I just found out...

[Sealion]

I just found out through my mum that one of my old Somali female acquaintances (from high school) is getting married to a wadad guy from my tribe. This girl is a recently born again Muslim/niqabi prior to that this girl had quite the reputation. I feel bad for him, he's probably got no idea. And her family is trying to rush the mehr (it's happening just a month after their engagement).

[Nanees]

why do you feel bad for him?

[Sealion]

why do you feel bad for him?

Because this guy according to my mum just moved here so he probably doesn't know her story. If she told him everything (about her doing drugs/drinking/being promiscuous) and he still wanted to marry her then I'd praise him for being understanding but...That's prob not what happened.

[Nanees]

why do you feel bad for him?

Because this guy according to my mum just moved here so he probably doesn't know her story. If she told him everything (about her doing drugs/drinking/being promiscuous) and he still wanted to marry her then I'd praise him for being understanding but...That's prob not what happened.

Does she still drink/do drugs/is promiscuous?

[1nemansquad]

wadaad dude's are suckers, they wifey every trash

[Sealion]

why do you feel bad for him?

Because this guy according to my mum just moved here so he probably doesn't know her story. If she told him everything (about her doing drugs/drinking/being promiscuous) and he still wanted to marry her then I'd praise him for being understanding but...That's prob not what happened.

Does she still drink/do drugs/is promiscuous?

She's supposedly recommitted her life to Allah but my mum said every time she visits with her mum (after like nine pm) neither her or her sister are home. They are off visiting friends in the West side of T.O.

[Saraxnow]

wadaad dude's are suckers, they wifey every trash

They probably don't mean to lol

[Nanees]

She's supposedly recommitted her life to Allah but my mum said every time she visits with her mum (after like nine pm) neither her or her sister are home. They are off visiting friends in the West side of T.O.

I knew of this gang of girls in toronto wearing huge hijaabs and niqaabs whose parents would let them do w.e at whenever time cuz they were such good girls and Id see them out like past 2am walking around the streets when i'd be driving back from an cazuuma

On the flip side though if you've recommitted yourself to Allah, then your past shouldn't matter (except in extreme cases). But recommitting yourself isn't a short term thing, you need to have been on the right path for years as far as I'm concerned before you go off getting married.

Lakiin iska dhaaf gabarta, he's marrying her not her past.

[1nemansquad]

wadaad dude's are suckers, they wifey every trash

They probably don't mean to lol

how else do you explain then? there something about them dude's and their lack of having patience and making sure they settle with someone decent, they rush in and rush out; they are leading our community when it comes to divorce too

[Nabeela]

Something similar to this happened to my cousin, he thought he married this hijabi, muslimah, only to find out otherwise.


Maybe she repented? if that is the case, I don't see the problem here, people make mistakes, still she should come clean with him and give him the option to either back out, or continue with the marriage.

[Sealion]

She's supposedly recommitted her life to Allah but my mum said every time she visits with her mum (after like nine pm) neither her or her sister are home. They are off visiting friends in the West side of T.O.

I knew of this gang of girls in huge hijaabs and niqaabs whose parents would let them do w.e at whenever time cuz they were such good girls and Id see them out like past 2am walking around the streets when i'd be driving back from an cazuuma

On the flip side though if you've recommitted yourself to Allah, then your past shouldn't matter (except in extreme cases). But recommitting yourself isn't a short term thing, you need to have been on the right path for years as far as I'm concerned before you go off getting married.

Lakiin iska dhaaf gabarta, he's marrying her not her past.

I know it's bad to question a believer but I honestly think she's just playing at it. She's always been very dishonest/manipulative. I hope she's got allah in her heart and wish her the best in her marriage nevertheless. I just don't think it bodes well to enter into such a sacred covenant withholding something from your partner.

[Nanees]

Seali, you don't even know if she hasn't told him

[Mondey]

the man should know every thing about her... she should not hide anything from him... this marriage they rush the girl into, before the guy finds out anything,is not unbreakable bond... she should tel him from the start and be honest, he either would not mind or he will change his mind. its like selling a damaged goods to a customer and trying to rush the process so that he does not see the flaws, but soon as he finds out he will return it and ask for refund.

the problem with these girls these days they want to hide their ugly past from good miskiin guys thinking that will safe them they don't know such stuff could actually end a marriage.

[Saraxnow]

wadaad dude's are suckers, they wifey every trash

They probably don't mean to lol

how else do you explain then? there something about them dude's and their lack of having patience and making sure they settle with someone decent, they rush in and rush out; they are leading our community when it comes to divorce too

I understand they might rush in and rush out, but how are they the leading divorcees in our community? Wasn't that left to the older generation?

[1nemansquad]

I just don't think it bodes well to enter into such a sacred covenant withholding something from your partner

people make mistakes but there are certain things you're expected to honest about before you enter such relation and your past is one of them

Saraxnow, wadaad's get divorced in our community more any other group, don't take my word for it; go do a little research