How haraam is this?

daiman · Post by **daiman** » Mon May 21, 2012 7:33 am

Suppose you want to be with someone but suspect or even know that the person converts to Islam to be with you, but you want to stay with that person until that feelings fades....and you intend to hide him from your closest family. But meanwhile you are looking for someone who you feel that your family (and the society) would approve of. Is this haraam? is it like living in a sin?

serious answer please.

Colonel · Post by **Colonel** » Mon May 21, 2012 7:45 am

anyone who 'converts' to islam for a girl is as fake as a black girl's weave.

guy just wants to get in your bed sheets, don't fall for it.

daiman · Post by **daiman** » Mon May 21, 2012 7:54 am

Colonel wrote:anyone who 'converts' to islam for a girl is as fake as a black girl's weave.

guy just wants to get in your bed sheets, don't fall for it.

Thanks, my absame cousin.

Twist · Post by **Twist** » Mon May 21, 2012 8:01 am

Daiman, I don't mean to be rude or anything but that's just common sense. If someone wants to convert to any belief they should do so without any other conditions attached or the influence of external stuff.

There's that famous Hadith from Arba'in Nabawi (The 40 hadith's), I think it's the first hadith too, that the Prophet (BBUH) says that everyone's hijrah is for whatever he had done it for. I.e, if someone migrated to get rich or marry a woman, that's what his hijrah is for. So if you see or hear someone saying they'll become Muslim to marry someone, they've just proved what their intention is. They are becoming Muslim just to marry that person & not for the sake of being Muslim. Just

daiman · Post by **daiman** » Mon May 21, 2012 12:27 pm

Twist,
You are not rude. I do not easily take offence espcially when I asked a question.

Anyhow, the person would not say 'adigaan kuu muslimey', but you know from your heart this is the case. But the question is sometimes how to balance your desire to be with someone who loves you and you love. walk away? yes, as a Muslim that is what I should do, but it is kind of hard when the person is still in your face

kambuli · Post by **kambuli** » Mon May 21, 2012 12:35 pm

Yes it is a big big Xaraam..Let me explain what is Haraam..

You can't keep dating/talking to someone while looking for another one..It is decieving..You don't want the guy..just tell him so and look or wait for another one..

Mon May 21, 2012 12:51 pm

Colonel wrote:anyone who 'converts' to islam for a girl is as fake as a black girl's weave.

guy just wants to get in your bed sheets, don't fall for it.

Alot somali chicks were tricked

daiman wrote: but you want to stay with that person until that feelings fades....and you intend to hide him from your closest family. But meanwhile you are looking for someone who you feel that your family (and the society) would approve of. Is this haraam? is it like living in a sin?

Why do u wanna waist ur time on a dude u know u aint gonna marry him

Besides u know that the longer ur date a person..the more likely ur gonna do the jigy jigy

tightrope · Post by **tightrope** » Mon May 21, 2012 12:58 pm

Colonel wrote:anyone who 'converts' to islam for a girl is as fake as a black girl's weave.

guy just wants to get in your bed sheets, don't fall for it.

TOO BAD SOME SOMALIS GIRLS FALLS FOR TYRONE'S BULLSHIT

Post by **Smile-LiKe-SuN-RiSE** » Mon May 21, 2012 1:04 pm

tightrope wrote:
Colonel wrote:anyone who 'converts' to islam for a girl is as fake as a black girl's weave.

guy just wants to get in your bed sheets, don't fall for it.
TOO BAD SOME SOMALIS GIRLS FALLS FOR TYRONE'S BULLSHIT

And they funny thing is that they usually marry the ex convicts

Post by **qoraxeey** » Mon May 21, 2012 1:05 pm

kambuli wrote:Yes it is a big big Xaraam..Let me explain what is Haraam..

You can't keep dating/talking to someone while looking for another one..It is decieving..You don't want the guy..just tell him so and look or wait for another one..

Post by **Shirib** » Mon May 21, 2012 1:11 pm

feelings don't fade while you're with the person

metamorphosis · Post by **metamorphosis** » Mon May 21, 2012 1:20 pm

How can you be with a non muslim to begin with? I never understood people who date and be with a non muslim knowing that this person isnt muslim. And if he converts who is to say they wont convert back? I would advice you to make sure of your decisions. Dont let one mistake you make turn your life upside down. Find a muslim guy that you know instead of a non muslim.

Lillaahiya · Post by **Lillaahiya** » Mon May 21, 2012 1:52 pm

Isn't it xaraam to date?

xiimaaya · Post by **xiimaaya** » Mon May 21, 2012 2:01 pm

daiman wrote:Twist,
You are not rude. I do not easily take offence espcially when I asked a question.

Anyhow, the person would not say 'adigaan kuu muslimey', but you know from your heart this is the case. But the question is sometimes how to balance your desire to be with someone who loves you and you love. walk away? yes, as a Muslim that is what I should do, but it is kind of hard when the person is still in your face

He's probably F You already so whats the big deal? you are already have intimate releationship.. Just curious is he cadaan or madow?

if somali men find out trust me you would have pay him to marry you

Alphanumeric · Post by **Alphanumeric** » Mon May 21, 2012 2:02 pm

Lillaahiya wrote: Isn't it xaraam to date?

I have questions about this.

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