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If the bride dances at her wedding and just have fun, what's the big deal, it's her big day, It's one of those things that I don't get about our culture. The last wedding I attended which was last year, the bride was dancing and smiling, just having fun in general, and alots of folks were giving her a look of disapproval and shaking their heads in disgust lol WTF whats the problem with that, why is that a such ceeb thing to do?

I plan on dancing and enjoyin it I dont think its ceeb man, it could be that long ago marriage was arranged and the couple were uncomfortable with one another so dadki weeyla qabsadeen.

who said it's ceeb

i don't go to weddings in general , except family weds and from what i remember the bride was dancing and everything seemed fine and normal
most people were dancing with the pride & groom at the end before the wedding was over



btw i meant to say "dancing modestly"

In my neck of the woods, if the bride is having too much fun, the judgmental habro will talk, even at Somali restaurants, they'd stare at you and judge you with their eyes, maybe I'm the only one who noticed

Maahmaah goes,

Indha adag arooskeeday kaboodaah. it would be very hard for a virgin girl to dance at her weeding. All she would be thinking would be what the man would do to her after caawa or whether she would bleed to death after the virginity is broken. If the girl is not a virgin or she has had few banging with the guy before, she would keep dancing and hailing.

so it all comes down to whether the girl is a fircooni circumcized virgin girl.

dancing is ceeb?, I think its past that point of your having a wedding, the bride and the groom are gonna be doing a bit more than dancing when they leave the wedding so whats so ceeb about dancing.

Dancing bride What has this world come to. Next thing you know she'll be driving or even worse, she'll be talking back. Its the end of times as we know it.

what is ceeb?? it is the most common word here after qabiil.

Meru wrote:what is ceeb?? it is the most common word here after qabiil.

Sabiisha ayeeydaa..........Taasi turjumaad uraadi.

Garaad_LQ wrote:who said it's ceeb

i don't go to weddings in general , except family weds and from what i remember the bride was dancing and everything seemed fine and normal
most people were dancing with the pride & groom at the end before the wedding was over



btw i meant to say "dancing modestly"

yap same here most of the wedings i have been to the bride was dancing ..the first song is for the bride and groom

S-D-M wrote:

Meru wrote:what is ceeb?? it is the most common word here after qabiil.

Sabiisha ayeeydaa..........Taasi turjumaad uraadi.

Meru
ceeb means shame

Nabs

I think its a question of modesty and "Xishood"! Brides are supposed to "dread" wedding night. In the old days, Somali brides in the villages dreaded their bridal night. It was associated with pain--the processes of de-briq-ra-ing and the messy blood. In somali community- eg--the ogadens--the brides dreaded whipping if they refused sex, the whips usually were provided by the brides parents. LOL

And not to mention--as a cultural measure-- being none modest and openly joyful and dancing around in your wedding show a level of 'experience' that in the habro world is considered sluttyniimo. Virginity is highly priced in somali culture, so a bride who dances in her wedding shows a lack of restraint and a lack of restraint means she is not exactly inexperienced. So its kinda tricky habibti. Personally, i enjoy sitting with the habros and fuelling gossip and judgements. ......

@somaliweyn. thank you brother.

Basra- wrote:Nabs

I think its a question of modesty and "Xishood"! Brides are supposed to "dread" wedding night. In the old days, Somali brides in the villages dreaded their bridal night. It was associated with pain--the processes of de-briq-ra-ing and the messy blood. In somali community- eg--the ogadens--the brides dreaded whipping if they refused sex, the whips usually were provided by the brides parents. LOL

And not to mention--as a cultural measure-- being none modest and openly joyful and dancing around in your wedding show a level of 'experience' that in the habro world is considered sluttyniimo. Virginity is highly priced in somali culture, so a bride who dances in her wedding shows a lack of restraint and a lack of restraint means she is not exactly inexperienced. So its kinda tricky habibti. Personally, i enjoy sitting with the habros and fuelling gossip and judgements. ......

BTW, not all brides bleed, maybe just those who went through FMG.

I know, it's kinda weird.

To be honest it says more about the disapproving people than the bride. They clearly can't get their minds out of the gutter.

Also it's becoming harder and harder to do niiko at weddings, way too many judgmental habro, they'd snitch on you so fast your head will spin, damn you habro