Ladies, long term plans

[BlackVelvet]

Did you/would you turn down a great career prospect because it interfered with your long term plans of raising a family? Too much travelling, no chance of part time work in the future, long hours...etc

How much of a deciding factor was the marriage/kids/family argument when you made your choice on going to uni or choosing a career?

Guys, since you're here anyway, did it even cross your mind when you were deciding on your career?

[FAH1223]

Career advancement before any of that shid

[Leila25]

Age is the factor here, you can put off starting a family in your 20s but its a bad idea when you reach 30. Yes i would turn down a good career for family, but i am very much not career minded and dont plan to work when i have kids.

[SultanOrder]

Ok since you asked so nicely, not really. At the same time, a guy can continue education or pick a career path that requires him to do alot, and still maintain a family. My brother-in-law has his own buisness, that requires a lot of attention, is fighting a court case on his own writing up his own summaries and delivering paper to the court,had his 3nd child two weeks ago, and his going to uni full time. But my sister on the other hand is watching the kids and doing the domestic work, though she plans to finish up her nursing. It's much harder for her, and if she wasn't at home it would be harder on the whole family.

I just don't see why people are so focused career when you can do so much in life to make a living. I plan to get a degree while I have things on the side that will bring me income Insha'Allah, and I only see school not as a money making opportunity but a chance to open my mental horizons, and develop myself.

I've always believed that no matter what women as a whole are getting the loosing end of the stick. Whether in the west or here. Unless, you absolutely fight hard and get lucky with a good nice guy.

[BlackVelvet]

Career advancement before any of that shid

Though you answered in the negative, you've still managed to take part in a marriage/relationship/children topic, how does it feel?

[BlackVelvet]

Age is the factor here, you can put off starting a family in your 20s but its a bad idea when you reach 30. Yes i would turn down a good career for family, but i am very much not career minded and dont plan to work when i have kids.

Was there ever a struggle in coming to that decision or was it clear cut for you?

It can get distracting when almost every long term plan ends with 'will I be able to raise kids while doing this?'

[BlackVelvet]

Ok since you asked so nicely, not really. At the same time, a guy can continue education or pick a career path that requires him to do alot, and still maintain a family. My brother-in-law has his own buisness, that requires a lot of attention, is fighting a court case on his own writing up his own summaries and delivering paper to the court,had his 3nd child two weeks ago, and his going to uni full time. But my sister on the other hand is watching the kids and doing the domestic work, though she plans to finish up her nursing. It's much harder for her, and if she wasn't at home it would be harder on the whole family.

I just don't see why people are so focused career when you can do so much in life to make a living. I plan to get a degree while I have things on the side that will bring me income Insha'Allah, and I only see school not as a money making opportunity but a chance to open my mental horizons, and develop myself.

I've always believed that no matter what women as a whole are getting the loosing end of the stick. Whether in the west or here. Unless, you absolutely fight hard and get lucky with a good nice guy.

The thing about a career is that it's different to a job. A job you get an income, a career you get a lifestyle, it's something consistent that you can always fall back on. Like your sister for example, she might be struggling now but once she get's qualified she can choose when she works and where she works (at least that's how it works over here) and she'd be able to balance the two, of course it would also require having a nice husband as you pointed out lol.

Women do have the short end of the stick but there's no point complaining about it. If anything I think it makes our determination when we decide to do something that much stronger because you can see that it's not going to be handed to you on a plate.

"It's much harder for her, and if she wasn't at home it would be harder on the whole family."

The story of a woman's life, everyone else's needs come before your own.

[Du$ty]

I Got Married In 2003 When I Was 23, And My Wife Was 18.... Now We Have A Beautiful 5Year Old Princess
Islam Before Career And Dreams

[Complicated19]

That makes u like 31

[ms.naliaa]

I would give up my career plans for raise a family.
Theres no doubt in my mind, my family comes first...my children and husband are more important than my job....having said that...I would try to find some type of work just to keep my senses.

[Complicated19]

Didnt know Dusty was an oday
Anyway u sound happy mashaAllah .... May Allah look after you and your family
Amiin

[qoraxeey]

i hate to think about this question waalllaahii

it makes me sad & depressed ..lol i want so much in career life .. lakin i also have i biological clock that is ticking away .. ahahah

[BlackVelvet]

I Got Married In 2003 When I Was 23, And My Wife Was 18.... Now We Have A Beautiful 5Year Old Princess
Islam Before Career And Dreams

I don't think Islam means leaving behind your career or dreams. Work for this life as though you will live forever, strive for the hereafter as though you will die tomorrow.

[BlackVelvet]

Qoraxeey you are going to have to think about it eventually, waa su'aal that's not going to go away unfortunately.

I would give up my career plans for raise a family.
Theres no doubt in my mind, my family comes first...my children and husband are more important than my job....having said that...I would try to find some type of work just to keep my senses.

Am I the only one who this certainty doesn't come naturally to.

[Du$ty]

I Got Married In 2003 When I Was 23, And My Wife Was 18.... Now We Have A Beautiful 5Year Old Princess
Islam Before Career And Dreams

I don't think Islam means leaving behind your career or dreams. Work for this life as though you will live forever, strive for the hereafter as though you will die tomorrow.

You Right... And I Never Said You Have To Forget About Your Career Or Dreams....All Im Saying Is Put Islam 1st Which Means Get Married