can have different interpertations if a man dumps his g-friend and wife-to-be just because she had sx b4. 4 me, i see it as if that man is incapapble of handling a real relationship with a real person. He wants something HE ONLY TRIED (cowardice) Did u watch the movie "Brothers" where this dude thought he was the only guy until he finds the other way?

That's not an issue with me and all of my Somali friends.

for those of u who worship the V thing, my highschool sweetheart was Somali and we satisfied each other like any other couple while we saved her V for possible traditional farah. she finally married a white dude though. she had her V intact till she got married - just in case she ends up with a typical farah or her mother demands to check her.

Error,

Walaal. Ofcourse one thing is wrong. When Allaah SWT warned against Zinaa... Allaah didn't said Zaaniya only... It was both Zaani wal Zaaniya.
So to condemn women only is wrong.

But it's my personal believe that a girl who is pure is much more better than a girl who was fooling around. How can you trust someone you already know is a thief? Someone who stole something? Gabadh ka adkaan kari weydey labadeeda lugood dhexdooda, maxay kalee ka adkaan?

Towbaddu markasta waa furan tahay, laakiin mar kasta gabadha toobad doonka ah iyo ta aan dembigaba gelin waxaa aniga ila qiima badan taa aan dembigaba gelin marka hore.

Saas oy tahay Allaah ayaa xaal og. In badan oo Virxxx ah ayaa sidooda kale u edeb daran....

Waxaase waxaasoo dhan isku fuuqsaday waxa Calafka la yidhaahdo: Si kasta oo aad u leedahay dookh haddana qofka iyo meesha aad ku dambeyn Allaah keliya ayaa og. Allaa maxaa gabadh qiimo badan bohol ka dhacday Allaa maxaa wiil qiimo badan meel baas ka dhacay Maxaase qaar meel fiican maray....

Waxay ila tahay Allaah uun ha la baryo inaan meel baas laga dhicin, hana la dadaalo oo marka horeba moral hala yeesho...

[quote]for those of u who worship the V thing, my highschool sweetheart was Somali and we satisfied each other like any other couple while we saved her V for possible traditional farah. she finally married a white dude though. she had her V intact till she got married - just in case she ends up with a typical farah or her mother demands to check her.[/quote]

That must've su*ked

So all this time you could've done what you wanted because she ended up marrying cadaan anyway.

I agree, the question should be: Would you marry someone who has satisfied another man sexually?

[quote]Gabadh ka adkaan kari weydey labadeeda lugood dhexdooda, maxay kalee ka adkaan? [/quote]

^^I like this quote by Kambuli.